Honestly, I'm more Daughter's mom than The Ex will ever be.
Daughter called The Ex on Thursday night and said she wanted to go to the boys' basketball game that was on Friday night. The Ex agreed to pick her up from the game but wanted Daughter to pay for her to get in. (I said out loud, in front of Daughter, "That's the tackiest thing I've ever heard of, to ask your child to pay for you.")
Friday morning, Daughter said that The Ex asked if Daughter was going to sit with her during the game; Daughter said she was going to sit with her friends, but she guessed she could sit with The Ex. She said that The Ex said she was also bringing Ned with her; Daughter said that the two of them could sit together.
Friday night, some of our neighbor's daughters also went to the basketball game. The daughters came home and told their mom that The Ex "doesn't seem very nice." All I can figure is that The Ex must have been in a bad mood about something, and was once again projecting her anger onto Daughter. Also on Friday, Daughter started texting me because the guy that she's crushing on friend-zoned her. (Daughter was literally in the same house as her biological mother...yet I'm the one she's texting about a guy.)
Saturday, nothing happened that I'm aware of. Daughter went to her grandparents' place and spent the night there.
Sunday evening, Daughter got dropped off over 10 minutes late. Daughter said they were over at some relative of her grandpa's because The Ex was getting her wedding dress hemmed. (You guys, I'm really getting excited for this. I want to see all of these pictures SO badly, you honestly have no idea...) I started thinking and got confused. I asked who had dropped Daughter off. (I had seen her grandpa's truck backing out of the driveway.) Daughter said her grandpa did. I asked if they had all come down together in his truck. Daughter says no; The Ex and Ned came together and Daughter rode with her grandparents. I asked why they had brought two vehicles all the way down here; Daughter said that they had the kids. I pointed out that they could have left the kids with one of The Ex's siblings or with Ned. Daughter said, "Yeah, right! [Ned] won't stay home by himself. He always has to come with. I can say to Mom, 'Let's go have a girls day'...nope, [Ned] has to come." (A number of thoughts ran through my head. The first was that I find it weird that Ned doesn't like The Ex to do anything without him. The second was that The Ex has used her kids to cheat in the past, so it's no wonder Ned doesn't trust her. The third was that one week before Daughter said this, she and I had an impromptu girls' day. We went and found her a prom dress for this spring and a homecoming dress for next fall; then we went and had Chinese food, just the two of us. The fourth was that I thought it was really special to me that Daughter and I had that day to ourselves, but now I'd been left wondering if it wasn't more important to her...)
A little while later on Sunday, Daughter said she was mad at The Ex. We asked why. She said when she had spent Saturday night at her grandparents' house, she left her contacts at Ned's house and wore her glasses. Daughter told The Ex that she needed her contacts so she could bring them back here for the next two weeks. Daughter said her grandparents drove over to Ned's house; Ned and The Ex had already left, locked the house, and left Daughter's contacts inside. Daughter said that The Ex was yelling back at her, saying that she should have had someone bring her back earlier. Daughter yelled that she asked multiple people and none of them would bring her; she said that The Ex could have left the house open because she knew they were on their way over, but The Ex insisted on locking it when she knew Daughter's contacts were inside. Then Daughter's phone died, so she said that The Ex probably thinks that Daughter hung up on her. (I honestly cannot even imagine Daughter yelling at me. I can just barely imagine yelling at her myself because very rarely does she do anything that would warrant her getting yelled at. But then again, if she needed her contacts, then I'd just ask where they were, throw them in my purse, and be done with it. The Ex willfully chooses to spite her child, and that's the difference between her and me.)
Daughter said they all drove over to this relative's house. While The Ex was getting her dress fitted/sized/whatever it is, Daughter sat in a chair with her arms crossed because she told me she was "still mad at [The Ex]." The Ex asked Daughter to help her adjust her dress; Daughter said, "Nah, I'm good." (Again, this is so uncharacteristic for Daughter; she is never defiant or disrespectful like this in our house...never. She's really hitting a breaking point with The Ex.) The Ex's mom asked Daughter to help The Ex, so Daughter did it at that point simply because her grandma had asked her to do it.
Monday night, Daughter looked at her phone and said, "Wow, thanks for totally ignoring my question, Mom." I asked what happened. Daughter said she had texted The Ex around 12:30 on Monday asking if she could bring a friend to The Ex's wedding. The Ex never answered and then around 6pm, started texting Daughter asking what meal option she wanted for the wedding. Daughter said she had asked if her friend could come because she wasn't going to know anyone that The Ex and Ned were inviting, and she wasn't going to share a room with them on their wedding night. Daughter said she wasn't even sure how much of The Ex's family was coming; she said the wedding is happening somewhere that's "like, 3 hours north of [Tiny City] and then the hotel is an hour away from that."
Husband told her to ask if he could come to the wedding. Daughter said, "Oh, I should!!!" Husband said he didn't want to go for the wedding, he just wanted the food. Daughter replied, "I don't even want to go!" (Daughter is standing up as a bridesmaid/maid of honor in this wedding between her mother and second step-father, but she doesn't even want them getting married in the first place. Ned also asked Son to be his "best man" less than 2 months before the wedding. This whole thing is weird. I'm sorry for being redundant, but I simply cannot wait to see pictures and videos of this. It's going to be amazing.) Husband then said that Daughter should tell The Ex that she was going to bring me to the wedding. I looked at Daughter and said, "Honestly? I think if you told your mom that you were bringing me, she'd be more angry than if you told her you were bringing your dad." Daughter said, "Ohhh, yeah! Definitely."
And then to finalize the last few days of Daughter wanting to throat-punch her own mother, she and I were at the store together last night. She called me over and showed me a shirt that read, "best. mom. ever." I pushed aside the first thought I had, which was, "Daughter showed that to me." I giggled at my second thought and told Daughter that I had a ridiculously petty thought. Daughter asked what it was. I told her I was going to buy the shirt, and then wear it to The Ex's wedding as Daughter's plus-one.
Daughter laughed.
I'm a little bit sorry that I said it out loud, but not really.
Friday morning, Daughter said that The Ex asked if Daughter was going to sit with her during the game; Daughter said she was going to sit with her friends, but she guessed she could sit with The Ex. She said that The Ex said she was also bringing Ned with her; Daughter said that the two of them could sit together.
Friday night, some of our neighbor's daughters also went to the basketball game. The daughters came home and told their mom that The Ex "doesn't seem very nice." All I can figure is that The Ex must have been in a bad mood about something, and was once again projecting her anger onto Daughter. Also on Friday, Daughter started texting me because the guy that she's crushing on friend-zoned her. (Daughter was literally in the same house as her biological mother...yet I'm the one she's texting about a guy.)
Saturday, nothing happened that I'm aware of. Daughter went to her grandparents' place and spent the night there.
Sunday evening, Daughter got dropped off over 10 minutes late. Daughter said they were over at some relative of her grandpa's because The Ex was getting her wedding dress hemmed. (You guys, I'm really getting excited for this. I want to see all of these pictures SO badly, you honestly have no idea...) I started thinking and got confused. I asked who had dropped Daughter off. (I had seen her grandpa's truck backing out of the driveway.) Daughter said her grandpa did. I asked if they had all come down together in his truck. Daughter says no; The Ex and Ned came together and Daughter rode with her grandparents. I asked why they had brought two vehicles all the way down here; Daughter said that they had the kids. I pointed out that they could have left the kids with one of The Ex's siblings or with Ned. Daughter said, "Yeah, right! [Ned] won't stay home by himself. He always has to come with. I can say to Mom, 'Let's go have a girls day'...nope, [Ned] has to come." (A number of thoughts ran through my head. The first was that I find it weird that Ned doesn't like The Ex to do anything without him. The second was that The Ex has used her kids to cheat in the past, so it's no wonder Ned doesn't trust her. The third was that one week before Daughter said this, she and I had an impromptu girls' day. We went and found her a prom dress for this spring and a homecoming dress for next fall; then we went and had Chinese food, just the two of us. The fourth was that I thought it was really special to me that Daughter and I had that day to ourselves, but now I'd been left wondering if it wasn't more important to her...)
A little while later on Sunday, Daughter said she was mad at The Ex. We asked why. She said when she had spent Saturday night at her grandparents' house, she left her contacts at Ned's house and wore her glasses. Daughter told The Ex that she needed her contacts so she could bring them back here for the next two weeks. Daughter said her grandparents drove over to Ned's house; Ned and The Ex had already left, locked the house, and left Daughter's contacts inside. Daughter said that The Ex was yelling back at her, saying that she should have had someone bring her back earlier. Daughter yelled that she asked multiple people and none of them would bring her; she said that The Ex could have left the house open because she knew they were on their way over, but The Ex insisted on locking it when she knew Daughter's contacts were inside. Then Daughter's phone died, so she said that The Ex probably thinks that Daughter hung up on her. (I honestly cannot even imagine Daughter yelling at me. I can just barely imagine yelling at her myself because very rarely does she do anything that would warrant her getting yelled at. But then again, if she needed her contacts, then I'd just ask where they were, throw them in my purse, and be done with it. The Ex willfully chooses to spite her child, and that's the difference between her and me.)
Daughter said they all drove over to this relative's house. While The Ex was getting her dress fitted/sized/whatever it is, Daughter sat in a chair with her arms crossed because she told me she was "still mad at [The Ex]." The Ex asked Daughter to help her adjust her dress; Daughter said, "Nah, I'm good." (Again, this is so uncharacteristic for Daughter; she is never defiant or disrespectful like this in our house...never. She's really hitting a breaking point with The Ex.) The Ex's mom asked Daughter to help The Ex, so Daughter did it at that point simply because her grandma had asked her to do it.
Monday night, Daughter looked at her phone and said, "Wow, thanks for totally ignoring my question, Mom." I asked what happened. Daughter said she had texted The Ex around 12:30 on Monday asking if she could bring a friend to The Ex's wedding. The Ex never answered and then around 6pm, started texting Daughter asking what meal option she wanted for the wedding. Daughter said she had asked if her friend could come because she wasn't going to know anyone that The Ex and Ned were inviting, and she wasn't going to share a room with them on their wedding night. Daughter said she wasn't even sure how much of The Ex's family was coming; she said the wedding is happening somewhere that's "like, 3 hours north of [Tiny City] and then the hotel is an hour away from that."
Husband told her to ask if he could come to the wedding. Daughter said, "Oh, I should!!!" Husband said he didn't want to go for the wedding, he just wanted the food. Daughter replied, "I don't even want to go!" (Daughter is standing up as a bridesmaid/maid of honor in this wedding between her mother and second step-father, but she doesn't even want them getting married in the first place. Ned also asked Son to be his "best man" less than 2 months before the wedding. This whole thing is weird. I'm sorry for being redundant, but I simply cannot wait to see pictures and videos of this. It's going to be amazing.) Husband then said that Daughter should tell The Ex that she was going to bring me to the wedding. I looked at Daughter and said, "Honestly? I think if you told your mom that you were bringing me, she'd be more angry than if you told her you were bringing your dad." Daughter said, "Ohhh, yeah! Definitely."
And then to finalize the last few days of Daughter wanting to throat-punch her own mother, she and I were at the store together last night. She called me over and showed me a shirt that read, "best. mom. ever." I pushed aside the first thought I had, which was, "Daughter showed that to me." I giggled at my second thought and told Daughter that I had a ridiculously petty thought. Daughter asked what it was. I told her I was going to buy the shirt, and then wear it to The Ex's wedding as Daughter's plus-one.
Daughter laughed.
I'm a little bit sorry that I said it out loud, but not really.
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