"...before you blow up..."

  Yesterday, Husband sent a message to The Ex with an updated balance of what she owed him and asked her to please try to get caught up on the kids' medical bills.  She replied with, "Boo hoo, I'm not working, I had surgery, what are these bills for?"  Husband replied and explained how he reached said balance.

  This morning:
"You agreed to waive ALL past debts. (Actually no, he didn't.) Please review our agreement. (Don't need to; I know what it says.  Perhaps you should review it.) I'm sorry. (Forrrr...?  I know you're not actually sorry for anything, but I still want to ask.)
Plus, I'm not paying any variable expenses per court order we agreed upon. (1. You are correct, you are not paying variable expenses.  2. Stop trying to sound smart because even if you disagreed but it was court ordered, you'd still have to do it.) That order was agreed and signed by both of us in July of this year." (Once again, The Ex is claiming there are things in the order that don't exist because that's just what she wants it to be.)"

  One minute later:
"I don't want to argue about this, so before you blow up (The Ex said in writing that she was talking to me "like a little child."  The Ex told Husband in writing he was throwing "a fit" because he typed two sentences.  The Ex is constantly making accusations, using derogatory terms, and shouting by text.  But please, tell me more about how Husband is always "blowing up.") about the message I just replied to, PLEASE review our agreement.  Thank You" (It always astounds me how fast she can type when she's pissed off.)

  Husband was on break, read her messages and replied.  He explained there's nothing to argue about but it seems that she's confused about what is a court order and what they agreed to; he clarifies that she was previously ordered to pay 50% of medical bills for the kids and 32% of variable expenses, so they're two entirely different things.  He quoted directly from her message when she asked him to waive the amount of variable expenses he had previously requested her to pay; he quoted directly from the court order reading that he waived the previously requested amount of variable expenses.  He stated that he had waived the variables and was not asking her to pay those, but she was still required to pay 50% of the kids' medical bills because that's what they agreed to and that's what is court ordered.

  She lives two hours away, but I'm pretty sure I can smell the smoke coming out of her ears.

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