Her insanity is glorious.
A little less than a month and half ago, The Ex filed her bogus motion asking the court to modify placement for Son but not for Daughter. The judge reviewed it and sent it back to mediation. Mediation is scheduled for Thursday. A few weeks ago, The Ex was telling Son to talk to Husband and to say that he wants to live with The Ex; Son said he had told Husband and that Husband said he was "going to fight it in court and shit." (Husband didn't say this. All he said was that he and The Ex were going to court, which Son already knew.) The Ex replied, "Seriously. I'm ready. Let him bring it on. R u?" (Okay, so this isn't really about what's best for Son. It's about you fighting with Husband. Cool.)
Last night, The Ex and her mom dropped off Son and Daughter; we were at the neighbors' watching football, like we typically do on fall days. Both of the kids came over and said hi to us, then went back home. About 20 minutes later, Daughter called Husband and said that The Ex had called her saying that she wanted to talk to him, and that she was turning around and coming back to our house. (Oh, hell to the no.) Husband told Daughter to call The Ex, tell her she didn't need to come back, and that anything she needed to talk about could be emailed. Daughter said okay.
A few minutes later, The Ex called Husband. He was going to ignore it but instead answered; he matter-of-factly told The Ex that anything that needed to be discussed could be sent over 2houses. The Ex immediately started arguing and trying to talk over top of him; Husband stated that he paid for 2houses for a reason and she could talk to him there, and hung up the phone.
The Ex called back and left a voice mail almost a full minute long:
"Hey [Husband], it's [The Ex]. (Yeah, he knows. That's why he didn't answer.) Thanks for hanging up on me. (You're welcome!) I know [my name] is there, because you wouldn't be acting like a childish little brute. (I don't know how or why she thinks I control him. And as our neighbor put it, "'I know [my name] is there'? Of course you're here, you're his f*cking wife! Where else would you be?!") Why don't you grow up (He did.) and be an adult (He is.) and a nice father (He is this, also.) because I was calling you about what [Son] and I talked about this weekend. (There is literally no reason she could not have sent an email about this.) It's about Thursday. (What about Thursday? You have court-ordered mediation because of a motion that you filed..) But no! You're being a jerk. (He's been telling her for over five years that he'll only communicate with her in writing. She refuses to accept that, so now he's a "jerk.") And I don't care if you say this in court, (I think you will care when Husband plays the voice mail you left calling him a "stubborn prick." It just shows that Husband is in the right for restricting phone contact with you.) because they're gonna see all the times that you didn't let me have the kids! (What the hell is she talking about?!) Because I've been documenting (My sister swears that she said "documentating" instead of "documenting." I don't hear it, but it wouldn't surprise me if she did.)when I ask and you don't let 'em, and when you ask me, I let you! (Read that sentence a few times. "You don't let them; I let you." ...what? Also, I think she's making the accusation that Husband "didn't let her have the kids" based on the fact that there have been a few times she wanted to switch weekends and we couldn't. She's too stupid to realize that not being able to switch weekends does not equate to Husband not letting her have the kids. We are not required to organize our household based on what works best for her.) So that's fine! I guess we go Thursday and pay money! (Yes. We both have to pay money because you filed a motion.) I was hoping to avoid paying money, (Then you should have talked to Husband about this months ago; instead, you called Attorney 4, paid her money to prepare a motion for you, filed the motion, and got sent to mediation. You are costing yourself money, so get over it.) but you're just being....a little child! Because you are an adult...and a father to your kids! You would actually listen to what our son wants us to do." (That sounds pretty backwards to me. Here I was, under the impression that kids were supposed to listen to what their parents wanted them to do, not the other way around. Interesting.)
You guys, I can't. Those last four sentences had me laughing so incredibly hard. Now, after telling Son that she was ready for court and Husband could "bring it on," she wants to talk? Now that she has to come up with money for mediation fees, she's ready to discuss this with Husband? Mediation is literally days away, and now she wants to drive back to our house or talk to Husband on the phone instead of just emailing him.
I have a few theories about this:
1. The Ex thought she could skate through this process without having to pay a penny toward it by getting a fee waiver due to her low income; now that she's looking at having to pay mediation fees and potential guardian ad litem fees, both of which cannot be waived, she doesn't want to follow through anymore.
2. The Ex is realizing that if she actually takes this to court, we're going to file a counter motion for contempt against her and her ass will get nailed to the wall for refusing to do everything that the court has told her to do.
3. The Ex is recognizing that Son is almost an adult and Daughter can't be manipulated anymore; she knows once the kids are grown Husband will have no contact with her whatsoever, so she's trying very desperately to reinsert herself into his life before he slips away forever.
4. All of the above.
Last night, The Ex and her mom dropped off Son and Daughter; we were at the neighbors' watching football, like we typically do on fall days. Both of the kids came over and said hi to us, then went back home. About 20 minutes later, Daughter called Husband and said that The Ex had called her saying that she wanted to talk to him, and that she was turning around and coming back to our house. (Oh, hell to the no.) Husband told Daughter to call The Ex, tell her she didn't need to come back, and that anything she needed to talk about could be emailed. Daughter said okay.
A few minutes later, The Ex called Husband. He was going to ignore it but instead answered; he matter-of-factly told The Ex that anything that needed to be discussed could be sent over 2houses. The Ex immediately started arguing and trying to talk over top of him; Husband stated that he paid for 2houses for a reason and she could talk to him there, and hung up the phone.
The Ex called back and left a voice mail almost a full minute long:
"Hey [Husband], it's [The Ex]. (Yeah, he knows. That's why he didn't answer.) Thanks for hanging up on me. (You're welcome!) I know [my name] is there, because you wouldn't be acting like a childish little brute. (I don't know how or why she thinks I control him. And as our neighbor put it, "'I know [my name] is there'? Of course you're here, you're his f*cking wife! Where else would you be?!") Why don't you grow up (He did.) and be an adult (He is.) and a nice father (He is this, also.) because I was calling you about what [Son] and I talked about this weekend. (There is literally no reason she could not have sent an email about this.) It's about Thursday. (What about Thursday? You have court-ordered mediation because of a motion that you filed..) But no! You're being a jerk. (He's been telling her for over five years that he'll only communicate with her in writing. She refuses to accept that, so now he's a "jerk.") And I don't care if you say this in court, (I think you will care when Husband plays the voice mail you left calling him a "stubborn prick." It just shows that Husband is in the right for restricting phone contact with you.) because they're gonna see all the times that you didn't let me have the kids! (What the hell is she talking about?!) Because I've been documenting (My sister swears that she said "documentating" instead of "documenting." I don't hear it, but it wouldn't surprise me if she did.)when I ask and you don't let 'em, and when you ask me, I let you! (Read that sentence a few times. "You don't let them; I let you." ...what? Also, I think she's making the accusation that Husband "didn't let her have the kids" based on the fact that there have been a few times she wanted to switch weekends and we couldn't. She's too stupid to realize that not being able to switch weekends does not equate to Husband not letting her have the kids. We are not required to organize our household based on what works best for her.) So that's fine! I guess we go Thursday and pay money! (Yes. We both have to pay money because you filed a motion.) I was hoping to avoid paying money, (Then you should have talked to Husband about this months ago; instead, you called Attorney 4, paid her money to prepare a motion for you, filed the motion, and got sent to mediation. You are costing yourself money, so get over it.) but you're just being....a little child! Because you are an adult...and a father to your kids! You would actually listen to what our son wants us to do." (That sounds pretty backwards to me. Here I was, under the impression that kids were supposed to listen to what their parents wanted them to do, not the other way around. Interesting.)
You guys, I can't. Those last four sentences had me laughing so incredibly hard. Now, after telling Son that she was ready for court and Husband could "bring it on," she wants to talk? Now that she has to come up with money for mediation fees, she's ready to discuss this with Husband? Mediation is literally days away, and now she wants to drive back to our house or talk to Husband on the phone instead of just emailing him.
I have a few theories about this:
1. The Ex thought she could skate through this process without having to pay a penny toward it by getting a fee waiver due to her low income; now that she's looking at having to pay mediation fees and potential guardian ad litem fees, both of which cannot be waived, she doesn't want to follow through anymore.
2. The Ex is realizing that if she actually takes this to court, we're going to file a counter motion for contempt against her and her ass will get nailed to the wall for refusing to do everything that the court has told her to do.
3. The Ex is recognizing that Son is almost an adult and Daughter can't be manipulated anymore; she knows once the kids are grown Husband will have no contact with her whatsoever, so she's trying very desperately to reinsert herself into his life before he slips away forever.
4. All of the above.
I don’t think she’s really given a thought to what they’ll do once they’re 18. I truly believe that she thinks they’ll just come running back to her crying about how you & Husband made life hell.
ReplyDeleteI think it’s number one. I don’t think she actually keeps track of all the things she’s supposed to do versus doesn’t do so she doesn’t realize that she’s actually put herself in a worse spot than she started.
She doesn't think about the future whatsoever; she lives in the moment and if things don't work out the way she planned, she just blames somebody else for it and moves on. Always has, always will.
DeleteShe’s so disgusting. Not just outwardly, but just as a general person. She makes me want to just keep praying because that’s all you can do.
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