It's All My Husband's Fault

  Not quite a month ago, we found out that The Ex had insurance available through her employer; child support said they would send a letter stating she was required to cover Son and Daughter.  We haven't heard anything since then, so I called our dentist's office today and asked if they could check to see if The Ex had coverage or not.   I just found out that The Ex has had insurance since July 1st, 2018.   She never told us, never gave us a card, absolutely nothing.  She has herself, her two youngest kids, and Daughter covered.   Son was seventeen (still a minor) when The Ex got this coverage, but she apparently didn't feel it was necessary to cover him.  I have no idea why she wouldn't; it's not like it would cost more.  I think this will change, though.  Looking over the paperwork the office sent to me, it lists the "child coverage age" as 26.  Son is only 18.  If child support sent what they were supposed to, Son migh...

  Daughter had her winter concert this week.  We never know if The Ex is attending these events because sometimes she says she is and doesn't show up; other times she says she can't come and then suddenly appears.  Last year for parents' night at basketball, The Ex's parents came but The Ex did not; then this year for parents' night at volleyball, The Ex showed up and Ned decided he was also Daughter's parent.  But anyway...   The morning of the concert, Daughter told me that she didn't know if The Ex was coming to the concert.  I asked why. ( I already knew; The Ex's work was having a holiday open house on the same night at Daughter's concert. ) Daughter said there was something going on at The Ex's work; she also said that her sister was getting her cast that day.  I pointed out that a doctor wasn't going to be putting a cast on after office hours, but I could understand if there was a work event.   That night, we're sitting in the ...

  Sunday afternoon we took our younger kids to go ice skating.  Daughter had said she wanted to go but open skate only went until 4:30pm and she wasn't supposed to come home until 5:30pm; she said that if her grandpa was bringing her back, he might be willing to bring her earlier and meet us in the local city rather than coming all the way to our house.  Well, he didn't bring her.  The Ex brought her, so of course, she wasn't early.   We left the skating rink around quarter to 5; I texted Daughter and Husband called her.  Daughter said that she and The Ex were at Walmart.  Husband asked if she could get dropped off at Kohl's because that's where we were heading.  Daughter asked The Ex if she could do that and she said yes.  Daughter said they were still going to be about 10 minutes; Husband told her that was fine.   At 5:16pm, Daughter sends me a text: "We said ten minutes so we went to get a wiper blade and they don't really know wh...

  Somehow, amidst all the insanity that The Ex causes in her life and attempts to cause in ours, I haven't blogged about some weird stories involving her and dogs.  I brought up one story in the last blog post and decided this would make for some good fodder.   I've written before about the dog that The Ex decided to get shortly after she moved in with Boyfriend.  That dog had no training whatsoever and would constantly jump on people; the kids were always coming by us on the weekends with scratches on their arms, faces, and legs.  The Ex once told me that the dog jumped on Boyfriend's sister while she was pregnant and hit her in the belly, so The Ex said she "threw the dog across the room."  A few months later, The Ex decided they were getting rid of the dog because she couldn't "risk" the dog jumping on her while she was pregnant.   We got our first dog in 2012; one month later, The Ex decided that she and Boyfriend were also getting a dog,...

  Daughter started talking again last week.  I don't remember how we got on the topic, but she said that The Ex's daughter "wants [Ned] to adopt her." ( This girl is 10 years old.  You know what I was doing at 10 years old?  Wondering when I could next have a sleepover with my friends.  The Ex was asking Son and Daughter if they "could see [Ned] as a father figure" when she'd only been dating him for a few months.   Knowing The Ex and how she is, I don't believe this is a genuine thought that this child had on her own; I think it's an idea that The Ex planted in her head and continues to feed. ) I was kind of surprised and Daughter said, "Well, I mean...I get it.  [The Ex's two youngest kids'] dad isn't around, so..." ( A friend of mine commented, "Yes, their dad is not around.  So for all intents and purposes, Ned is already her 'dad.'  Why would she be thinking about adoption?" )   Then, in what was pr...