Wow.
The Ex is being a downright bitch to Daughter. Between the water park passes and saying she's not making extra trips to what I'm about to blog about, she is just being plain rotten to her own child. I feel as if I should have been better prepared for this day but I think my morals keep hoping/wishing that The Ex will just. get. it. together.
Homecoming for Son & Daughter is on The Ex's placement weekend. Originally Son wasn't sure if he was going but Daughter said she wanted to go. In fact, she told The Ex that she wanted to go. I told Son to decide if he was going or not because if he was, then Husband would ask The Ex about switching that weekend with another; if he was not going, then Husband would just ask if Daughter could stay here. Son decided not to go so Husband sent a change request on 2houses with the reason for the request as, "[Daughter] would like to stay here the weekend of September 24th for homecoming."
The Ex did not accept or reject the change request; she logged into 2houses and sent a message:
"If [Daughter] wants to go to Homecoming, that's fine. Please remind her, that weekend is our annual [event]. (There's an annual get-together that Ned & his friend have been hosting for 13 years. Ned & The Ex have been dating for less than a year and a half. I don't understand how this event is "theirs" when The Ex has attended an entire one time. I guess because she lives there now, it becomes her event too...or something.) And I would really like her to be there." (So Daughter's choice is to either go spend the weekend at Ned's house watching the younger kids while The Ex co-hosts a party, or go to homecoming with her friends.)
Four minutes after telling Husband that it was fine for Daughter to go to homecoming, The Ex texted this to Daughter:
"I do expect you to come to moms (*Mom's. Once again, referring to herself in the third person.) if you don't go to Homecoming. (Apparently, The Ex felt that Daughter was on the fence about if she wanted to attend to homecoming or not. She also felt that it was necessary to state that if Daughter chose not to go, she was expected to come to Ned's house. I take this to mean that The Ex recognizes that Daughter really would prefer to stay here, but she won't allow that.) We're having our Annual [event] that weekend of the 24th. (Daughter knew this because Ned invited her to the Facebook event letting people know about it. It's ironic that The Ex tells Husband that she wants Daughter to come to the event, but Ned is the one who invited her.) If your (*you're) actually going, have fun. (....why would any of us lie about Daughter "actually" going to homecoming? Does The Ex think that Daughter wants to stay away from her that badly that we'd make all of this up?) Mom won't c u in a month. (Omfg...why in the living hell are these kids not allowed to do anything without her making them feel bad about it?!)"
Daughter got the text message and told us she was going to homecoming - no hesitation, no questioning what to do, no taking time to think about it. She wants to stay here and go with her friends; that's the end of it. Clearly she is old enough, strong enough, and mature enough not to buy into her mother's manipulation anymore. I am still praying that Son finds the strength to do the same thing because no child deserves to be continually treated like this, particularly by their own mother.
Homecoming for Son & Daughter is on The Ex's placement weekend. Originally Son wasn't sure if he was going but Daughter said she wanted to go. In fact, she told The Ex that she wanted to go. I told Son to decide if he was going or not because if he was, then Husband would ask The Ex about switching that weekend with another; if he was not going, then Husband would just ask if Daughter could stay here. Son decided not to go so Husband sent a change request on 2houses with the reason for the request as, "[Daughter] would like to stay here the weekend of September 24th for homecoming."
The Ex did not accept or reject the change request; she logged into 2houses and sent a message:
"If [Daughter] wants to go to Homecoming, that's fine. Please remind her, that weekend is our annual [event]. (There's an annual get-together that Ned & his friend have been hosting for 13 years. Ned & The Ex have been dating for less than a year and a half. I don't understand how this event is "theirs" when The Ex has attended an entire one time. I guess because she lives there now, it becomes her event too...or something.) And I would really like her to be there." (So Daughter's choice is to either go spend the weekend at Ned's house watching the younger kids while The Ex co-hosts a party, or go to homecoming with her friends.)
Four minutes after telling Husband that it was fine for Daughter to go to homecoming, The Ex texted this to Daughter:
"I do expect you to come to moms (*Mom's. Once again, referring to herself in the third person.) if you don't go to Homecoming. (Apparently, The Ex felt that Daughter was on the fence about if she wanted to attend to homecoming or not. She also felt that it was necessary to state that if Daughter chose not to go, she was expected to come to Ned's house. I take this to mean that The Ex recognizes that Daughter really would prefer to stay here, but she won't allow that.) We're having our Annual [event] that weekend of the 24th. (Daughter knew this because Ned invited her to the Facebook event letting people know about it. It's ironic that The Ex tells Husband that she wants Daughter to come to the event, but Ned is the one who invited her.) If your (*you're) actually going, have fun. (....why would any of us lie about Daughter "actually" going to homecoming? Does The Ex think that Daughter wants to stay away from her that badly that we'd make all of this up?) Mom won't c u in a month. (Omfg...why in the living hell are these kids not allowed to do anything without her making them feel bad about it?!)"
Daughter got the text message and told us she was going to homecoming - no hesitation, no questioning what to do, no taking time to think about it. She wants to stay here and go with her friends; that's the end of it. Clearly she is old enough, strong enough, and mature enough not to buy into her mother's manipulation anymore. I am still praying that Son finds the strength to do the same thing because no child deserves to be continually treated like this, particularly by their own mother.
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