Karma, live and in color!
Daughter told us about Ned proposing to The Ex. I simply said, "Oh...okay," because her personal life isn't anything that I have any control over. My only question was, "How do you and [Son] feel about it?" (You know, something any normal parent would have asked their child or children before planning on getting married again.) Daughter sighed, said she didn't know how she felt about it, and said it was "too much work to think about it." Eventually she said she was happy for The Ex because she was happy about the engagement. (So, she's not really happy that her mom is marrying Ned but she's not going to object.) She also made a comment at some point that was along the lines of, "They're gonna be engaged forever."
Now, here's where the fun starts. I've mentioned in the past that Ned has a son, and I've already said that my assumption is that when this relationship goes to hell in a hand basket, The Ex is going to blame Ned's son for driving them apart.
Daughter has made comments about how ill-behaved Ned's son is; she refers to him as a "child of the devil" so I guess we'll call him Lucifer. Two years ago, The Ex and her sister were complaining to each other on Daughter's phone about how naughty Lucifer is; the sister complained that while they were babysitting him, he was not listening and talking back/mocking The Ex's dad. The Ex made the comment, "That f*cker (Lucifer) sh*t his pants the other night, I was so pissed," to which her sister replied that Ned probably didn't punish Lucifer like he does with The Ex's son and The Ex agreed. The Ex allegedly doesn't want Lucifer watching any violent movies, and Daughter has said that Lucifer has made comments about killing Ned. By the way, Lucifer just recently turned six.
As we're discussing the new engagement, Daughter says that on the day Ned proposed, he and The Ex got into a fight over - you guessed it - Lucifer. According to Daughter, The Ex called Lucifer back into the house because she thought he had left a door open. Lucifer started talking back to her, so The Ex sent him into his room for a time-out. Ned came into the house and said he had left the door open, not Lucifer. The Ex said it didn't matter, Lucifer was in a time out because he shouldn't be talking back to her. Ned proceeded to go into Lucifer's room, tell him he was no longer in a time out, and that he could go outside and play. The Ex was beyond pissed and started arguing with Ned, making some comment about how it would be an issue if "her kids talked to [Ned] like that." Ned's response was to walk outside.
Now, I almost want to feel bad for her because I know that this scenario is far too common in blended families. Daughter said this is not the first time they've fought over Lucifer. But to every stepmom who deals with a high-conflict exwife....you know good and damn well that The Ex deserves every last inch of this. She has spent twelve years lying to her children, telling them what horrible people we are, blaming us for all of her poor life choices, making things up about what we've said and done - and she's not slowing down.
The reason why Husband and I have such a successful marriage is because of a mindset we had before getting married. Your priorities always have to be in this exact order: God, spouse, family. I know that Husband supports me when it comes to "his" kids because we consider them to be OUR kids. Our family is six people, not four. The fact that I do not share blood with half of our children means nothing to either of us; in this house, what we say goes regardless of who said it.
With that being said, it's very obvious that this is not the arrangement in The Ex and Ned's relationship. Ned is making it obvious to his child that The Ex doesn't have any authority over him, and based on previous incidents and conversations, it's obvious that his exwife is doing the same thing. The Ex might let it slide for awhile, but she's not going to be able to tolerate this long-term. She can't stand Ned's ex and she's not going to be able to handle the fact that Lucifer will forever and always love his mom more than her.
The "baby mama" is on track to become the "evil stepmother." It's better than fiction.
Now, here's where the fun starts. I've mentioned in the past that Ned has a son, and I've already said that my assumption is that when this relationship goes to hell in a hand basket, The Ex is going to blame Ned's son for driving them apart.
Daughter has made comments about how ill-behaved Ned's son is; she refers to him as a "child of the devil" so I guess we'll call him Lucifer. Two years ago, The Ex and her sister were complaining to each other on Daughter's phone about how naughty Lucifer is; the sister complained that while they were babysitting him, he was not listening and talking back/mocking The Ex's dad. The Ex made the comment, "That f*cker (Lucifer) sh*t his pants the other night, I was so pissed," to which her sister replied that Ned probably didn't punish Lucifer like he does with The Ex's son and The Ex agreed. The Ex allegedly doesn't want Lucifer watching any violent movies, and Daughter has said that Lucifer has made comments about killing Ned. By the way, Lucifer just recently turned six.
As we're discussing the new engagement, Daughter says that on the day Ned proposed, he and The Ex got into a fight over - you guessed it - Lucifer. According to Daughter, The Ex called Lucifer back into the house because she thought he had left a door open. Lucifer started talking back to her, so The Ex sent him into his room for a time-out. Ned came into the house and said he had left the door open, not Lucifer. The Ex said it didn't matter, Lucifer was in a time out because he shouldn't be talking back to her. Ned proceeded to go into Lucifer's room, tell him he was no longer in a time out, and that he could go outside and play. The Ex was beyond pissed and started arguing with Ned, making some comment about how it would be an issue if "her kids talked to [Ned] like that." Ned's response was to walk outside.
Now, I almost want to feel bad for her because I know that this scenario is far too common in blended families. Daughter said this is not the first time they've fought over Lucifer. But to every stepmom who deals with a high-conflict exwife....you know good and damn well that The Ex deserves every last inch of this. She has spent twelve years lying to her children, telling them what horrible people we are, blaming us for all of her poor life choices, making things up about what we've said and done - and she's not slowing down.
The reason why Husband and I have such a successful marriage is because of a mindset we had before getting married. Your priorities always have to be in this exact order: God, spouse, family. I know that Husband supports me when it comes to "his" kids because we consider them to be OUR kids. Our family is six people, not four. The fact that I do not share blood with half of our children means nothing to either of us; in this house, what we say goes regardless of who said it.
With that being said, it's very obvious that this is not the arrangement in The Ex and Ned's relationship. Ned is making it obvious to his child that The Ex doesn't have any authority over him, and based on previous incidents and conversations, it's obvious that his exwife is doing the same thing. The Ex might let it slide for awhile, but she's not going to be able to tolerate this long-term. She can't stand Ned's ex and she's not going to be able to handle the fact that Lucifer will forever and always love his mom more than her.
The "baby mama" is on track to become the "evil stepmother." It's better than fiction.
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