"You can do whatever you want."
Daughter messaged me last Wednesday evening. This was our conversation:
Daughter: [Daughter's friend] want to know if I can go to her house Friday
Me: For how long?
Daughter: I think she wants me to stay over. I told her I had my party the next day.
Daughter: I'm also not going home (Back to The Ex's) on Monday.
Daughter: I'll tell you the long story/ fight I had with mom.
Me: Oh geez 🙄
Daughter: Yupp.
Daughter: She is VERY mad.
Me: Is it was somehow Dad's/my fault? 😂😂
Daughter: Kinda. She was saying is someone bringing you back I told he nope.
Daughter: Her*
Me: Um.. transportation is her responsibility. That's why she doesn't pay child support. Who else is supposed to bring you back, other than her?
Me: Although I heard she's telling people that Dad is taking her back to court for child support, which is completely untrue. (I'm sure you know by now that I can't stand putting kids in the middle or talking to them about things like this. The reason I did is because The Ex literally texted Daughter about 5 months ago saying that Husband filed for child support, which he did not. A few days later, The Ex was on the phone with Daughter and told her again that yes, Husband was filing for child support. In reality, child support had sent a letter to both parents saying they were allowed to request a review of the support case if they'd like. Husband never filed anything at any point in time.)
Daughter: It's whatever I tune her out sometimes 😯😯
Daughter: And thenn
Daughter: I told her about volleyball starting
Me: Dad emailed her a long time ago about volleyball. It's not your or our fault that she ignores it.
Daughter: Yeah ik
Daughter: Imma ask gpa to baring me home early friday tho
Me: 359 more days of this, my dude. We got this ❤
Daughter: For sure I do lol
Me: Love you
Daughter: Love you too
Right around the time that Daughter was messaging me, The Ex logged into 2houses for the first time in thirty-eight days. She finally read the message Husband sent in response to her asking if he wanted to pick up Daughter before we went out of state which was completely irrelevant at that point. She finally read the message that Husband had sent nine days prior informing her that Daughter wanted to play volleyball and basketball again this year. And finally, she read the message that Husband had sent asking if she'd like to modify the placement exchange time due to her repeatedly dropping off Daughter hours past the court-ordered time, yet picking her up earlier that the court-ordered time on Monday evenings; Husband said if The Ex did not want to modify the time, then she could expect to start picking up Daughter at the same time she had been dropped off for that weekend.
That last one must have gotten her attention because Daughter wasn't supposed to come back here until 5:30pm on Friday; The Ex dropped her off just before 8pm on Thursday night. I asked Daughter why she was early and she said, "Mom didn't want me to be late tomorrow night." (That's cute but no, your mom doesn't give a shit if you're late coming back to us. She finally read your dad's message and since he told her that he's not taking her shit anymore, she brought you a day early only because she didn't want to pick you up at 7-8pm on Monday.)
Daughter was also talking about finding a full-time job once she was 18; she said she could work with Husband and added, "Even though Mom wants me to work at the bank with her." (I keep saying that I don't know why The Ex keeps pushing this, but I do. She wants Daughter to have some type of connection with Tiny City because she knows that once she's 18, she won't be required to come back every other weekend like she is right now. Honestly, if it weren't for Girlfriend and their baby, I'm positive that Son would have moved back home with us by now. The Ex is watching her control slip away and she's panicking.)
I asked Daughter to tell me about whatever this huge fight was; she said she couldn't really remember all of it and said she should have just told me about it by text. She brought up that there's a group of girls having a girls' day on Tuesday, so she asked if she could stay here an extra day. That's when The Ex asked her if Husband was going to bring Daughter back to Tiny City. When Daughter told her no, The Ex claimed she didn't have a driver for Tuesday to pick up Daughter. Daughter suggested that she just stay here for the remainder of the week; that went over with The Ex about as well as you think it did.
Then Daughter said she brought up that volleyball was starting in a couple of weeks. This just infuriated The Ex even more, who proceeded to start bitching at Daughter about how summer was almost over and she never even got to spend time with her and blah blah blah. If I remember correctly, The Ex threw out her typical phrase of "Just keep your ass at your dad's, then!" as she typically does when she's not getting her way.
Saturday afternoon, Daughter was sitting on my bed while I was looking through my clothes. I asked if she was actually going to be staying for the rest of the week because we needed to make arrangements for certain things. Daughter said she didn't know and said, "I'm gonna call Mom right now." I said to text instead; Daughter said no, she was going to call. She called The Ex and asked if she was just going to stay through the rest of the week. I heard The Ex pause before she replied, "...you can do whatever you want, [Daughter]. Just know that you won't be coming home until the 19th then." And before Daughter could reply with anything at all, The Ex hung up on her. Daughter said, "I don't know what she's talking about, 'coming home on the 19th.' I'm gonna have volleyball then, so I can't go back there then."
And that's things so far this week.
Daughter: [Daughter's friend] want to know if I can go to her house Friday
Me: For how long?
Daughter: I think she wants me to stay over. I told her I had my party the next day.
Daughter: I'm also not going home (Back to The Ex's) on Monday.
Daughter: I'll tell you the long story/ fight I had with mom.
Me: Oh geez 🙄
Daughter: Yupp.
Daughter: She is VERY mad.
Me: Is it was somehow Dad's/my fault? 😂😂
Daughter: Kinda. She was saying is someone bringing you back I told he nope.
Daughter: Her*
Me: Um.. transportation is her responsibility. That's why she doesn't pay child support. Who else is supposed to bring you back, other than her?
Me: Although I heard she's telling people that Dad is taking her back to court for child support, which is completely untrue. (I'm sure you know by now that I can't stand putting kids in the middle or talking to them about things like this. The reason I did is because The Ex literally texted Daughter about 5 months ago saying that Husband filed for child support, which he did not. A few days later, The Ex was on the phone with Daughter and told her again that yes, Husband was filing for child support. In reality, child support had sent a letter to both parents saying they were allowed to request a review of the support case if they'd like. Husband never filed anything at any point in time.)
Daughter: It's whatever I tune her out sometimes 😯😯
Daughter: And thenn
Daughter: I told her about volleyball starting
Me: Dad emailed her a long time ago about volleyball. It's not your or our fault that she ignores it.
Daughter: Yeah ik
Daughter: Imma ask gpa to baring me home early friday tho
Me: 359 more days of this, my dude. We got this ❤
Daughter: For sure I do lol
Me: Love you
Daughter: Love you too
Right around the time that Daughter was messaging me, The Ex logged into 2houses for the first time in thirty-eight days. She finally read the message Husband sent in response to her asking if he wanted to pick up Daughter before we went out of state which was completely irrelevant at that point. She finally read the message that Husband had sent nine days prior informing her that Daughter wanted to play volleyball and basketball again this year. And finally, she read the message that Husband had sent asking if she'd like to modify the placement exchange time due to her repeatedly dropping off Daughter hours past the court-ordered time, yet picking her up earlier that the court-ordered time on Monday evenings; Husband said if The Ex did not want to modify the time, then she could expect to start picking up Daughter at the same time she had been dropped off for that weekend.
That last one must have gotten her attention because Daughter wasn't supposed to come back here until 5:30pm on Friday; The Ex dropped her off just before 8pm on Thursday night. I asked Daughter why she was early and she said, "Mom didn't want me to be late tomorrow night." (That's cute but no, your mom doesn't give a shit if you're late coming back to us. She finally read your dad's message and since he told her that he's not taking her shit anymore, she brought you a day early only because she didn't want to pick you up at 7-8pm on Monday.)
Daughter was also talking about finding a full-time job once she was 18; she said she could work with Husband and added, "Even though Mom wants me to work at the bank with her." (I keep saying that I don't know why The Ex keeps pushing this, but I do. She wants Daughter to have some type of connection with Tiny City because she knows that once she's 18, she won't be required to come back every other weekend like she is right now. Honestly, if it weren't for Girlfriend and their baby, I'm positive that Son would have moved back home with us by now. The Ex is watching her control slip away and she's panicking.)
I asked Daughter to tell me about whatever this huge fight was; she said she couldn't really remember all of it and said she should have just told me about it by text. She brought up that there's a group of girls having a girls' day on Tuesday, so she asked if she could stay here an extra day. That's when The Ex asked her if Husband was going to bring Daughter back to Tiny City. When Daughter told her no, The Ex claimed she didn't have a driver for Tuesday to pick up Daughter. Daughter suggested that she just stay here for the remainder of the week; that went over with The Ex about as well as you think it did.
Then Daughter said she brought up that volleyball was starting in a couple of weeks. This just infuriated The Ex even more, who proceeded to start bitching at Daughter about how summer was almost over and she never even got to spend time with her and blah blah blah. If I remember correctly, The Ex threw out her typical phrase of "Just keep your ass at your dad's, then!" as she typically does when she's not getting her way.
Saturday afternoon, Daughter was sitting on my bed while I was looking through my clothes. I asked if she was actually going to be staying for the rest of the week because we needed to make arrangements for certain things. Daughter said she didn't know and said, "I'm gonna call Mom right now." I said to text instead; Daughter said no, she was going to call. She called The Ex and asked if she was just going to stay through the rest of the week. I heard The Ex pause before she replied, "...you can do whatever you want, [Daughter]. Just know that you won't be coming home until the 19th then." And before Daughter could reply with anything at all, The Ex hung up on her. Daughter said, "I don't know what she's talking about, 'coming home on the 19th.' I'm gonna have volleyball then, so I can't go back there then."
And that's things so far this week.
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