Here we go again.
Daughter decided she wants to play both volleyball and basketball again this year. Husband emailed The Ex and told her on Sunday, July 22nd. Husband said if she had any objections, to let him know; otherwise, he would send the schedules when he had them. Daughter said something on Monday afternoon about letting The Ex know. I told her that Husband had sent an email and that The Ex had 2 days to object; if she didn't object, then Daughter got to play and The Ex needed to make sure she was here. Daughter asked, "...CAN she (object)?" I said yes, technically she could but she needed to have a good reason for it.
The two days passed, no objection, Daughter is officially signed up for volleyball and will also be playing basketball. But of course, it's never that easy...
We found out over the weekend that the new coach was planning practices for this week; Daughter was supposed to go back to Tiny City on Monday. Husband emailed The Ex on Sunday morning saying that Daughter had practices and he didn't know if The Ex wanted to pick her up on Wednesday after everything was done or just pick her up on Thursday. Husband said Daughter also had a physical scheduled for August 13th at 8am and asked The Ex to make sure that Daughter was here for that also.
The Ex replies the next day:
"You will have to reschedule her appointment for her physical for today, tomorrow, or Wednesday this week. (Translation: I'm not bringing her for the physical, so you figure it out. By the way, she sent this at almost 1pm on Monday - have any of you ever tried to get a doctor's appointment within 48 hours? It is next to impossible. Even so, I did call and ask just to say that we at least tried.) I can't bring her back. I'll be working. (You don't bring her anyway. Your parents do. What's different now?) Otherwise the 19th when she's back home with you."
Husband replied and said the doctor didn't have any openings this week, said we scheduled it for that day because some of her friends said practice was starting but we weren't for sure, and said he'd talk to the coach and let The Ex know. Husband also said that if The Ex couldn't bring her on the day of the physical, she could drop her off the night before like she did the last time Daughter had a physical.
The Ex responded last night:
"We won't be home till late that Sunday. We're going to family reunion, which is 3 hour north of us. (That's exactly what she wrote. I'm assuming this is Ned's family reunion, because The Ex doesn't have any relatives that live that way.) Unless you pick her up she will miss it. (Okay, so it's definitely Ned's family because Daughter isn't even going with them. I wonder if Lucifer is even going, or if Ned is just taking The Ex and her kids to show off his "new" family to everyone. Also, it'll be a cold day in hell before I drive up to Tiny City just because you don't want to bring Daughter here like you're required to by the court order.) Otherwise reschedule her appointment for when she's with you due to practice. (I feel like they already talked about this....am I imagining that? *goes back and reads previous messages* Nope, they talked about this.)"
Husband replied that Daughter will have practice at least one day next week; the coach hasn't said what day or time but he'll let her know. Husband said there is going to be practice on the 13th which Daughter will need to be here for but again, doesn't have a time yet. Husband said that transportation is The Ex's responsibility and that she agreed to facilitate Daughter's extracurricular activities; he asked her to please figure out how she was going to get Daughter here.
I had asked Daughter earlier this week if The Ex was going to just drop her off at home after her orthodontist appointment on the 6th. Daughter said, "Do you really think she's going to want to drive all that way?" I said she was going to be halfway here already, so either she could drop her off that day or she could wait another day and then make the entire drive from Tiny City to Our City, but it made more sense to just drop her off on the 6th.
The coach just emailed this morning and said that there will be practice next Wednesday, and the entire week of the 13th. So now, Husband gets to email The Ex again and tell her that Daughter needs to come back next week and she'll have to be here the entire week after that. I'm quite positive it's not going to get a pleasant reception.
I think what I'm feeling the most toward this situation is sadness. The Ex's desperation to pretend she's in control of anything is just absurdly pathetic.
The two days passed, no objection, Daughter is officially signed up for volleyball and will also be playing basketball. But of course, it's never that easy...
We found out over the weekend that the new coach was planning practices for this week; Daughter was supposed to go back to Tiny City on Monday. Husband emailed The Ex on Sunday morning saying that Daughter had practices and he didn't know if The Ex wanted to pick her up on Wednesday after everything was done or just pick her up on Thursday. Husband said Daughter also had a physical scheduled for August 13th at 8am and asked The Ex to make sure that Daughter was here for that also.
The Ex replies the next day:
"You will have to reschedule her appointment for her physical for today, tomorrow, or Wednesday this week. (Translation: I'm not bringing her for the physical, so you figure it out. By the way, she sent this at almost 1pm on Monday - have any of you ever tried to get a doctor's appointment within 48 hours? It is next to impossible. Even so, I did call and ask just to say that we at least tried.) I can't bring her back. I'll be working. (You don't bring her anyway. Your parents do. What's different now?) Otherwise the 19th when she's back home with you."
Husband replied and said the doctor didn't have any openings this week, said we scheduled it for that day because some of her friends said practice was starting but we weren't for sure, and said he'd talk to the coach and let The Ex know. Husband also said that if The Ex couldn't bring her on the day of the physical, she could drop her off the night before like she did the last time Daughter had a physical.
The Ex responded last night:
"We won't be home till late that Sunday. We're going to family reunion, which is 3 hour north of us. (That's exactly what she wrote. I'm assuming this is Ned's family reunion, because The Ex doesn't have any relatives that live that way.) Unless you pick her up she will miss it. (Okay, so it's definitely Ned's family because Daughter isn't even going with them. I wonder if Lucifer is even going, or if Ned is just taking The Ex and her kids to show off his "new" family to everyone. Also, it'll be a cold day in hell before I drive up to Tiny City just because you don't want to bring Daughter here like you're required to by the court order.) Otherwise reschedule her appointment for when she's with you due to practice. (I feel like they already talked about this....am I imagining that? *goes back and reads previous messages* Nope, they talked about this.)"
Husband replied that Daughter will have practice at least one day next week; the coach hasn't said what day or time but he'll let her know. Husband said there is going to be practice on the 13th which Daughter will need to be here for but again, doesn't have a time yet. Husband said that transportation is The Ex's responsibility and that she agreed to facilitate Daughter's extracurricular activities; he asked her to please figure out how she was going to get Daughter here.
I had asked Daughter earlier this week if The Ex was going to just drop her off at home after her orthodontist appointment on the 6th. Daughter said, "Do you really think she's going to want to drive all that way?" I said she was going to be halfway here already, so either she could drop her off that day or she could wait another day and then make the entire drive from Tiny City to Our City, but it made more sense to just drop her off on the 6th.
The coach just emailed this morning and said that there will be practice next Wednesday, and the entire week of the 13th. So now, Husband gets to email The Ex again and tell her that Daughter needs to come back next week and she'll have to be here the entire week after that. I'm quite positive it's not going to get a pleasant reception.
I think what I'm feeling the most toward this situation is sadness. The Ex's desperation to pretend she's in control of anything is just absurdly pathetic.
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