It's 10pm - do you know where your children are?

  Okay, so it's not actually 10pm right now.  But I do know where my children are.  We know because we had to threaten withholding placement just to get The Ex to follow the court order.

  The Ex likes to act as if Son and Daughter belong to her, like they're property rather than human beings.  She refuses to accept that Husband is their parent who loves and cares about them, and that he has a right to know what's going on with them and around them.  The Ex lives as if her decisions don't affect anyone else, and that's why she lost custody and will never get it back.

  I contacted Our Attorney about The Ex now living with Ned; I said Daughter had made comments about them living somewhere else and how Son wasn't with them because he'd rather be at The Ex's parents' house instead.  Our Attorney said we needed an address for where Son and Daughter would be while with The Ex.  I checked the court order from 10 years ago and surprisingly, it read:

"Both parties shall notify...the other party in writing of any change of address within 10 days of such change..."

  I honestly didn't even realize that was in there.  Now that I do, I realize that The Ex already violated this order when she first left Boyfriend - she moved out on April 10th and didn't tell Husband that she had moved until May 4th.  Now she'd been living with Ned for at least a few weeks and still hadn't said a word.  In fact, she hadn't said much of anything other than to complain about Son being required to pull his weight with his football team because it was "difficult and challenging" for her.

  Husband sent her a message on 2houses asking her to provide her new address or update it on the website.  The Ex didn't read it.

  Two days later, Husband sent another message with a form for Son's school pictures, saying Daughter wants to join volleyball, and reminding her that it's a court order to provide an address change and said that The Ex will not be exercising her placement until the new address is provided.  Again, The Ex did not read this message.

  Yesterday, Husband sends a text message saying that The Ex is not following the court order about communicating, she hasn't read six messages that he had sent over the last 3 weeks, and he would not be sending the kids with her if she wasn't going to tell him where she was living.  The Ex finally logged in to the website, read all the messages and replied:
"It's been very difficult for me to respond to your messages when I don't have a proper phone (She tried this crap last winter, telling the guardian ad litem that her phone didn't work; the GAL told her she needed to go back to her provider and get one that did work.  The last I knew, The Ex had a Samsung Galaxy S4 which is a "proper phone" in my opinion.  Maybe she went to a basic phone, I have no idea.  But that doesn't change the court order which requires her to check her email daily and to respond to any communication from Husband within 48 hours.) to have this downloaded. (2houses is a website.  You do not download a website.  She logged into 2houses on September 14th and read none of the messages that Husband had sent to her.) As both you and [my name, spelled wrong] know, I'm working minimum wage (How would we know this?  We only know where she's working because the kids told us that she works with Ned and we found out where Ned works; The Ex has never told us where she's employed or what she's earning.) and it's very hard for me to run to [cell phone provider] and get a new phone when 1-I have no extra money. (You have an extra $208 each month that you're not paying in child support.  But thank you for proving that you lied to Son and Daughter about us "taking all of your money" because we're not getting anything from you and your sorry ass is still broke.) 2-  I can't upgrade. (I don't care if you can upgrade today, tomorrow, next year or never.  The order requires you to respond to communication from Husband, that's the bottom line.  How you do it is not my problem; figure out a way to get it done.)
Our new address is [Ned's house address]
About the kids pictures, I am interested. (Husband sent her an order form for Son's pictures and told her to let him know what she wanted by Wednesday.)  When they have make up day, could you please let me know. (We asked if she wanted to order school pictures; she responds asking us to let her know when the school is having make up day.  Why would she need to know when make up day is?  I am so thoroughly confused right now...)
I'm sorry for all this mixed communication. (There hasn't been any communication, much less mixed communication.  You're ignoring Husband.  That's the only thing that's happening here.) I wasn't deliberately keeping any information from you. (Yes, you were.  If Husband hadn't asked for the new address three different times and threatened to withhold placement, you never would have told us that you moved.) Do you really think I wouldn't want to see our children? (Uhhh...nobody ever said that.) I want to see them more ("That's why I keep moving farther and farther away from them, because it's so much easier to see them and be involved in their lives.")"

  Husband replied and reminded her for the bajillionth time what the order says about responding to communication, points out that she logged into the site last week but never read his messages, and says she doesn't need to download anything to use a website.  Husband thanked her for the address and asked her to please follow the order in the future so we could avoid another court hearing.  Not that she'll actually do it, but this shows that Husband isn't just running back to court every week and filing for contempt; he tries and tries and tries to work with her, and she acts like a brain-dead monkey.

  And now I feel bad for insulting monkeys.