Things lately.

   For Husband and myself, life has been amazingly calm since we got our final money from The Ex and we haven't had any contact with her.  The only time she affects us is when she's messing with Son and/or Daughter's minds...I can't help myself, I get angry.  They didn't ask for her to be their mother, and they don't deserve for her to be their mother.

  A couple of weeks after The Ex skipped out on Grandson's birthday party, Girlfriend told me that The Ex messaged Son saying that she was throwing a birthday party for her niece & nephew's daughters, and she wanted to know if Son & Girlfriend were going to come.  Girlfriend said that Son pointed out that The Ex wouldn't even come to her own grandson's party, but was now throwing a party for two kids that weren't her grandkids; allegedly The Ex replied, "Wow."  As in, "How dare you even be offended that I missed your son's party but am willing to host a party for two other kids less than three weeks later!"

  Girlfriend also told me one day that she attended one of Son's therapy appointments and it was brought up that The Ex skipped their son's birthday party.  According to Girlfriend, Son's therapist told him that he needs to cut off contact with The Ex if he wants to start making real progress with his mental health.  Girlfriend said that Son agreed with this and was pretty on-board with the idea; however, he's scared that he would "lose" his siblings on The Ex's side.  I told Girlfriend that he was right - The Ex is petty enough that she would keep the kids away from him just because he didn't want to be around her.  I suggested that maybe Son could talk to Ned about him bringing the kids around so that Son could still spend time with them and be a part of their lives.

  Daughter is also still upset with The Ex for not attending Grandson's birthday party, but both kids continually resort to the narcissist-victim thing where they gloss over The Ex hurting them for the sake of maintaining their relationship.  I mentioned to Daughter that The Ex was having a birthday party for two other kids and Daughter was upset by it.

  About 5 days after I told Daughter about this birthday party, she came downstairs and she was on the phone with The Ex.  I could tell that she was irritated but minded my own business.  After she got off the phone, she said that The Ex "finally told her" about this birthday party, which was going to be held the same day they were celebrating Easter.  Daughter was irritated because I knew about the party almost a week before The Ex even mentioned it to her.  Daughter also said that The Ex told her that if she wasn't coming up for Easter, then The Ex wasn't going to make her an Easter basket. (Soooo...don't come because you love me and miss me and want to spend time with me.  Come so you can get an Easter basket.)

  Daughter also said that The Ex had asked if her "boy toy" wanted to come to Easter.  Daughter got irritated and told The Ex, "He is not a 'boy toy', he is a 'boyfriend'." (Daughter had been seeing this guy for almost a year at this point.)

  Daughter also said that The Ex & Ned were stupid because they have decided that they are not going to buy a bigger house like The Ex has been pushing Ned to do for at least a year now.  Instead, they decided that they are going to add on to Ned's current house.  Daughter said that they're going to expand the living room because "they want to be able to fit a dining room table in there." (Yes, the house is honestly that small.  There is currently no room at all for a dining room table.  And this is the house that The Ex moved herself and her 4 children into after dating Ned for less than 2 months.  Anyway...)  Daughter said that the two of them were stupid because she said, "What they should be doing is adding another bedroom.  But noooo, 'they want a dining room table.'" (She's 100% correct.  The house itself is legally only a 2-bedroom.  There's 4 people living there, not counting when Daughter goes to visit or The Ex's parents stay over when their electricity gets shut off for non-payment.  And now I'm wondering how well this remodeling plan is going, considering that lumber has skyrocketed over the last month or two.)

  Daughter did go up for Easter but her "boy toy" did not.  She said while she was up there, she was talking about going over to her grandparents' house and she opened the door to her grandpa's car and let The Ex's dog jump in.  Apparently, The Ex's son didn't want the dog going and got so angry about Daughter letting the dog into the car that he punched Daughter in the back.  Daughter said she turned around and started screaming at him that he should never hit girls; she said he started crying while she was yelling at him.  The Ex asked what was going on; Daughter told The Ex that he'd punched her in the back and The Ex replied, "Well, I didn't see it." (.............why would Daughter lie about something like that?!  Is this stupid bitch even serious?  Her son just punched his sister in the back, and her immediate response is that she "didn't see it"??  I just can't...)

  Next blog post will be about Daughter's boyfriend drama.  I've said before that this blog isn't about my family, it's about The Ex - and that's exactly what we'll be discussing.  Honestly, I don't even know why the hell the kids put up with her anymore because she's completely useless in every way, shape and form.