She just can't stop blaming him.
Last week, Daughter had practice at her school until 5:30pm; this also happens to be the exact placement exchange time. The day that Son and Daughter were supposed to get picked up by The Ex, she started messaging both of them asking where they were supposed to get picked up and said that Husband hadn't said anything to her.
Initially, I thought we should maybe just let it go because it's just the same old crap with her - she doesn't pay attention to what's going on, blames Husband for her ignorance, repeat. But I decided that I'd like some form of answer; the calendar showed Daughter would be in School City until 5:30pm, so why was The Ex confused? Husband messaged her saying the calendar has shown since July that Daughter had practice until 5:30pm, they got done early, Son & Daughter said The Ex was already going to Our City, I decided to bring them to our house rather than leave them at the school to wait for The Ex, and then The Ex was upset that we weren't home at exactly 5:30. Husband asked what more she felt he could have told her, or what she was confused about.
The Ex replied in one hour and thirteen minutes:
"Do you actually see what your writing (Yes, I do...because I wrote it.) and how your responding to something (Yes, your confusion is confusing so I'm asking you to clarify.) I had no clue what was going on. (Okay, but that's not my fault. You're responsible for transportation, not me.) Kids wanted me to pick them up (This is truly irrelevant because even if the kids didn't want you to pick them up, it was your placement weekend and they would have gone with you anyway.) and I told them both you hadn't said anything to me about picking them up at the school when they wanted me to. (So when I told you that they'll be at the high school until 5:30pm, you understood that to mean you should be at my house at 5:30pm? That completely makes sense. If the kids wanted you to pick them up at school, why would you go to my house?) If I had picked up the kids at the school and you didn't know....You know what would have happened. (Um, we knew it was your placement weekend and they were getting picked up. Why wouldn't I know about that? The only thing that would have happened is that you would have had them at 5:30pm and not 5:38pm.) So, quit putting me down (....what??? Is this her new thing, always accusing people of putting her down?) and stop acting inferior to me.(Irony at its finest.)"
Husband replied and said this is the second time she's told him to stop putting her down when he hasn't said anything negative. He said he's asking questions about how she got confused so that it doesn't happen again. He said he doesn't know what she's talking about because she's picked up the kids from their school in the past without a problem and if that's what the kids wanted, then why didn't she do it? He said the calendar has shown since July that Daughter was supposed to be in School City until 5:30pm; she waited until the day she was picking them up, then asked the kids about it and said he hadn't told her anything. Again, why was she confused or upset when she had the same information that everyone else had, and what more did she think that he should have told her?
I expect either a)no reply or b)a reply that never answers Husband's questions but makes sure to insult him and/or I while telling us how mean we are to her. There will be nothing in between.
Initially, I thought we should maybe just let it go because it's just the same old crap with her - she doesn't pay attention to what's going on, blames Husband for her ignorance, repeat. But I decided that I'd like some form of answer; the calendar showed Daughter would be in School City until 5:30pm, so why was The Ex confused? Husband messaged her saying the calendar has shown since July that Daughter had practice until 5:30pm, they got done early, Son & Daughter said The Ex was already going to Our City, I decided to bring them to our house rather than leave them at the school to wait for The Ex, and then The Ex was upset that we weren't home at exactly 5:30. Husband asked what more she felt he could have told her, or what she was confused about.
The Ex replied in one hour and thirteen minutes:
"Do you actually see what your writing (Yes, I do...because I wrote it.) and how your responding to something (Yes, your confusion is confusing so I'm asking you to clarify.) I had no clue what was going on. (Okay, but that's not my fault. You're responsible for transportation, not me.) Kids wanted me to pick them up (This is truly irrelevant because even if the kids didn't want you to pick them up, it was your placement weekend and they would have gone with you anyway.) and I told them both you hadn't said anything to me about picking them up at the school when they wanted me to. (So when I told you that they'll be at the high school until 5:30pm, you understood that to mean you should be at my house at 5:30pm? That completely makes sense. If the kids wanted you to pick them up at school, why would you go to my house?) If I had picked up the kids at the school and you didn't know....You know what would have happened. (Um, we knew it was your placement weekend and they were getting picked up. Why wouldn't I know about that? The only thing that would have happened is that you would have had them at 5:30pm and not 5:38pm.) So, quit putting me down (....what??? Is this her new thing, always accusing people of putting her down?) and stop acting inferior to me.(Irony at its finest.)"
Husband replied and said this is the second time she's told him to stop putting her down when he hasn't said anything negative. He said he's asking questions about how she got confused so that it doesn't happen again. He said he doesn't know what she's talking about because she's picked up the kids from their school in the past without a problem and if that's what the kids wanted, then why didn't she do it? He said the calendar has shown since July that Daughter was supposed to be in School City until 5:30pm; she waited until the day she was picking them up, then asked the kids about it and said he hadn't told her anything. Again, why was she confused or upset when she had the same information that everyone else had, and what more did she think that he should have told her?
I expect either a)no reply or b)a reply that never answers Husband's questions but makes sure to insult him and/or I while telling us how mean we are to her. There will be nothing in between.
She sounds just like my husband's ex. She always says something about how he needs to respect her when he's asked a question or called her out. She says he's controlling, while she's trying to control how he writes to her. Lol. These women are so batty!
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