You're bugging what, you're bugging who? You're bugging me and don't you see it ain't cool (Shout out to old school Destiny's Child)
Things have been so quiet. So very, very nice and quiet. And without warning, The Ex suddenly decided that she had lots and lots of things to talk about all at one time.
Husband had previously sent a message letting The Ex know that she would need to take Son & Daughter to their orthodontist appointments during the summer because they would be with her the majority of the time; Husband asked if she could let him know what was the most convenient day and time for her to take them so he could get the appointments set up. The Ex replied that her boss asked for three weeks' notice and she could probably get off that date, but a Thursday or Friday would be better. Husband replied saying he'd put the appointments on the calendar after they were made. This all happened over two weeks ago.
Then yesterday at 1:43pm:
"If the appointments will be in June and July(The first sentence of Husband's original message said that Son and Daughter needed to go in the first weeks of June and July. There was no "if" about it.), please make them later in the day. [The Ex's daughter] will be signing up for summer school. (Well, you could have just said the appointment needed to be later in the day and left it at that. I suppose we should just be grateful that she at least said something, rather than waiting until the last second and then refusing to take them because it suddenly didn't fit into her schedule.) After 2:30pm (...after 2:30pm, what? That's when your daughter gets done with summer school? That's when you're available? The appointment can be at 2:30pm or you wouldn't be able to leave your house until 2:30pm? You know what, never mind - we'll figure it out because it's too much work to ask you to explain yourself in plain English.)
Thanks"
Then at 1:47pm:
"On the calendar for April 11th, the time for [event] is from 3:30pm-6:30pm. Is that correct? (This event has been on the calendar since February 16th. Now on April 10th, she is asking about it for the first time.) [Daughter] just told me it started later. (Well, that's news to me. I was going to go after work so a time change really doesn't affect me at all.) Could you please let me know tomorrow morning with a quick text? (...no. No, Husband cannot. Would you like to know why? Because he is your ex-husband and not your secretary. It is not his job to take your questions, get answers for them, and then provide you with the information that you are too lazy to get for yourself.)
Thanks"
Then at 1:53pm:
"[Daughter] has her [group activity] on the weekend of May 6th. (This event has also been on the calendar since February 16th.) Since it's been about a month since I've seen them, (meaning this weekend) I would like to switch weekends of May 6th with April 29th. (....what? What does this weekend have to do with something that's happening in 3 weeks? Why can't you just say you want to switch weekends? Why do you insist on complicating this?) I would rather have both [Son] and [Daughter] instead of just one of them. (Then come pick up Daughter when the event is over. Or pick up both of them at the same time. And yeah, you really wanted both of them when you repeatedly left Daughter here on your weekends because her games were too inconvenient for you.) Please let me know.
Thanks"
Husband didn't reply to the first message because he had already told The Ex that the appointments are usually made 4 weeks in advance; the appointments are not made so there's nothing to reply with at this point.
Husband replied to the second message and stated that he put the information on the calendar as it was given to him; he had not heard of a time change and stated that the school could answer any questions The Ex may have.
Husband replied to the third message, said there was something going on the night of April 29th so if they switched, The Ex would not be able to pick up the kids until after 6:15pm. He also pointed out that May 8th was Mother's Day and asked if they switched weekends, would the kids would be staying here that day?
The Ex replied this morning at 10:38am:
"No. Switching weekends of May 6th isn't good. (If it's not good, then why did you ask for it?) I completely forgot about Mother's Day. (This...I just....no.) The only problem with the weekend of May 6th iSt, I would come at 11am on Saturday to pickup both kids if that would work for you. (That's the "only problem"? Or did she get lost in her own thoughts again and forget where her conversation was heading?) Then we wouldn't switch weekends. (Okay, fine. Then we won't.) I would just miss out one day with them. (You're correct, if you do not pick them up then you miss out on your time with them.) I don't want to try and ask for any makeup day either(Would you like to ask for a perfume day instead of a makeup day?), just because of arguments that will arise of (*from, not of) me asking. (Okay, but you super passive-aggressively just asked for a "makeup" day that you're not going to ask for.) I hate the you can't do this, or you can't make it up bull crap I know I'll hear.(Choosing not to exercise your placement does not entitle you to different time at your earliest convenience. If you want to believe that is "bull crap" then so be it. Also, learn how to use quotation marks if you're going to pretend that someone is speaking in your sentences.) I know by law; I have 24 hours to pickup and/or drop off kids. (Actually, you do not. You are required by court order to pick up and drop off at 5:30pm. I think she's referring to the fact that it's a felony in this state if a parent withholds 24 hours past their placement period; anything less than 24 hours and the police will tell you it's a civil matter and needs to be brought to court. She is once again trying to interpret the law as she wants it to be and is failing, as she frequently does.) I'm dealing with this with [Boyfriend]. (I literally could not give any less of a damn than I do about what you're "dealing with" with your second divorce because it has nothing to do with this situation. That's your mess and has nothing to do with me, Husband, or anyone and anything else in our home.)
So, we're not switching weekends. (Alright, then we won't.) And I'll be there at 11am for both kids on May 7th (Okay, sounds great.) unless Dad could drive down 1 day and pick up one or the other child on Friday. (Um...so which is it? Are you coming both days or just on Saturday?)
Thanks"
Husband replied and told her he's confused about what she wants and pointed out the excessive flip-flop she's doing. Husband said she's accusing him of arguing or says she knows she's going to hear "bull crap" from him when all he's done is tried communicating with her about what she asked for. Husband said he doesn't know what law she's referring to about having 24 hours to pick up or drop off their kids; he said the court-ordered time is 5:30pm unless they both agreed to something different. Husband said her situation with Boyfriend has nothing to do with Son or Daughter. Husband told her if she wanted to come Saturday morning, that would be fine; if she wanted to come Friday and Saturday, that would be fine. Husband asked her to please figure out what she was doing and to let him know so he could have the kids where they needed to be for placement exchange.
This could all be so very easy but she insists on complicating it every single chance she gets. Life should not be this freaking hard.
Husband had previously sent a message letting The Ex know that she would need to take Son & Daughter to their orthodontist appointments during the summer because they would be with her the majority of the time; Husband asked if she could let him know what was the most convenient day and time for her to take them so he could get the appointments set up. The Ex replied that her boss asked for three weeks' notice and she could probably get off that date, but a Thursday or Friday would be better. Husband replied saying he'd put the appointments on the calendar after they were made. This all happened over two weeks ago.
Then yesterday at 1:43pm:
"If the appointments will be in June and July(The first sentence of Husband's original message said that Son and Daughter needed to go in the first weeks of June and July. There was no "if" about it.), please make them later in the day. [The Ex's daughter] will be signing up for summer school. (Well, you could have just said the appointment needed to be later in the day and left it at that. I suppose we should just be grateful that she at least said something, rather than waiting until the last second and then refusing to take them because it suddenly didn't fit into her schedule.) After 2:30pm (...after 2:30pm, what? That's when your daughter gets done with summer school? That's when you're available? The appointment can be at 2:30pm or you wouldn't be able to leave your house until 2:30pm? You know what, never mind - we'll figure it out because it's too much work to ask you to explain yourself in plain English.)
Thanks"
Then at 1:47pm:
"On the calendar for April 11th, the time for [event] is from 3:30pm-6:30pm. Is that correct? (This event has been on the calendar since February 16th. Now on April 10th, she is asking about it for the first time.) [Daughter] just told me it started later. (Well, that's news to me. I was going to go after work so a time change really doesn't affect me at all.) Could you please let me know tomorrow morning with a quick text? (...no. No, Husband cannot. Would you like to know why? Because he is your ex-husband and not your secretary. It is not his job to take your questions, get answers for them, and then provide you with the information that you are too lazy to get for yourself.)
Thanks"
Then at 1:53pm:
"[Daughter] has her [group activity] on the weekend of May 6th. (This event has also been on the calendar since February 16th.) Since it's been about a month since I've seen them, (meaning this weekend) I would like to switch weekends of May 6th with April 29th. (....what? What does this weekend have to do with something that's happening in 3 weeks? Why can't you just say you want to switch weekends? Why do you insist on complicating this?) I would rather have both [Son] and [Daughter] instead of just one of them. (Then come pick up Daughter when the event is over. Or pick up both of them at the same time. And yeah, you really wanted both of them when you repeatedly left Daughter here on your weekends because her games were too inconvenient for you.) Please let me know.
Thanks"
Husband didn't reply to the first message because he had already told The Ex that the appointments are usually made 4 weeks in advance; the appointments are not made so there's nothing to reply with at this point.
Husband replied to the second message and stated that he put the information on the calendar as it was given to him; he had not heard of a time change and stated that the school could answer any questions The Ex may have.
Husband replied to the third message, said there was something going on the night of April 29th so if they switched, The Ex would not be able to pick up the kids until after 6:15pm. He also pointed out that May 8th was Mother's Day and asked if they switched weekends, would the kids would be staying here that day?
The Ex replied this morning at 10:38am:
"No. Switching weekends of May 6th isn't good. (If it's not good, then why did you ask for it?) I completely forgot about Mother's Day. (This...I just....no.) The only problem with the weekend of May 6th iSt, I would come at 11am on Saturday to pickup both kids if that would work for you. (That's the "only problem"? Or did she get lost in her own thoughts again and forget where her conversation was heading?) Then we wouldn't switch weekends. (Okay, fine. Then we won't.) I would just miss out one day with them. (You're correct, if you do not pick them up then you miss out on your time with them.) I don't want to try and ask for any makeup day either(Would you like to ask for a perfume day instead of a makeup day?), just because of arguments that will arise of (*from, not of) me asking. (Okay, but you super passive-aggressively just asked for a "makeup" day that you're not going to ask for.) I hate the you can't do this, or you can't make it up bull crap I know I'll hear.(Choosing not to exercise your placement does not entitle you to different time at your earliest convenience. If you want to believe that is "bull crap" then so be it. Also, learn how to use quotation marks if you're going to pretend that someone is speaking in your sentences.) I know by law; I have 24 hours to pickup and/or drop off kids. (Actually, you do not. You are required by court order to pick up and drop off at 5:30pm. I think she's referring to the fact that it's a felony in this state if a parent withholds 24 hours past their placement period; anything less than 24 hours and the police will tell you it's a civil matter and needs to be brought to court. She is once again trying to interpret the law as she wants it to be and is failing, as she frequently does.) I'm dealing with this with [Boyfriend]. (I literally could not give any less of a damn than I do about what you're "dealing with" with your second divorce because it has nothing to do with this situation. That's your mess and has nothing to do with me, Husband, or anyone and anything else in our home.)
So, we're not switching weekends. (Alright, then we won't.) And I'll be there at 11am for both kids on May 7th (Okay, sounds great.) unless Dad could drive down 1 day and pick up one or the other child on Friday. (Um...so which is it? Are you coming both days or just on Saturday?)
Thanks"
Husband replied and told her he's confused about what she wants and pointed out the excessive flip-flop she's doing. Husband said she's accusing him of arguing or says she knows she's going to hear "bull crap" from him when all he's done is tried communicating with her about what she asked for. Husband said he doesn't know what law she's referring to about having 24 hours to pick up or drop off their kids; he said the court-ordered time is 5:30pm unless they both agreed to something different. Husband said her situation with Boyfriend has nothing to do with Son or Daughter. Husband told her if she wanted to come Saturday morning, that would be fine; if she wanted to come Friday and Saturday, that would be fine. Husband asked her to please figure out what she was doing and to let him know so he could have the kids where they needed to be for placement exchange.
This could all be so very easy but she insists on complicating it every single chance she gets. Life should not be this freaking hard.
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