It's like her life is imploding.
I guess there's been a lot of negative stuff going on in Tiny City; as a result, Son and Girlfriend are talking about moving back down here. Son really wants to and has been bringing it up to Girlfriend pretty frequently for the past few months. Now with everything that's going on at her parents' house, she's considering it. Son is talking about getting a job at Husband's work, Girlfriend says she knows she has more job opportunities here than she would there. I told Girlfriend that I don't want to tell them what to do or make a decision for them; I don't want to push them to move back here and be miserable. But honestly, with everything that's going on, it would be best for them to move here. So I guess we wait and see.
This past weekend, they came down to visit and celebrate Father's Day. Son was saying that his aunts and uncle don't bother trying to spend time with them anymore and he doesn't know what their problem is; he said if they go over to The Ex & Ned's house, his aunts/uncle leave right after they get there. Girlfriend said it's "her fault" and that they don't like her, so that's why they're all ignoring Son. Husband and I both shrugged and said, "They don't like us either. Big deal."
Daughter is losing her patience with The Ex as each second goes by. She was complaining this past weekend that she can't leave The Ex & Ned's house because she has to babysit; she said even if she didn't have to babysit, she doesn't have any friends in Tiny City so there isn't anyone for her to hang out with. I told Daughter that I felt bad because we had briefly discussed going back to court last fall about modifying the summer placement; Daughter didn't seem overly enthused about that so we didn't pursue it. Now summer is here, she's miserable, and I feel guilty. I suggested that next summer, Husband could pick his second summer week to be the week that Daughter turns 18; then she'd be here, placement would be over once she turned 18, and that would be the end of it. Daughter kind of laughed and said, "Do it."
Daughter said that The Ex got her a job interview this week at the bank that she works at; Daughter said she doesn't want to work at the bank and she told The Ex that, but she keeps pushing Daughter to work there. Apparently, The Ex told Daughter that she was going to have to talk to Husband about her "new job" and tell him that she has to work until 5pm on Fridays and that she has to work on Mondays. (Husband's summer weekends are supposed to go from 5:30pm on Friday through 5:30pm on Monday.) Daughter told The Ex that the bank can work around her schedule, that she wasn't going to talk to Husband about anything, and that The Ex could talk to him if she wanted to. The Ex refused to talk to Husband about this job that she is pushing Daughter to get. As she was telling me this, I told Daughter that this isn't anything that Daughter or The Ex needed to talk to Husband about; Daughter's job here worked around her schedule with The Ex, so her job in Tiny City could do the same for her schedule with Husband. I told Daughter she should go to the interview and simply state that she needed off every other Friday by 3pm and that she'd need off every other Monday, because those are the days that she'll be with her dad during the summer. Daughter said she was going to intentionally bomb the interview so that she wouldn't get the job; then she changed her mind and said she wasn't going to the interview, period. Daughter is coming back home tonight so I'll update you on this when I know something more.
Daughter said she and The Ex got into a fight over the phone while she was driving down here with Son and Girlfriend on Friday; The Ex made a comment about how she "barely sees Daughter" because she was in sports. Daughter snapped, "So it's my fault that I enjoy playing sports?!" The Ex accused Daughter of "twisting the words." (I don't know how else to interpret what she said. When you blame sports for interfering with your time with your child, how is that not blaming them for playing sports?) Daughter said the conversation wasn't going anywhere so to get off the phone, she told The Ex she loved her; The Ex replied, "Sure you do," and hung up on her.
Daughter also said she got mad at her younger brother on The Ex's side. One night Daughter had asked her younger siblings if they wanted to go with her to their grandparents' house; they both said no repeatedly so Daughter told her aunt that she was the only one that needed to be picked up. Her aunt drove over to The Ex & Ned's house, when The Ex suddenly announced that both of the younger kids were also going to go with them. The kids both whined that they didn't want to go; The Ex told them they should just go for a little bit. Unfortunately, the aunt had only planned on Daughter coming so there weren't enough seats in the vehicle to take everyone. Daughter told the kids that there was only room for one more person. The kids reacted by getting mad at her and running back inside the house. Daughter said her sister called her and she repeated again that there was only room for one more person in the vehicle; her brother then took the phone and Daughter asked if he wanted to go or not. Daughter said that her brother started yelling, "I hate you! Everybody hates you!" and hung up on Daughter. Their aunt called back and started yelling at him for what he said to Daughter; Daughter said all you could hear was The Ex in the background telling him, "Hang up on her," which he did. (This kid is only 7 1/2 years old. I cannot even imagine how horrible he's going to be once puberty rolls around.) Daughter said she told Ned that The Ex was encouraging her son's behavior by not correcting him when he said something inappropriate and by telling him to hang up on his aunt. Daughter told us that as all of this happened, then The Ex got mad at her because she was leaving. (Can you blame Daughter? The complete dysfunction within this household is so prevalent, I can't imagine spending one day there, let alone the majority of my summer.)
Just yesterday, The Ex shared a post on Facebook that read, "If you continue to defend your child's WRONG behavior...one day you will pay an attorney to do the same." The Ex wrote, "That's what I've been saying..." I can state with almost absolute certainty that this post was directed at Lucifer and/or Ned. But it's being shared by the same woman who said it's okay for her 17-year-old son to hit women and told her 7-year-old son to hang up on people after he screamed that he hates them. The sad part is that she doesn't realize just how foolish she looks.
This past weekend, they came down to visit and celebrate Father's Day. Son was saying that his aunts and uncle don't bother trying to spend time with them anymore and he doesn't know what their problem is; he said if they go over to The Ex & Ned's house, his aunts/uncle leave right after they get there. Girlfriend said it's "her fault" and that they don't like her, so that's why they're all ignoring Son. Husband and I both shrugged and said, "They don't like us either. Big deal."
Daughter is losing her patience with The Ex as each second goes by. She was complaining this past weekend that she can't leave The Ex & Ned's house because she has to babysit; she said even if she didn't have to babysit, she doesn't have any friends in Tiny City so there isn't anyone for her to hang out with. I told Daughter that I felt bad because we had briefly discussed going back to court last fall about modifying the summer placement; Daughter didn't seem overly enthused about that so we didn't pursue it. Now summer is here, she's miserable, and I feel guilty. I suggested that next summer, Husband could pick his second summer week to be the week that Daughter turns 18; then she'd be here, placement would be over once she turned 18, and that would be the end of it. Daughter kind of laughed and said, "Do it."
Daughter said that The Ex got her a job interview this week at the bank that she works at; Daughter said she doesn't want to work at the bank and she told The Ex that, but she keeps pushing Daughter to work there. Apparently, The Ex told Daughter that she was going to have to talk to Husband about her "new job" and tell him that she has to work until 5pm on Fridays and that she has to work on Mondays. (Husband's summer weekends are supposed to go from 5:30pm on Friday through 5:30pm on Monday.) Daughter told The Ex that the bank can work around her schedule, that she wasn't going to talk to Husband about anything, and that The Ex could talk to him if she wanted to. The Ex refused to talk to Husband about this job that she is pushing Daughter to get. As she was telling me this, I told Daughter that this isn't anything that Daughter or The Ex needed to talk to Husband about; Daughter's job here worked around her schedule with The Ex, so her job in Tiny City could do the same for her schedule with Husband. I told Daughter she should go to the interview and simply state that she needed off every other Friday by 3pm and that she'd need off every other Monday, because those are the days that she'll be with her dad during the summer. Daughter said she was going to intentionally bomb the interview so that she wouldn't get the job; then she changed her mind and said she wasn't going to the interview, period. Daughter is coming back home tonight so I'll update you on this when I know something more.
Daughter said she and The Ex got into a fight over the phone while she was driving down here with Son and Girlfriend on Friday; The Ex made a comment about how she "barely sees Daughter" because she was in sports. Daughter snapped, "So it's my fault that I enjoy playing sports?!" The Ex accused Daughter of "twisting the words." (I don't know how else to interpret what she said. When you blame sports for interfering with your time with your child, how is that not blaming them for playing sports?) Daughter said the conversation wasn't going anywhere so to get off the phone, she told The Ex she loved her; The Ex replied, "Sure you do," and hung up on her.
Daughter also said she got mad at her younger brother on The Ex's side. One night Daughter had asked her younger siblings if they wanted to go with her to their grandparents' house; they both said no repeatedly so Daughter told her aunt that she was the only one that needed to be picked up. Her aunt drove over to The Ex & Ned's house, when The Ex suddenly announced that both of the younger kids were also going to go with them. The kids both whined that they didn't want to go; The Ex told them they should just go for a little bit. Unfortunately, the aunt had only planned on Daughter coming so there weren't enough seats in the vehicle to take everyone. Daughter told the kids that there was only room for one more person. The kids reacted by getting mad at her and running back inside the house. Daughter said her sister called her and she repeated again that there was only room for one more person in the vehicle; her brother then took the phone and Daughter asked if he wanted to go or not. Daughter said that her brother started yelling, "I hate you! Everybody hates you!" and hung up on Daughter. Their aunt called back and started yelling at him for what he said to Daughter; Daughter said all you could hear was The Ex in the background telling him, "Hang up on her," which he did. (This kid is only 7 1/2 years old. I cannot even imagine how horrible he's going to be once puberty rolls around.) Daughter said she told Ned that The Ex was encouraging her son's behavior by not correcting him when he said something inappropriate and by telling him to hang up on his aunt. Daughter told us that as all of this happened, then The Ex got mad at her because she was leaving. (Can you blame Daughter? The complete dysfunction within this household is so prevalent, I can't imagine spending one day there, let alone the majority of my summer.)
Just yesterday, The Ex shared a post on Facebook that read, "If you continue to defend your child's WRONG behavior...one day you will pay an attorney to do the same." The Ex wrote, "That's what I've been saying..." I can state with almost absolute certainty that this post was directed at Lucifer and/or Ned. But it's being shared by the same woman who said it's okay for her 17-year-old son to hit women and told her 7-year-old son to hang up on people after he screamed that he hates them. The sad part is that she doesn't realize just how foolish she looks.
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