"Never was asked, was told."
Girlfriend messaged me yesterday telling me that The Ex's son had gotten the baby sick again. I told her that it's that time of year, it's kind of unavoidable, I'm sick myself and am just getting over it, and that I understood her frustration because it's hard to watch your kids sick when they're that small. (I really tried to be diplomatic about this. It's starting to be cold season; you can't always prevent a kid getting sick so I wasn't going to blame The Ex's son for it. It happens.)
Girlfriend then said she was "SO MAD." She said that she and Son had gotten stuck watching The Ex's younger kids and added, "Never was asked, was told." (Again, not going to blame The Ex quite yet. It's possible that she said something to Son about it and he forgot to tell Girlfriend until the last second. Probably not, but I'm still willing to give her the benefit of the doubt.) Girlfriend said there was practically no food in the house, The Ex and Ned didn't leave them any money, and they had to watch the kids from September 29th to October 6th. I asked if The Ex and Ned were on vacation, again. Girlfriend replied, "YUP." I said they had gone without the kids, surprise... (Listen, I think alone time is essential to a healthy relationship. You need one-on-one time with your spouse to reconnect. But they literally take week-long vacations by themselves at least once a year and leave the kids with whoever will take them, only to have The Ex bitch at Husband that she doesn't have enough time with Daughter. And in case you were wondering yes, this WAS supposed to be The Ex's weekend but she's not going to be in town. On top of that, you need to make sure your kids have their essentials BEFORE you leave; it's not the responsibility of their caregiver to financially support your child while you're off pretending to care about your husband.)
Girlfriend said she didn't know what to make the kids for lunch. I asked her if she had asked The Ex what the kids are supposed to eat. Girlfriend replied that she was so mad it wasn't funny; she said that she and Son had no money as it is and now they "have to go buy shit." Girlfriend said she was going to write down everything they spent money on and The Ex would pay them back for everything, or they are "dead ass done with her." Girlfriend said that The Ex said she "forgot to leave money and there is plenty of food" but there was only enough food for 3 dinners. (I spectulated to someone else that The Ex was correct that there was "plenty of food" but just enough for her kids; The Ex probably didn't feel that she was required to feed Son or Girlfriend, despite them caring for her children for an entire week.)
Girlfriend repeated that they hadn't been asked to watch the kids, The Ex just told them that they were. I told her that it didn't matter if they had money or not; the kids were not Son or Girlfriend's children and they weren't their responsibility.
As if all of this wasn't enough, then Girlfriend said, "And she wants us to drive down and watch [Daughter] in the parade and send her photos with what gas🙃" I asked how they were supposed to drive down here if they were watching the kids, or if they were expected to bring the kids with them. Girlfriend said they were supposed to take the kids with them. (So not only has The Ex not left any money or food in the house, but now she wants Son and Girlfriend to spend their gas money to watch Daughter in a parade so that The Ex can pretend that she's a part of her life. Mind you, just a few weeks ago Daughter told me that The Ex drives alone for placement exchanges because "she's always tired from getting up around 5:30 in the morning and doesn't want to fall asleep with the kids in the car." Yet Son starts work at 4am; after working a full shift, The Ex is expecting him to drive 2 hours one way, with the kids in the car, so that The Ex can see a picture of Daughter in a parade. #logic ) I replied with the laughing-crying faces and a GIF that says, "It ain't gon' happen"
Girlfriend replied that Son said once he gets his money back, he's going to take a big step back from The Ex. I told Girlfriend that once The Ex got home, I'd tell her that they didn't have money for gas because they had to buy food, hand her a receipt, and ask her to repay them in 5 days. Girlfriend said they would and repeated again that she was so mad. I told her that I didn't blame her.
Then Girlfriend said on top of everything else, if she or Son wanted to have a cigarette they had to go all the way out to the road. The road is at least 50 feet away from the house. I can completely understand not wanting them to smoke in the house, but seriously...
And then the final cherry on this petty sundae was Girlfriend sending me a Snapchat last night and writing, "Having tacos cuz [The Ex] is paying us back 😂🤑" Husband and I just had a debate about Son and Girlfriend getting reimbursed. He thinks that The Ex isn't going to pay them back; I said that The Ex won't, but she'll make Ned pay them back. Guess we'll have to wait until next Sunday to see!
Girlfriend then said she was "SO MAD." She said that she and Son had gotten stuck watching The Ex's younger kids and added, "Never was asked, was told." (Again, not going to blame The Ex quite yet. It's possible that she said something to Son about it and he forgot to tell Girlfriend until the last second. Probably not, but I'm still willing to give her the benefit of the doubt.) Girlfriend said there was practically no food in the house, The Ex and Ned didn't leave them any money, and they had to watch the kids from September 29th to October 6th. I asked if The Ex and Ned were on vacation, again. Girlfriend replied, "YUP." I said they had gone without the kids, surprise... (Listen, I think alone time is essential to a healthy relationship. You need one-on-one time with your spouse to reconnect. But they literally take week-long vacations by themselves at least once a year and leave the kids with whoever will take them, only to have The Ex bitch at Husband that she doesn't have enough time with Daughter. And in case you were wondering yes, this WAS supposed to be The Ex's weekend but she's not going to be in town. On top of that, you need to make sure your kids have their essentials BEFORE you leave; it's not the responsibility of their caregiver to financially support your child while you're off pretending to care about your husband.)
Girlfriend said she didn't know what to make the kids for lunch. I asked her if she had asked The Ex what the kids are supposed to eat. Girlfriend replied that she was so mad it wasn't funny; she said that she and Son had no money as it is and now they "have to go buy shit." Girlfriend said she was going to write down everything they spent money on and The Ex would pay them back for everything, or they are "dead ass done with her." Girlfriend said that The Ex said she "forgot to leave money and there is plenty of food" but there was only enough food for 3 dinners. (I spectulated to someone else that The Ex was correct that there was "plenty of food" but just enough for her kids; The Ex probably didn't feel that she was required to feed Son or Girlfriend, despite them caring for her children for an entire week.)
Girlfriend repeated that they hadn't been asked to watch the kids, The Ex just told them that they were. I told her that it didn't matter if they had money or not; the kids were not Son or Girlfriend's children and they weren't their responsibility.
As if all of this wasn't enough, then Girlfriend said, "And she wants us to drive down and watch [Daughter] in the parade and send her photos with what gas🙃" I asked how they were supposed to drive down here if they were watching the kids, or if they were expected to bring the kids with them. Girlfriend said they were supposed to take the kids with them. (So not only has The Ex not left any money or food in the house, but now she wants Son and Girlfriend to spend their gas money to watch Daughter in a parade so that The Ex can pretend that she's a part of her life. Mind you, just a few weeks ago Daughter told me that The Ex drives alone for placement exchanges because "she's always tired from getting up around 5:30 in the morning and doesn't want to fall asleep with the kids in the car." Yet Son starts work at 4am; after working a full shift, The Ex is expecting him to drive 2 hours one way, with the kids in the car, so that The Ex can see a picture of Daughter in a parade. #logic ) I replied with the laughing-crying faces and a GIF that says, "It ain't gon' happen"
Girlfriend replied that Son said once he gets his money back, he's going to take a big step back from The Ex. I told Girlfriend that once The Ex got home, I'd tell her that they didn't have money for gas because they had to buy food, hand her a receipt, and ask her to repay them in 5 days. Girlfriend said they would and repeated again that she was so mad. I told her that I didn't blame her.
Then Girlfriend said on top of everything else, if she or Son wanted to have a cigarette they had to go all the way out to the road. The road is at least 50 feet away from the house. I can completely understand not wanting them to smoke in the house, but seriously...
And then the final cherry on this petty sundae was Girlfriend sending me a Snapchat last night and writing, "Having tacos cuz [The Ex] is paying us back 😂🤑" Husband and I just had a debate about Son and Girlfriend getting reimbursed. He thinks that The Ex isn't going to pay them back; I said that The Ex won't, but she'll make Ned pay them back. Guess we'll have to wait until next Sunday to see!
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