The mediator wants to give the correct information.
After Husband told the mediator that he didn't think mediation was necessary because there was no longer a dispute over placement of Son, she called him and said that The Ex still wanted to have mediation to discuss summer placement of Daughter and transportation. I talked to Our Attorney who agreed that there is no motion filed, any issues above and beyond Son's placement is not in front of the court at this point, and mediation is not necessary. Husband called the mediator a second time and left her another message stating that the motion was solely for Son, the motion clearly stated that The Ex did not want the order changed regarding Daughter, and that Husband wasn't interested in changing anything and was happy with the order as it stood.
This morning, Husband had another voice mail:
"Hi [Husband], this is [mediator's name] calling from [our county] Family Court Counseling. I got your message. Um, in regards to, um, you don't want anything changed and there's no motion to change. And I just want to clarify so that I give, um, [The Ex] the correct information, is that you are not willing to come into mediation and discuss your daughter because there is no motion on the table. And if Mom wants to have that issue opened up, she needs to file a new motion. And so, I just need that, a yes or no, in regards to that, um...because ultimately, it sounds like that's what you were saying in your message? But I just- I don't want to assume anything. Um, and I- and I wanna make sure when I talk to her, that I give her the correct information, um, from you and what your expectation is in regards to, again, coming in for another appointment. Um, if you can leave me another message. Uh, [phone number]. That would be very helpful. Thank you."
....okay, so, I don't understand what the hell this woman's problem is. Quite honestly, I take offense to her statement that Husband is "not willing to come to mediation." Let's be very clear: even if Husband went to mediation and the two of them still disagreed on Daughter and/or transportation, the court would still not hear that argument because there is no motion for it. If they agreed, then great - let's get a stipulation written, signed, and submitted.
But you know what? They don't need mediation to do that. The Ex could ask Husband about these changes she wants to make, Husband could reply, and they could work this out on their own. But nope, The Ex wants to go back to court over it and have them jointly pay $200 to a mediator to listen to them talk to each other.
She's a genius. *eye roll*
This morning, Husband had another voice mail:
"Hi [Husband], this is [mediator's name] calling from [our county] Family Court Counseling. I got your message. Um, in regards to, um, you don't want anything changed and there's no motion to change. And I just want to clarify so that I give, um, [The Ex] the correct information, is that you are not willing to come into mediation and discuss your daughter because there is no motion on the table. And if Mom wants to have that issue opened up, she needs to file a new motion. And so, I just need that, a yes or no, in regards to that, um...because ultimately, it sounds like that's what you were saying in your message? But I just- I don't want to assume anything. Um, and I- and I wanna make sure when I talk to her, that I give her the correct information, um, from you and what your expectation is in regards to, again, coming in for another appointment. Um, if you can leave me another message. Uh, [phone number]. That would be very helpful. Thank you."
....okay, so, I don't understand what the hell this woman's problem is. Quite honestly, I take offense to her statement that Husband is "not willing to come to mediation." Let's be very clear: even if Husband went to mediation and the two of them still disagreed on Daughter and/or transportation, the court would still not hear that argument because there is no motion for it. If they agreed, then great - let's get a stipulation written, signed, and submitted.
But you know what? They don't need mediation to do that. The Ex could ask Husband about these changes she wants to make, Husband could reply, and they could work this out on their own. But nope, The Ex wants to go back to court over it and have them jointly pay $200 to a mediator to listen to them talk to each other.
She's a genius. *eye roll*
The Umms are killing me.
ReplyDeleteI know, it's almost painful to listen to it. I don't know why, but I just expect more professionalism from people in this setting.
DeleteIt really reminds me of the voicemails The Ex leaves
ReplyDeleteOh, I KNOW. The rambling on instead of getting to the point, the constant confusion, the ending sentences with a questionnnn...?
DeleteSeriously. Figure out what you want to say, and THEN call me. Don't walk yourself through your own thoughts on my voice mail.
She’s planning something. This is a set up to make it appear that he’s not willing to work with her. Even though it’s reasonable that Husband would not mediate on a matter that was specifically stated to not change.
ReplyDeleteShe can’t have one, so she’s gonna try for the other. Even though The Ex knows she doesn’t care if Daughter lives with her or wants to live with her.
Oh, I agree. I said that to someone earlier this week; The Ex paid Attorney 4 to prepare this motion for her but now that it's dead and nothing is going to come of it, she can't accept that. No, no, no. She will go to mediation for SOMETHING, because this cost her money.
DeleteMy irritation is primarily with the mediator at this point. I expect this from The Ex, but not her. The only thing I can figure is that she wants to get paid, so she's more than happy to keep pushing for mediation which is going to be pointless because of the court won't hear these topics due to no motion being filed.