It took me two days to understand.
Daughter has started volleyball for this year; everything has been on the calendar for well over a month, and The Ex was told on August 9th that she was responsible for picking up Daughter this past Wednesday when practice ended.
On Tuesday, Daughter's coach made an announcement that practice was going to end at 5pm the following evening rather than at 6pm as originally scheduled. Daughter told me this when I picked her up; I believe she was already texting The Ex to let her know but I said Husband would email her about the change. We got home, Husband updated the calendar on 2houses, and sent a message about the earlier finish time.
Forty-six minutes later:
"Mom and dad (*Dad) want to watch [Daughter] practice. ("I'm too lazy to come get Daughter, so my parents will be doing it for me. I will make it seem like this is what they want, rather than just them compensating for my deadbeat parenting as they always do.") Since there (*they're) picking her up I hope she can leave with them following practice." (One of my friends asked, "Does she do drugs? 'Since there picking her up, I hope they can pick her up?'")
Husband replied within minutes, asking why Daughter would not be able to leave with The Ex's parents. The Ex read the message twenty-one minutes after it was sent, said nothing.
I tried to understand this. I really, really, really tried. I thought maybe The Ex was implying that Husband would not allow Daughter to leave with her grandparents, seeing as The Ex isn't allowing Boyfriend's family to see the kids they share since "Boyfriend is the one with visitation, not his family" and Boyfriend is still in jail. I thought maybe The Ex thought that the school wouldn't let Daughter leave with her grandparents unless Husband gave them some form of consent. Nothing made sense.
Then, two days later, it dawned on me: placement exchange regularly takes place at 5:30pm. The Ex was hinting-but-not-asking if Husband would let her parents leave with Daughter at 5pm instead of 5:30pm.
What The Ex is just. not. smart enough to realize is that this wasn't a regular placement exchange. This was HER time with Daughter; just because she chose to leave Daughter here with us doesn't change that. The thought of keeping Daughter for an extra half an hour never even crossed my mind, because it's just petty and not worth my time. But of course, this is what The Ex would do if the roles were reversed so she assumes that it's what we were planning on doing.
She's so incredibly ridiculous.
On Tuesday, Daughter's coach made an announcement that practice was going to end at 5pm the following evening rather than at 6pm as originally scheduled. Daughter told me this when I picked her up; I believe she was already texting The Ex to let her know but I said Husband would email her about the change. We got home, Husband updated the calendar on 2houses, and sent a message about the earlier finish time.
Forty-six minutes later:
"Mom and dad (*Dad) want to watch [Daughter] practice. ("I'm too lazy to come get Daughter, so my parents will be doing it for me. I will make it seem like this is what they want, rather than just them compensating for my deadbeat parenting as they always do.") Since there (*they're) picking her up I hope she can leave with them following practice." (One of my friends asked, "Does she do drugs? 'Since there picking her up, I hope they can pick her up?'")
Husband replied within minutes, asking why Daughter would not be able to leave with The Ex's parents. The Ex read the message twenty-one minutes after it was sent, said nothing.
I tried to understand this. I really, really, really tried. I thought maybe The Ex was implying that Husband would not allow Daughter to leave with her grandparents, seeing as The Ex isn't allowing Boyfriend's family to see the kids they share since "Boyfriend is the one with visitation, not his family" and Boyfriend is still in jail. I thought maybe The Ex thought that the school wouldn't let Daughter leave with her grandparents unless Husband gave them some form of consent. Nothing made sense.
Then, two days later, it dawned on me: placement exchange regularly takes place at 5:30pm. The Ex was hinting-but-not-asking if Husband would let her parents leave with Daughter at 5pm instead of 5:30pm.
What The Ex is just. not. smart enough to realize is that this wasn't a regular placement exchange. This was HER time with Daughter; just because she chose to leave Daughter here with us doesn't change that. The thought of keeping Daughter for an extra half an hour never even crossed my mind, because it's just petty and not worth my time. But of course, this is what The Ex would do if the roles were reversed so she assumes that it's what we were planning on doing.
She's so incredibly ridiculous.
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