She is a complete dick.
At the end of September, the kids don't have school on Friday which means that Son & Daughter would get picked up on Thursday night. However, Daughter has practice Friday afternoon. The Ex's brother is also getting married that weekend, nearly 2 hours from where they all live. Then Son & Daughter would have to come back to our house on Sunday evening. What this boils down to is that The Ex will be doing somewhere around 14-16 hours of driving that weekend.
Daughter tells me yesterday that The Ex wants her to skip practice at the end of the month because she "doesn't want to drive that much that weekend." I looked at Daughter and said, "...then don't move two hours away." Daughter replied, "Right?!" (I typically do not say anything about The Ex that could be perceived in a negative way, but Daughter's reaction confirmed that she is not the idiot that her mother wishes she was - she can see her mother's true colors.) Daughter and I continued talking about this and I told her that I honestly do not care what her mother does, but when she starts telling the kids to miss practices/games, or miss out on activities here, or miss out on things with their friends, then I care because that's not fair to her or Son.
Daughter also asked if she could stay with us this weekend because a teammate invited her to a sleepover birthday party. I told her that Husband would email The Ex and ask. Daughter hemmed and hawwed a little bit, commented that The Ex had passes to a water park but she wasn't sure which weekend they were going to be using them; I told her we'd ask and if The Ex said no, then she said no.
Last night, Husband emails about the birthday party and also mentions that Daughter will need to ride the bus with her team for the away games; he mentions that this is the same as when Son played football. (Reminder: when Husband told her this last time, The Ex said that he and the coach were being "rediculous" and that they needed to consider how difficult that would be for her.)
Eighty minutes later:
"That's fine if [Daughter] wants to stay behind. ("Stay behind"? I've never heard someone make a sleepover sound like a complete disappointment.) Just let her know that we'll be using those free [waterpark name] tickets on Sunday. (So, throw in her face that you're doing something without her unless she ditches her friends? I'm not doing that because as bad as you think I am, I'm an infinitely better parent than you are and actually care how my child feels.) And also let her know, that we're not making extra trips to pick her up. (At no point did Daughter EVER ask The Ex to make "extra trips" to pick her up. The Ex chose to make multiple trips.) I can't ask mom and dad to help anymore. (You shouldn't have asked to begin with; they are grandparents and not responsible for your children.) There (*they're - the irony is that she sent a second message a few minutes later and used "their" appropriately.) not doing so well. (Sorry about your parents. Still has nothing to do with Daughter or Son.)
As for her taking the bus to away games, I hope she can leave with me. (First, let's all have a moment of silence for the appropriate use of a comma. She did it, you guys. Second, I literally just told you that Daughter needs to ride the bus. I don't know what you're refusing to understand about that.) Please have what ever forms need to be signed sent with [Son] on Friday. (Um...) Thanks"
Husband replied and said being part of a team means helping & participating as much as the rest of the team did; he said if Daughter has a legitimate reason not to ride the bus then the form can be filled out but she would otherwise be required to ride with her team.
I honestly cannot believe what a selfish cow this woman is.
Daughter tells me yesterday that The Ex wants her to skip practice at the end of the month because she "doesn't want to drive that much that weekend." I looked at Daughter and said, "...then don't move two hours away." Daughter replied, "Right?!" (I typically do not say anything about The Ex that could be perceived in a negative way, but Daughter's reaction confirmed that she is not the idiot that her mother wishes she was - she can see her mother's true colors.) Daughter and I continued talking about this and I told her that I honestly do not care what her mother does, but when she starts telling the kids to miss practices/games, or miss out on activities here, or miss out on things with their friends, then I care because that's not fair to her or Son.
Daughter also asked if she could stay with us this weekend because a teammate invited her to a sleepover birthday party. I told her that Husband would email The Ex and ask. Daughter hemmed and hawwed a little bit, commented that The Ex had passes to a water park but she wasn't sure which weekend they were going to be using them; I told her we'd ask and if The Ex said no, then she said no.
Last night, Husband emails about the birthday party and also mentions that Daughter will need to ride the bus with her team for the away games; he mentions that this is the same as when Son played football. (Reminder: when Husband told her this last time, The Ex said that he and the coach were being "rediculous" and that they needed to consider how difficult that would be for her.)
Eighty minutes later:
"That's fine if [Daughter] wants to stay behind. ("Stay behind"? I've never heard someone make a sleepover sound like a complete disappointment.) Just let her know that we'll be using those free [waterpark name] tickets on Sunday. (So, throw in her face that you're doing something without her unless she ditches her friends? I'm not doing that because as bad as you think I am, I'm an infinitely better parent than you are and actually care how my child feels.) And also let her know, that we're not making extra trips to pick her up. (At no point did Daughter EVER ask The Ex to make "extra trips" to pick her up. The Ex chose to make multiple trips.) I can't ask mom and dad to help anymore. (You shouldn't have asked to begin with; they are grandparents and not responsible for your children.) There (*they're - the irony is that she sent a second message a few minutes later and used "their" appropriately.) not doing so well. (Sorry about your parents. Still has nothing to do with Daughter or Son.)
As for her taking the bus to away games, I hope she can leave with me. (First, let's all have a moment of silence for the appropriate use of a comma. She did it, you guys. Second, I literally just told you that Daughter needs to ride the bus. I don't know what you're refusing to understand about that.) Please have what ever forms need to be signed sent with [Son] on Friday. (Um...) Thanks"
Husband replied and said being part of a team means helping & participating as much as the rest of the team did; he said if Daughter has a legitimate reason not to ride the bus then the form can be filled out but she would otherwise be required to ride with her team.
I honestly cannot believe what a selfish cow this woman is.
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