"You...need to put yourself in my shoes..."
Son came home from school on Friday, said he decided to join football after all. I tell him that Husband will send The Ex a message about it, but we all need to be on the same page - he is expected to help clean up after every game, not hop into a car and take off with his mom on her weekends. The coach already said something last year and wanted us to say something to The Ex about it; Son said he understood. Husband sent a message to The Ex saying that Son wanted to join football, he's expected to ride the bus back and help clean up after every game instead of leaving right away; Husband said to let him know what her thoughts were.
The 48-hour deadline would have been Sunday evening. The Ex finally replied after 100 hours and 12 minutes:
"My thoughts on playing football r... (....why....WHY is it SO hard for her to type like an adult?!)
1 I'm glad he's decided to play. (Okay, that's great. Even if you weren't, you replied in literally twice the time you were allowed to so you technically already agreed to it. I am also very fond of this sentence because it starts with a number, as if she's going to make multiple points; however, her train of thought once again derails and she doesn't use any more numbers after this.) With that, you and the coach are a little rediculous (*ridiculous) when you both need to put yourself in my shoes (I didn't realize they made shoes for cloven hooves, but I'm pretty sure that they won't fit Husband or Son's coach.) and realize how difficult and challenging it would be to drive 2 hours one way and 2 hours back. (Man, she's right. That would be totally difficult and challenging. That's why we don't move further and further away from our children; it's a novel concept. Additionally, what universe does she live in where it would take a different amount of time to get from A-B versus B-A? Like, if it took her two hours to get here it might take more or less time to get home again?) Also needing to consider the younger 2 children I have and there (*their) needs.(Wow, that statement really made an impact because Husband and I have no younger children that are close in age to The Ex's kids. Oh wait...yes, yes we do. Save me your crap about "there" needs and learn proper English while you're at it.)
My suggestion would be he either help bring gear onto the bus and help setup, (...does she not understand this is already being done?) so he is pulling his weight being part of the team (Oh dear heavens...if doing only half the work as everybody else is what she genuinely considers to be "teamwork" then I'm beginning to see why all of her marriages fail.), that way he can come home with me. (He can come with you - after he rides the bus back to his high school and helps his team.) Or, for the football season only, we switch weekends that he has home games. (Or, you didn't object to anything within the required time period so I'm not obligated to do anything you want.) Otherwise if we can't come to some agreement, I would unfortunately hate to have to only take [Daughter] then. (I'm cringing at this. It's so poorly written. And she would "unfortunately hate" to take only Daughter, but we know damn well she'd do it and then blame Husband for it.) I would have to leave [Son] with you that weekend.
Next month I'm having surgery. (Well, hello left field. Why would I care? Why would Husband care? Does it affect Son or Daughter?) Mom and (*/) or dad would be there (*their) primary pickup for our children for roughly a month. ("there primary pickup for our children." She undoubtedly typed this entire message on her own. Also, I don't care.) I wouldn't be able to drive. (I know what she's having surgery for; there are no restrictions on driving, definitely not for a month. And I still don't care because this has nothing to do with Son or Daughter.) Please take that also into consideration. (Consider that you scheduled surgery, can't take care of your kids and now your parents are picking up your slack? Same story as always, next topic.)
Thanks"
Husband replied and told her that Son is part of a team; this is about him and nobody else (Not The Ex, not The Ex's children, not The Ex's parents - this is about Son and him putting forth a team effort just like everyone else.) Husband said he'd send The Ex a schedule when he had one and reminded her, yet again, that the kids will be getting dropped off at 2pm.
And now, we wait.
The 48-hour deadline would have been Sunday evening. The Ex finally replied after 100 hours and 12 minutes:
"My thoughts on playing football r... (....why....WHY is it SO hard for her to type like an adult?!)
1 I'm glad he's decided to play. (Okay, that's great. Even if you weren't, you replied in literally twice the time you were allowed to so you technically already agreed to it. I am also very fond of this sentence because it starts with a number, as if she's going to make multiple points; however, her train of thought once again derails and she doesn't use any more numbers after this.) With that, you and the coach are a little rediculous (*ridiculous) when you both need to put yourself in my shoes (I didn't realize they made shoes for cloven hooves, but I'm pretty sure that they won't fit Husband or Son's coach.) and realize how difficult and challenging it would be to drive 2 hours one way and 2 hours back. (Man, she's right. That would be totally difficult and challenging. That's why we don't move further and further away from our children; it's a novel concept. Additionally, what universe does she live in where it would take a different amount of time to get from A-B versus B-A? Like, if it took her two hours to get here it might take more or less time to get home again?) Also needing to consider the younger 2 children I have and there (*their) needs.(Wow, that statement really made an impact because Husband and I have no younger children that are close in age to The Ex's kids. Oh wait...yes, yes we do. Save me your crap about "there" needs and learn proper English while you're at it.)
My suggestion would be he either help bring gear onto the bus and help setup, (...does she not understand this is already being done?) so he is pulling his weight being part of the team (Oh dear heavens...if doing only half the work as everybody else is what she genuinely considers to be "teamwork" then I'm beginning to see why all of her marriages fail.), that way he can come home with me. (He can come with you - after he rides the bus back to his high school and helps his team.) Or, for the football season only, we switch weekends that he has home games. (Or, you didn't object to anything within the required time period so I'm not obligated to do anything you want.) Otherwise if we can't come to some agreement, I would unfortunately hate to have to only take [Daughter] then. (I'm cringing at this. It's so poorly written. And she would "unfortunately hate" to take only Daughter, but we know damn well she'd do it and then blame Husband for it.) I would have to leave [Son] with you that weekend.
Next month I'm having surgery. (Well, hello left field. Why would I care? Why would Husband care? Does it affect Son or Daughter?) Mom and (*/) or dad would be there (*their) primary pickup for our children for roughly a month. ("there primary pickup for our children." She undoubtedly typed this entire message on her own. Also, I don't care.) I wouldn't be able to drive. (I know what she's having surgery for; there are no restrictions on driving, definitely not for a month. And I still don't care because this has nothing to do with Son or Daughter.) Please take that also into consideration. (Consider that you scheduled surgery, can't take care of your kids and now your parents are picking up your slack? Same story as always, next topic.)
Thanks"
Husband replied and told her that Son is part of a team; this is about him and nobody else (Not The Ex, not The Ex's children, not The Ex's parents - this is about Son and him putting forth a team effort just like everyone else.) Husband said he'd send The Ex a schedule when he had one and reminded her, yet again, that the kids will be getting dropped off at 2pm.
And now, we wait.
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