Can we just punch her in the face already??
I blogged previously about how Son's therapist had recommended that he distance himself from The Ex in order to start making progress with his mental health. This blog post is going to highlight exactly why it's necessary and I truly hope that Son makes the right decision for himself before things get even worse.
Awhile back, The Ex created a group chat on Facebook which included herself, Ned, both of her parents, all three of her sisters, her brother & his wife, Son & Girlfriend, Daughter, her niece, and two of her nephews. The Ex uses the group chat to announce family gatherings, birthday parties, her kids' extracurricular activities, etc. Son has left this group chat more than once, the most recent being in February.
Last Monday, The Ex re-added Son to the group chat at 5:57pm and then messaged the group about her youngest son's baseball schedule:
"[The Ex's son] plays today at [field name] at 6pm. Field 1" (No, I'm serious. She literally gave everyone three minutes' notice that her son was playing.)
Nobody responded to this message and I'm assuming that nobody attended the game either based on what followed.
After getting no response on Monday night, The Ex messaged the group again on Tuesday night:
"[The Ex's son] plays tomorrow (Wednesday) at 6pm. At [field name]. Only has 4 games left, 1 being away, so really 3 more games.
[Son] I hope you can make 1 or 2" (Sooo...she really only added Son back into the group so that she could try to publicly shame Son into attending his brother's baseball games. She could very easily have messaged Son privately about this, or even messaged Girlfriend and asked her if they could come. But no - call him out in front of the entire family.)
Again, nobody responded to this. A few messages went back and forth afterwards, including a couple where The Ex seemed pretty rude to her dad but whatever.
After all of this took place, The Ex decided to send a picture on Sunday morning of the remainder of her son's schedule to everyone and writes:
"The next 2 Mondays and Wednesdays are [The Ex's sons] last games... 3 games at [field name] and one away, would be really awesome if some of you would come. I'm not asking you to come for me but for [The Ex's son]. You don't even need to sit by me or talk to me.
[The Ex's son] always asks why no one comes to his games, it kills me lie to him that you all are sooo busy 😢
Even if you stopped out to see him for a half hour...
I don't know why my family is like this. Hate me all you want but not my son"
I'm going to break down the majority of this message piece by piece, followed by my commentary.
"I'm not asking you to come for me but for [The Ex's son]."
...why on earth would they have come to a child's baseball game for The Ex? Wouldn't the entire point be to watch the child & their team play, thereby having nothing to do with The Ex in any capacity aside from the fact that she birthed said child?
"You don't even need to sit by me or talk to me."
Was this previously a requirement, "You HAVE to sit with The Ex at a baseball game"? Like, she's giving you permission to be a grown adult and do whatever you want? And I know this is a rhetorical question, but who's so upset with her that they are missing a child's baseball game simply because they'd rather not speak to and/or look at her?? And if that person is that upset with her, why not make it right with that person instead of passive-aggressively attempting to guilt them into watching her son play baseball?
"[The Ex's son] always asks why no one comes to his games, it kills me lie to him that you all are sooo busy"
...why is he so worried about who is coming to his games? Baby Boy plays baseball; he has never once asked either me or Husband "why no one comes to his games" because Husband and I are always there, and that's who he really cares about. I don't understand this parenting mentality that your child needs an audience, cheering them on and telling them what a wonderful person they are at every turn. You can disagree with me, but I feel it sets unrealistic expectations for them and their adult life. My kids know that I love them and will do anything for them, but they're also aware that life isn't always going to be fair.
Additionally, why does she say that she's "lying" to her son by telling him that people are busy? They ARE busy because they all have their own lives and families that they are taking care of; her son is not their priority because he is her son, not theirs. But of course, she'll tell everyone that it "kills her to lie to him" that they are "sooo busy" because now, everyone will feel guilty for actually being too busy to come to her son's games.
"Even if you stopped out to see him for a half hour..."
What would the point of that be? Her son should be concentrating on the game and his teammates, not chatting it up with whoever came to watch him during his game.
"I don't know why my family is like this. Hate me all you want but not my son"
Her family is "like this" for many reasons. One of the biggest issues is that she always treats everyone else like crap but expects them to worship her; Daughter and Son have both told me that The Ex's nickname is "The Bitch of the Family" because she's so rude to everyone else but gets butthurt if anyone says anything to/about her. And the "hate me all you want" is, I'm almost 100% positive, a complete dig at Son. The Ex has posted in the past about how Son "hates her" or whined to Daughter and/or Girlfriend about how Son has "always hated her" or "treats her like shit."
Also, whoever said that they "hate" her son??? Son, Daughter, and Girlfriend have all expressed that they dislike the kid's attitude and who he is turning out to be due to how The Ex is raising him but I've never heard of anyone "hating" a child. With the exception, of course, being The Ex and Lucifer; he was competition, she couldn't stand it, and now she got him out of the picture so he's not a threat anymore. But I digress.
I was having a hard time distinguishing if this ranting is about The Ex's son, or if it's actually about The Ex herself. I know that she constantly turns the conversation back to herself at any possible opportunity regardless of who she's speaking to...but in this case, she might actually be right. Maybe nobody is coming to the games because of her. Maybe nobody wants to come around her son because of her. Maybe she is completely and utterly the entire problem.
But it's all a moot point. Even if The Ex was fully the issue, she's never going to accept that and she's never going to change so the speculation doesn't even matter.
Awhile back, The Ex created a group chat on Facebook which included herself, Ned, both of her parents, all three of her sisters, her brother & his wife, Son & Girlfriend, Daughter, her niece, and two of her nephews. The Ex uses the group chat to announce family gatherings, birthday parties, her kids' extracurricular activities, etc. Son has left this group chat more than once, the most recent being in February.
Last Monday, The Ex re-added Son to the group chat at 5:57pm and then messaged the group about her youngest son's baseball schedule:
"[The Ex's son] plays today at [field name] at 6pm. Field 1" (No, I'm serious. She literally gave everyone three minutes' notice that her son was playing.)
Nobody responded to this message and I'm assuming that nobody attended the game either based on what followed.
After getting no response on Monday night, The Ex messaged the group again on Tuesday night:
"[The Ex's son] plays tomorrow (Wednesday) at 6pm. At [field name]. Only has 4 games left, 1 being away, so really 3 more games.
[Son] I hope you can make 1 or 2" (Sooo...she really only added Son back into the group so that she could try to publicly shame Son into attending his brother's baseball games. She could very easily have messaged Son privately about this, or even messaged Girlfriend and asked her if they could come. But no - call him out in front of the entire family.)
Again, nobody responded to this. A few messages went back and forth afterwards, including a couple where The Ex seemed pretty rude to her dad but whatever.
After all of this took place, The Ex decided to send a picture on Sunday morning of the remainder of her son's schedule to everyone and writes:
"The next 2 Mondays and Wednesdays are [The Ex's sons] last games... 3 games at [field name] and one away, would be really awesome if some of you would come. I'm not asking you to come for me but for [The Ex's son]. You don't even need to sit by me or talk to me.
[The Ex's son] always asks why no one comes to his games, it kills me lie to him that you all are sooo busy 😢
Even if you stopped out to see him for a half hour...
I don't know why my family is like this. Hate me all you want but not my son"
I'm going to break down the majority of this message piece by piece, followed by my commentary.
"I'm not asking you to come for me but for [The Ex's son]."
...why on earth would they have come to a child's baseball game for The Ex? Wouldn't the entire point be to watch the child & their team play, thereby having nothing to do with The Ex in any capacity aside from the fact that she birthed said child?
"You don't even need to sit by me or talk to me."
Was this previously a requirement, "You HAVE to sit with The Ex at a baseball game"? Like, she's giving you permission to be a grown adult and do whatever you want? And I know this is a rhetorical question, but who's so upset with her that they are missing a child's baseball game simply because they'd rather not speak to and/or look at her?? And if that person is that upset with her, why not make it right with that person instead of passive-aggressively attempting to guilt them into watching her son play baseball?
"[The Ex's son] always asks why no one comes to his games, it kills me lie to him that you all are sooo busy"
...why is he so worried about who is coming to his games? Baby Boy plays baseball; he has never once asked either me or Husband "why no one comes to his games" because Husband and I are always there, and that's who he really cares about. I don't understand this parenting mentality that your child needs an audience, cheering them on and telling them what a wonderful person they are at every turn. You can disagree with me, but I feel it sets unrealistic expectations for them and their adult life. My kids know that I love them and will do anything for them, but they're also aware that life isn't always going to be fair.
Additionally, why does she say that she's "lying" to her son by telling him that people are busy? They ARE busy because they all have their own lives and families that they are taking care of; her son is not their priority because he is her son, not theirs. But of course, she'll tell everyone that it "kills her to lie to him" that they are "sooo busy" because now, everyone will feel guilty for actually being too busy to come to her son's games.
"Even if you stopped out to see him for a half hour..."
What would the point of that be? Her son should be concentrating on the game and his teammates, not chatting it up with whoever came to watch him during his game.
"I don't know why my family is like this. Hate me all you want but not my son"
Her family is "like this" for many reasons. One of the biggest issues is that she always treats everyone else like crap but expects them to worship her; Daughter and Son have both told me that The Ex's nickname is "The Bitch of the Family" because she's so rude to everyone else but gets butthurt if anyone says anything to/about her. And the "hate me all you want" is, I'm almost 100% positive, a complete dig at Son. The Ex has posted in the past about how Son "hates her" or whined to Daughter and/or Girlfriend about how Son has "always hated her" or "treats her like shit."
Also, whoever said that they "hate" her son??? Son, Daughter, and Girlfriend have all expressed that they dislike the kid's attitude and who he is turning out to be due to how The Ex is raising him but I've never heard of anyone "hating" a child. With the exception, of course, being The Ex and Lucifer; he was competition, she couldn't stand it, and now she got him out of the picture so he's not a threat anymore. But I digress.
I was having a hard time distinguishing if this ranting is about The Ex's son, or if it's actually about The Ex herself. I know that she constantly turns the conversation back to herself at any possible opportunity regardless of who she's speaking to...but in this case, she might actually be right. Maybe nobody is coming to the games because of her. Maybe nobody wants to come around her son because of her. Maybe she is completely and utterly the entire problem.
But it's all a moot point. Even if The Ex was fully the issue, she's never going to accept that and she's never going to change so the speculation doesn't even matter.
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