Petty, squared.
Sunday afternoon we took our younger kids to go ice skating. Daughter had said she wanted to go but open skate only went until 4:30pm and she wasn't supposed to come home until 5:30pm; she said that if her grandpa was bringing her back, he might be willing to bring her earlier and meet us in the local city rather than coming all the way to our house. Well, he didn't bring her. The Ex brought her, so of course, she wasn't early.
We left the skating rink around quarter to 5; I texted Daughter and Husband called her. Daughter said that she and The Ex were at Walmart. Husband asked if she could get dropped off at Kohl's because that's where we were heading. Daughter asked The Ex if she could do that and she said yes. Daughter said they were still going to be about 10 minutes; Husband told her that was fine.
At 5:16pm, Daughter sends me a text: "We said ten minutes so we went to get a wiper blade and they don't really know what they are doing 😂😂"
I replied and said that they have a chart to look up what size wiper blade you need. (I assumed she was saying that they couldn't find the right wiper blade.) Daughter replied, "He cant change it" I sent back, "Aaaand that's why you don't get your car fixed at Walmart LOL" Daughter sent back, "We are at autozone" We texted back and forth for a few minutes, and Daughter finally got dropped off at about 5:40pm. Here's what's great about it: when The Ex left Walmart, she literally drove right past Kohl's to go to AutoZone. Like, the two stores are literally on the same street; The Ex knew where everything was because she's been there multiple times before. The only reason I can assume she chose to go out of her way is that it "wasn't Husband's time yet."
Daughter gets into our vehicle, I comment that The Ex literally drove right past us and went to another store instead of just dropping Daughter off; Daughter says she didn't want to go by herself. I ask why; she didn't know. (I know why; it's because The Ex is so terribly insecure in every way imaginable, that she honestly cannot even go buy a wiper blade by herself.) Daughter then starts telling us how Ned did not come with them because The Ex was mad at him and they had a fight earlier that day.
I asked if they had fought about Lucifer again. (It's not really my business, but that's honestly what I thought it was going to be.) Daughter said no, it wasn't Lucifer this time. She said that The Ex had wanted to put up their Christmas tree as a family. Well, Ned decided to put up the tree by himself; when The Ex saw the tree up, she was immediately angry. Willing to give Ned the benefit of the doubt, I asked Daughter to clarify what she meant by "putting up the tree" - did he set up the tree, or did he set it up and decorate the entire thing? Daughter said it was everything; Ned set up the tree and decorated it with the younger kids. (For the first time in probably ever, I agree with The Ex on this one. That was a total dick move on Ned's part.) Daughter didn't even help with the tree; Ned said something like, "We saved you an ornament." (Okay, so I know I've never really gotten to know him but Ned seems like an asshole.) Daughter said that Ned had set up the tree while The Ex was in the shower. (I didn't think a shower took that long, but okay...)
Daughter said that The Ex was complaining to Ned how she had wanted to do this together; Ned replied with a smart ass comment along the lines of, "Well, when were we going to put it up? On Christmas?" Daughter told us that the previous year, their new dog had kept knocking ornaments off the tree and breaking them, some of which Son and Daughter had made in grade school; she said that The Ex wanted to wait until later to put up the tree to prevent the dog from breaking anything more than he already had. Daughter then said that The Ex had told Ned they could have set it up the next day or the day after that. I paused, and then said to Daughter, "Oh, I'm sorry. I had assumed that when she said 'as a family,' she meant that she wanted YOU to be there for it." Daughter said that The Ex DID want her there for it since she "hasn't helped Mom put up the tree for the last two years." I asked why not. Daughter said, "Well, we were here for Christmas last year, and I don't know why the year before that." I said no, they were not here on Christmas last year; that was why Daughter was here this year for Christmas. Daughter thought about it and said, "....then I don't know." (She may not, but I know exactly why she didn't help set up the tree. The Ex is a mother by genetics only; she doesn't care about her children, they're only objects she possesses to make herself feel important; the only thing that matters to her is herself, which explains why she'll be on her third divorce within the next 5 years.)
Daughter said that Ned then came to her, asking if she thought The Ex "had a reason to be mad at him." (I don't even know why he thinks this is okay. If Husband and I were having a disagreement, the kids - any of the four - would be the last people that I would be discussing it with. Unfortunately, this isn't the only time that Ned has done this; not even one year ago, he was asking Daughter if she thought that The Ex was going to pack up and leave him just like she had left Boyfriend. If this is how he acts with Daughter when she's only there part-time, I can only imagine what he says/does to The Ex's youngest two children.) Daughter told him yes, because he knew that The Ex wanted to do it as a "family" (Whatever the hell that means to The Ex) and he did everything without her.
Somehow it got brought up that Ned did not come with The Ex to drop off Daughter on Sunday. Daughter said he wanted to come along, but The Ex asked who was going to watch the kids. Ned said that they could take the kids to The Ex's parents' house. Daughter said that her sister had broken her leg/foot, so she had a splint that reached mid-thigh and she was on crutches. (Daughter told me that The Ex's mom said that she had "broken the bone that grows with you." I told Daughter that literally did not make any sense, because all of your bones "grow with you." I swear to you, I have no idea how anyone in this family made it past second grade...) Daughter said her sister didn't want to go over to their grandparents' house, especially with it being snowy and icy (I'm not one to allow a child dictate what adults should/shouldn't do, but I can sympathize with this. I agree that this little girl should not have to hobble out to a car, get herself inside, drive a few miles to her grandparents' place, get out of the car, and hobble inside, and then have to repeat the entire process a few hours later.) Ned told Daughter to call The Ex's sister to see if she would come over and watch the kids. (Daughter didn't do this, and I don't blame her. It's not her job to find a babysitter for her siblings, just because Ned is insisting that he come along for the drive.)
At some point, Ned walked outside. When Daughter asked where he was, The Ex said he was outside and added, "He's probably calling Grandma." Ned came back inside. Sure enough, he had called The Ex's mom. Ned told The Ex that her mom said that they "weren't really doing anything" and they could watch the kids if Ned and/or The Ex dropped them off over there. The Ex finally told him no, he wasn't going with her; her daughter didn't want to go, she wasn't going to make her get into the car, and he needed to stay home to watch the kids. Ned reacted to this by telling The Ex's seven-year-old son, "I guess your mom is mad at me."
I used to think that The Ex was the most petty person I'd ever met, but Ned is certainly giving her a run for her money.
We left the skating rink around quarter to 5; I texted Daughter and Husband called her. Daughter said that she and The Ex were at Walmart. Husband asked if she could get dropped off at Kohl's because that's where we were heading. Daughter asked The Ex if she could do that and she said yes. Daughter said they were still going to be about 10 minutes; Husband told her that was fine.
At 5:16pm, Daughter sends me a text: "We said ten minutes so we went to get a wiper blade and they don't really know what they are doing 😂😂"
I replied and said that they have a chart to look up what size wiper blade you need. (I assumed she was saying that they couldn't find the right wiper blade.) Daughter replied, "He cant change it" I sent back, "Aaaand that's why you don't get your car fixed at Walmart LOL" Daughter sent back, "We are at autozone" We texted back and forth for a few minutes, and Daughter finally got dropped off at about 5:40pm. Here's what's great about it: when The Ex left Walmart, she literally drove right past Kohl's to go to AutoZone. Like, the two stores are literally on the same street; The Ex knew where everything was because she's been there multiple times before. The only reason I can assume she chose to go out of her way is that it "wasn't Husband's time yet."
Daughter gets into our vehicle, I comment that The Ex literally drove right past us and went to another store instead of just dropping Daughter off; Daughter says she didn't want to go by herself. I ask why; she didn't know. (I know why; it's because The Ex is so terribly insecure in every way imaginable, that she honestly cannot even go buy a wiper blade by herself.) Daughter then starts telling us how Ned did not come with them because The Ex was mad at him and they had a fight earlier that day.
I asked if they had fought about Lucifer again. (It's not really my business, but that's honestly what I thought it was going to be.) Daughter said no, it wasn't Lucifer this time. She said that The Ex had wanted to put up their Christmas tree as a family. Well, Ned decided to put up the tree by himself; when The Ex saw the tree up, she was immediately angry. Willing to give Ned the benefit of the doubt, I asked Daughter to clarify what she meant by "putting up the tree" - did he set up the tree, or did he set it up and decorate the entire thing? Daughter said it was everything; Ned set up the tree and decorated it with the younger kids. (For the first time in probably ever, I agree with The Ex on this one. That was a total dick move on Ned's part.) Daughter didn't even help with the tree; Ned said something like, "We saved you an ornament." (Okay, so I know I've never really gotten to know him but Ned seems like an asshole.) Daughter said that Ned had set up the tree while The Ex was in the shower. (I didn't think a shower took that long, but okay...)
Daughter said that The Ex was complaining to Ned how she had wanted to do this together; Ned replied with a smart ass comment along the lines of, "Well, when were we going to put it up? On Christmas?" Daughter told us that the previous year, their new dog had kept knocking ornaments off the tree and breaking them, some of which Son and Daughter had made in grade school; she said that The Ex wanted to wait until later to put up the tree to prevent the dog from breaking anything more than he already had. Daughter then said that The Ex had told Ned they could have set it up the next day or the day after that. I paused, and then said to Daughter, "Oh, I'm sorry. I had assumed that when she said 'as a family,' she meant that she wanted YOU to be there for it." Daughter said that The Ex DID want her there for it since she "hasn't helped Mom put up the tree for the last two years." I asked why not. Daughter said, "Well, we were here for Christmas last year, and I don't know why the year before that." I said no, they were not here on Christmas last year; that was why Daughter was here this year for Christmas. Daughter thought about it and said, "....then I don't know." (She may not, but I know exactly why she didn't help set up the tree. The Ex is a mother by genetics only; she doesn't care about her children, they're only objects she possesses to make herself feel important; the only thing that matters to her is herself, which explains why she'll be on her third divorce within the next 5 years.)
Daughter said that Ned then came to her, asking if she thought The Ex "had a reason to be mad at him." (I don't even know why he thinks this is okay. If Husband and I were having a disagreement, the kids - any of the four - would be the last people that I would be discussing it with. Unfortunately, this isn't the only time that Ned has done this; not even one year ago, he was asking Daughter if she thought that The Ex was going to pack up and leave him just like she had left Boyfriend. If this is how he acts with Daughter when she's only there part-time, I can only imagine what he says/does to The Ex's youngest two children.) Daughter told him yes, because he knew that The Ex wanted to do it as a "family" (Whatever the hell that means to The Ex) and he did everything without her.
Somehow it got brought up that Ned did not come with The Ex to drop off Daughter on Sunday. Daughter said he wanted to come along, but The Ex asked who was going to watch the kids. Ned said that they could take the kids to The Ex's parents' house. Daughter said that her sister had broken her leg/foot, so she had a splint that reached mid-thigh and she was on crutches. (Daughter told me that The Ex's mom said that she had "broken the bone that grows with you." I told Daughter that literally did not make any sense, because all of your bones "grow with you." I swear to you, I have no idea how anyone in this family made it past second grade...) Daughter said her sister didn't want to go over to their grandparents' house, especially with it being snowy and icy (I'm not one to allow a child dictate what adults should/shouldn't do, but I can sympathize with this. I agree that this little girl should not have to hobble out to a car, get herself inside, drive a few miles to her grandparents' place, get out of the car, and hobble inside, and then have to repeat the entire process a few hours later.) Ned told Daughter to call The Ex's sister to see if she would come over and watch the kids. (Daughter didn't do this, and I don't blame her. It's not her job to find a babysitter for her siblings, just because Ned is insisting that he come along for the drive.)
At some point, Ned walked outside. When Daughter asked where he was, The Ex said he was outside and added, "He's probably calling Grandma." Ned came back inside. Sure enough, he had called The Ex's mom. Ned told The Ex that her mom said that they "weren't really doing anything" and they could watch the kids if Ned and/or The Ex dropped them off over there. The Ex finally told him no, he wasn't going with her; her daughter didn't want to go, she wasn't going to make her get into the car, and he needed to stay home to watch the kids. Ned reacted to this by telling The Ex's seven-year-old son, "I guess your mom is mad at me."
I used to think that The Ex was the most petty person I'd ever met, but Ned is certainly giving her a run for her money.
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