I miss you, but not your bullshit.
Son moved out the same night he graduated. Awhile back, one of his friends asked if he talked to us; Son said not really and his friend said, "That's good." The friend asked if we had tried talking to Son; Son told him we haven't tried once. His friend said, "That's really f*cking shitty." (So, if Son doesn't talk to us, that's good. But if we don't talk to Son, that's shitty. How does that work, exactly?)
Son completely depleted the funds in his checking account. He spent a lot of money on Google Play; I think one week it was over $150, primarily on one game. He'd also use the ATM and get charged a $2.50 fee. I kept an eye on the account and sure enough, one day it went negative by a little less than two dollars. I transferred some money into Son's account to bring the balance back to $0, because Husband's name was also on the account and I didn't want there to be any negative repercussions for him. About a week later, Son tried checking his balance again and was charged another fee, so the account was once again negative. Husband called the bank, asked them to waive the fee which they did, and then went in to close the account. A week or so later, Son told someone that Husband "took all of his money." I might have been shocked but I already predicted this is what he was going to do.
Girlfriend is supposedly pregnant "again," but her parents don't know. Daughter said that Son supposedly saw the positive pregnancy tests, yet Girlfriend still hasn't been to the doctor. She claimed she was throwing up so much that her dad wanted to take her to the hospital, but she wouldn't let him because then he would know she was pregnant. Days later, she was on carnival rides. (She supposedly told her dad last time she was "pregnant" and had a "miscarriage," yet her parents allowed Son to move in full-time without making sure she was on birth control? Is everyone in Tiny City completely braindead??)
After being willfully unemployed for almost 3 straight months, Son finally got a job. He drives almost 40 minutes one-way to work, he's on second shift, and his position isn't even permanent. He still has no car of his own; he uses her parents' vehicle to get to work. (Before he moved out, Girlfriend claimed that her brother said that the two of them could live in the house that he rents which is in the same city as Son's new job. Son moved to Tiny City; less than 2 weeks later, Girlfriend's brother's girlfriend said no, they couldn't move in because the landlord wouldn't allow it. So the two of them are still living at her parents' house, in the basement, allegedly expecting a child.) He just got his first paycheck and had it deposited into The Ex's account because he didn't have one of his own. (I can already tell you what a horrible idea this is, but it's not my mess to deal with.) He asked The Ex for the money and she's already nagging him about how much he needs and what he needs it for and what she wants him to do with it. To top it off, he had been paid and not even 48 hours later, The Ex's mom asked him to loan her some money.
Son recently unblocked Husband on Facebook and messaged him saying that he was unable to update any of his apps, accusing Husband and/or I of turning on the parental controls on his Google Play account, and demanding that we turn it off. Husband told him that we cannot and did not do anything to his account. Son replied that it doesn't make any sense; Husband left him on read.
I honestly do miss Son, but I don't miss all of the tension and upset that he caused over the last year. Deep down, he really is a good kid and we want what's best for him; Son's biggest problem is that in addition to him being stubborn as all hell, his mother and the entire side of her family do not hold him accountable for anything whatsoever and he's not expected to be responsible. Son feels that he ought to be treated like a man but doesn't think he should have to act like one. And I'll even be enough of a dick to say it: I really don't have much to say to him until he apologizes for putting his hands on a woman in anger. I miss who Son used to be, before he let The Ex get into his head and fill him with her vindictiveness and turn him into a spiteful, male version of herself.
Son completely depleted the funds in his checking account. He spent a lot of money on Google Play; I think one week it was over $150, primarily on one game. He'd also use the ATM and get charged a $2.50 fee. I kept an eye on the account and sure enough, one day it went negative by a little less than two dollars. I transferred some money into Son's account to bring the balance back to $0, because Husband's name was also on the account and I didn't want there to be any negative repercussions for him. About a week later, Son tried checking his balance again and was charged another fee, so the account was once again negative. Husband called the bank, asked them to waive the fee which they did, and then went in to close the account. A week or so later, Son told someone that Husband "took all of his money." I might have been shocked but I already predicted this is what he was going to do.
Girlfriend is supposedly pregnant "again," but her parents don't know. Daughter said that Son supposedly saw the positive pregnancy tests, yet Girlfriend still hasn't been to the doctor. She claimed she was throwing up so much that her dad wanted to take her to the hospital, but she wouldn't let him because then he would know she was pregnant. Days later, she was on carnival rides. (She supposedly told her dad last time she was "pregnant" and had a "miscarriage," yet her parents allowed Son to move in full-time without making sure she was on birth control? Is everyone in Tiny City completely braindead??)
After being willfully unemployed for almost 3 straight months, Son finally got a job. He drives almost 40 minutes one-way to work, he's on second shift, and his position isn't even permanent. He still has no car of his own; he uses her parents' vehicle to get to work. (Before he moved out, Girlfriend claimed that her brother said that the two of them could live in the house that he rents which is in the same city as Son's new job. Son moved to Tiny City; less than 2 weeks later, Girlfriend's brother's girlfriend said no, they couldn't move in because the landlord wouldn't allow it. So the two of them are still living at her parents' house, in the basement, allegedly expecting a child.) He just got his first paycheck and had it deposited into The Ex's account because he didn't have one of his own. (I can already tell you what a horrible idea this is, but it's not my mess to deal with.) He asked The Ex for the money and she's already nagging him about how much he needs and what he needs it for and what she wants him to do with it. To top it off, he had been paid and not even 48 hours later, The Ex's mom asked him to loan her some money.
Son recently unblocked Husband on Facebook and messaged him saying that he was unable to update any of his apps, accusing Husband and/or I of turning on the parental controls on his Google Play account, and demanding that we turn it off. Husband told him that we cannot and did not do anything to his account. Son replied that it doesn't make any sense; Husband left him on read.
I honestly do miss Son, but I don't miss all of the tension and upset that he caused over the last year. Deep down, he really is a good kid and we want what's best for him; Son's biggest problem is that in addition to him being stubborn as all hell, his mother and the entire side of her family do not hold him accountable for anything whatsoever and he's not expected to be responsible. Son feels that he ought to be treated like a man but doesn't think he should have to act like one. And I'll even be enough of a dick to say it: I really don't have much to say to him until he apologizes for putting his hands on a woman in anger. I miss who Son used to be, before he let The Ex get into his head and fill him with her vindictiveness and turn him into a spiteful, male version of herself.
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