Ahhh, the agony...

  The Ex had her brother pick up Son on Friday.  He was, once again, half an hour early.  He also texted Son and told him to ask Husband if it was "okay" for him to park in front of our house while he waited. (It's a public street so you can park there as long as you want to.  Walk yourself up to the door and ask if you think there's going to be a problem, and quit putting the kids in the middle.)

  Sunday afternoon, Husband gets a message on 2houses:
"Next week Thursday, October 29th, (Okay...so THIS week, Thursday.) I pickup [Son]. (Do you also sedan, coupe, and convertible Son?  Or are you trying to say that you are going to pick up Son, which would be two separate words?) I was wondering if someone could pick him up at 3:15 at his school, or [my work]? (A)This has been on the calendar since July 22nd, B)I don't want you at my work, and C)you said you were picking up Son and are now asking if "someone" can pick him up.  Stay focused, The Ex.  I know it's hard, but let's give it a shot.) I'm willing to bring the kids home @ 3:30pm on Sunday. (She never brings them back on time and she never wants to bring them back early, so this is already suspicious.  I also love how she says she's "willing" to bring them.  She's asking to get Son two hours earlier but she's "willing" to bring the kids back early because she is just sooo generous.) Please let me know.  We have things going on at 6pm that night and I know [Son] wants to join us. (....you live two hours away, and made plans at 6pm knowing that Son was supposed to be getting picked up at 5:30pm??)
Thanks
[The Ex]" (I'm not going to lie - this chapped my ass because of the crap that just happened with her refusal to make an actual decision about Daughter's volleyball tournament.  Now, she wants to pick up Son early and is "willing" to bring them home early, but wait until 4 days before to ask about switching the schedule.)

  Husband read the message and figured he'd reply later.  After all, he's got 48 hours before he's required to get back to her and The Ex never even follows that guideline.

  Skip ahead two hours to exchange time.  We had gone over to watch movie at our neighbors' house when The Ex, Ned and Son pulled into the driveway and parked there. (I know it's petty and it shouldn't bother me, but it does.  Stay off my property.)  I happened to be in the house getting dinner for the younger kids; Son comes in the house calling for Husband.  I tell him that Husband is at the neighbors.  Son goes back outside and is talking to The Ex, who has gotten out of her car and is standing by our house.  Son texts and calls Husband, asking him to come home because The Ex wants to talk to him. (Once a-freaking-gain, stop putting the kids in the middle.)  Husband comes over; both The Ex and Ned are outside of the car. (I have no idea why the hell Ned got out; maybe The Ex wanted a "witness"...?)  This transpired:

The Ex:  Hey.
Husband:  What? (As in, "Why am I out here right now?")

The Ex:  So, [Daughter] has Grandparent's Day on Wednesday?

Husband:  Yeah, I believe so.

The Ex:  Um, 'cause sh- I was gonna come Wednesday and get her, but she wants Mom and Dad?

Daughter:  Grandma and Grandpa.

The Ex:  Well, are you gonna...let her....go home with them, I guess? (So now she wants Daughter to get picked up early as well, even though that wasn't mentioned two hours ago.)

Daughter:  They could just go to whoever lives...for two hours. (Daughter is saying that her grandparents can wait at someone else's house for her to be done with school.)

The Ex:  Um, but we had something going on at 6...Thursday.  So I was gonna see about.....coming for [Son] early Thursday. (That would be why you already sent a message asking the exact same thing that you're asking right now.)

Husband:  I don't know.

The Ex:  And then Sunday-

Husband:  I'll message you later.  (This is the first time he said it.)

The Ex:  Okay.  'Cause I was gonna just bring 'em home Sunday 'cause, you know, we got...[The Ex & Boyfriend's son] and [Daughter]- [The Ex & Boyfriend's daughter]... (She frequently refers to Daughter by her sister's name.  She can't keep track of her own children and which one of their fathers she's speaking to.) 

Husband:  I'll message you later. (Second time.)  'Cause you sent me a message, so I'll just message you later. (Third time.)

The Ex:  ...okay....well, let me know-

Husband:  Okay. 

The Ex:  -'cause Mom & Dad'll have to know too then, for when-

Husband:  That's fine.  I'll message you by the time I have to message you back. (Fourth time.  He had to say the exact same thing four different times before she would shut up.)

The Ex:  Okay.

  That's when it allll came together.  The Ex is not "willing" to drop off Son and Daughter early on Sunday; The Ex NEEDS to drop off Son and Daughter early on Sunday because she has to pick up her two youngest kids from Boyfriend's house and she can't be in two places at once.  This has nothing to do with Daughter "wanting" her grandparents to pick her up, or them "having plans at 6" that Son "wants to join them" for.  As it always has been and always will be, it's about The Ex and whatever works best for her.

  And when Husband tells her no, it's going to be all his fault.