That darn cat.
For those of you who don't remember or are just beginning this blog, The Ex got two cats after she and Husband split up; this was sometime around 2005-2006. She took the cats with her when she relocated from Hometown to New City when she moved in with Boyfriend in 2007.
In 2010, Son told us that The Ex was getting rid of the cats because she was spending "way too much money on them every month. (At that time, she still had her van which had a monthly payment of $582. But she told the kids she was getting rid of the cats because that's an expense she can't afford.) Shortly after this was announced, The Ex had laser eye surgery which she told Husband cost her $3,700. (But again, the cats are costing too much money.) Somewhere along the line, the cats ended up with one of The Ex's cousins.
Within a year or two, Son commented that he wasn't happy with The Ex's cousin. I asked what was wrong; Son said that the cousin was only supposed to keep the cats for a little while, and then give them back. (This is just the most bizarre thing I've ever heard. "Take my cats for one to two years, and then return them to me." I can see a few days, or maybe even weeks, or possibly a few months. But years??) Every time the cousin would post a picture of one or both of the cats, The Ex would come along with a weird comment.
Cat 1 playing with the cousin's nephews:
"We miss the cats. [Son] cryed last time I picked him up about the cats. (Oh, bullsh*t...you gave the cats away a year and a half ago.) He realy wants to stop by and see them. I get the kids on Friday. R u going to b home @ 6 pm?"
Cat 1 laying with the cousin's niece and nephews:
"yeah she was good with all us but not with other kids and people" (The cat was laying with three children and The Ex is claiming that it's not good with other people...?)
Cat 1 laying on the cousin's nephew:
"That's why [Son] wants them back. He misses them." (The cousin actually replied that the cats were driving her crazy and that The Ex could have them back if she wanted. Of course, that didn't happen but it certainly couldn't be The Ex's fault...)
Cat 1 staring into a fish tank:
"be careful, he ate 2 of our goldfish before. He wont leave them alone either"
The Ex then shared the post of Cat 1 staring into the fish tank and wrote:
"My old cat [Cat 1]. He will never leave fish alone. He's a cutie cat. WE ALL MISS HIM AND [CAT 2]"
This all took place for about 3-4 months in 2012. Since then, there's been no discussion about getting the cats back and they can't get a new one because Ned is allergic.
Then yesterday, the cousin posted a few pictures and a status about how Cat 2 needed to be put down and she was glad to have called Cat 2 her fur child for 6 years. (Okay, so she got the cat in 2011. Math so far is good.) In the comments, she told someone that the cat was 13 years old. (This would mean that the cat was born in 2004, when Husband and The Ex were still together. So that's inaccurate.) The Ex's sister and cousin both commented and tagged both The Ex and Daughter in their comments, saying it was nice that they were able to come with the cousin to put the cat down. (I don't have a problem with this; I think it is wonderful that Daughter got to say goodbye to her former pet. That being said, I have a very large problem with The Ex's assertion that Husband should be responsible for taking the kids to their orthodontist appointments because he earns more money than she does; The Ex is indicating she can't afford to take her own biological children to a medically necessary appointment. However, The Ex apparently could afford to drive the same distance in order to participate in the death of her former pet. There is nothing about this that should make sense to anyone.)
Then this morning, The Ex uploaded four pictures; she is in one, Daughter is in all four holding the cat. They are both crying very hard. These are not pictures you put on the Internet to share with people; they are pictures that you take to have one last memory of your cat and keep to yourself. I feel uncomfortable just looking at them. Along with the pictures, The Ex tagged Son and Daughter and wrote:
"My first 8 years with you will forever be in my heart!!!! (If the cat was 13, which she wasn't, that would mean The Ex had her until 2012, which she didn't. I know exactly when I got all of our pets; I'm not understanding why nobody knows how old this cat is.) [Daughter first & last name] and I chose the most beautiful little girl out of many. Getting you at 5 weeks old on a beautiful day, just like you. (Who in the ever-loving hell separated a kitten from its mother at 5 weeks old?? That's not adoption, it's animal abuse. Kittens are not ready for separation at 5 weeks.) And saying our goodbyes was very hard. (Is that why you gave them away, instead of cutting back on your spending?) You gave my kids and myself happy memories... We will miss you [Cat 2]... Love You!! Thank you [Ned first & last name] for letting me bring her home and burying her. (You buried a cat that hasn't been yours for 5+ years. I want you to think about that for a little bit.) That meant a lot to me... (Which is the only reason it happened. If the kids asked about bringing the cat home and The Ex didn't want to, she would have found some reason that they couldn't.) I only wished we seen her more."
After posting this, she tagged Daughter in these photos of herself crying and holding the cat. I just can't deal with this. We've had pets die too - know what we do? Shed some tears, hug each other, and bury them in our yard. We do not post paragraphs about pets that we used to have, we don't pose for pictures next to the kids with tears running down our face, we do not upload pictures of people crying and then tag them in it. The Ex created this situation by giving away the cats, is complaining she wishes they had seen the cat more frequently, and is now exploiting Daughter's grief to get people to pay attention to her.
In 2010, Son told us that The Ex was getting rid of the cats because she was spending "way too much money on them every month. (At that time, she still had her van which had a monthly payment of $582. But she told the kids she was getting rid of the cats because that's an expense she can't afford.) Shortly after this was announced, The Ex had laser eye surgery which she told Husband cost her $3,700. (But again, the cats are costing too much money.) Somewhere along the line, the cats ended up with one of The Ex's cousins.
Within a year or two, Son commented that he wasn't happy with The Ex's cousin. I asked what was wrong; Son said that the cousin was only supposed to keep the cats for a little while, and then give them back. (This is just the most bizarre thing I've ever heard. "Take my cats for one to two years, and then return them to me." I can see a few days, or maybe even weeks, or possibly a few months. But years??) Every time the cousin would post a picture of one or both of the cats, The Ex would come along with a weird comment.
Cat 1 playing with the cousin's nephews:
"We miss the cats. [Son] cryed last time I picked him up about the cats. (Oh, bullsh*t...you gave the cats away a year and a half ago.) He realy wants to stop by and see them. I get the kids on Friday. R u going to b home @ 6 pm?"
Cat 1 laying with the cousin's niece and nephews:
"yeah she was good with all us but not with other kids and people" (The cat was laying with three children and The Ex is claiming that it's not good with other people...?)
Cat 1 laying on the cousin's nephew:
"That's why [Son] wants them back. He misses them." (The cousin actually replied that the cats were driving her crazy and that The Ex could have them back if she wanted. Of course, that didn't happen but it certainly couldn't be The Ex's fault...)
Cat 1 staring into a fish tank:
"be careful, he ate 2 of our goldfish before. He wont leave them alone either"
The Ex then shared the post of Cat 1 staring into the fish tank and wrote:
"My old cat [Cat 1]. He will never leave fish alone. He's a cutie cat. WE ALL MISS HIM AND [CAT 2]"
This all took place for about 3-4 months in 2012. Since then, there's been no discussion about getting the cats back and they can't get a new one because Ned is allergic.
Then yesterday, the cousin posted a few pictures and a status about how Cat 2 needed to be put down and she was glad to have called Cat 2 her fur child for 6 years. (Okay, so she got the cat in 2011. Math so far is good.) In the comments, she told someone that the cat was 13 years old. (This would mean that the cat was born in 2004, when Husband and The Ex were still together. So that's inaccurate.) The Ex's sister and cousin both commented and tagged both The Ex and Daughter in their comments, saying it was nice that they were able to come with the cousin to put the cat down. (I don't have a problem with this; I think it is wonderful that Daughter got to say goodbye to her former pet. That being said, I have a very large problem with The Ex's assertion that Husband should be responsible for taking the kids to their orthodontist appointments because he earns more money than she does; The Ex is indicating she can't afford to take her own biological children to a medically necessary appointment. However, The Ex apparently could afford to drive the same distance in order to participate in the death of her former pet. There is nothing about this that should make sense to anyone.)
Then this morning, The Ex uploaded four pictures; she is in one, Daughter is in all four holding the cat. They are both crying very hard. These are not pictures you put on the Internet to share with people; they are pictures that you take to have one last memory of your cat and keep to yourself. I feel uncomfortable just looking at them. Along with the pictures, The Ex tagged Son and Daughter and wrote:
"My first 8 years with you will forever be in my heart!!!! (If the cat was 13, which she wasn't, that would mean The Ex had her until 2012, which she didn't. I know exactly when I got all of our pets; I'm not understanding why nobody knows how old this cat is.) [Daughter first & last name] and I chose the most beautiful little girl out of many. Getting you at 5 weeks old on a beautiful day, just like you. (Who in the ever-loving hell separated a kitten from its mother at 5 weeks old?? That's not adoption, it's animal abuse. Kittens are not ready for separation at 5 weeks.) And saying our goodbyes was very hard. (Is that why you gave them away, instead of cutting back on your spending?) You gave my kids and myself happy memories... We will miss you [Cat 2]... Love You!! Thank you [Ned first & last name] for letting me bring her home and burying her. (You buried a cat that hasn't been yours for 5+ years. I want you to think about that for a little bit.) That meant a lot to me... (Which is the only reason it happened. If the kids asked about bringing the cat home and The Ex didn't want to, she would have found some reason that they couldn't.) I only wished we seen her more."
After posting this, she tagged Daughter in these photos of herself crying and holding the cat. I just can't deal with this. We've had pets die too - know what we do? Shed some tears, hug each other, and bury them in our yard. We do not post paragraphs about pets that we used to have, we don't pose for pictures next to the kids with tears running down our face, we do not upload pictures of people crying and then tag them in it. The Ex created this situation by giving away the cats, is complaining she wishes they had seen the cat more frequently, and is now exploiting Daughter's grief to get people to pay attention to her.
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