This entire family is insane.

  Sometimes I wonder how The Ex managed to get as crazy as she did.  Then I'm reminded about the rest of her family and it all makes sense again.

  A little while ago, Girlfriend messaged me saying that Son had just left the apartment freaking out because The Ex's younger sister had called him saying that The Ex's mom and older sister were in a "rollover accident."  Girlfriend didn't have much information other than that and asked if Daughter had heard anything; I asked Husband and he said that Daughter had absolutely no idea about the accident because nobody had called or texted her.  I told Girlfriend that I was trying to understand how on earth they had rolled the car; Girlfriend said they got t-boned at a stop light and she didn't know how that would result in a rollover, either.  I told Girlfriend that I wasn't trying to be an asshole but that The Ex's younger sister loves to be dramatic and blow things out of proportion; I said I didn't doubt they were in an accident, I was just questioning how severe it was because of the source of information.

  Yeah, I wasn't wrong.  The car was hit on the back panel and got spun around.  The Ex's younger sister declared this to be a "rollover accident" despite the car remaining on its four wheels and not leaving the road.  Anyway...

  We went up to Tiny City the night before Grandson's party.  Girlfriend was going to refuse to watch The Ex's kids for the weekend after The Ex bailed on them at the last second and declared that she "can't always watch the grandkids."  However, the car accident happened 2 days before the birthday party, so Girlfriend said she wasn't going to force The Ex's parents to take the kids right after The Ex's mom was in a car accident.  Girlfriend said that she didn't want to do it because it seemed like The Ex was getting her way yet again, but Girlfriend didn't want to be mean to The Ex's mom and force the responsibility onto her.

  The night before the party, The Ex sent two pictures to the family group chat. (Remember, she and Ned were going on vacation the weekend of the party.  So that makes two straight years she hasn't come to Grandson's birthday party.) The first picture was of the TV at their place; I guess everyone was supposed to think it was really cool because The Ex claimed it was a 65" TV.  Worse than that, The Ex sent a picture of the bathroom shower and wrote, "Our downstairs bathroom... guess how we're going to use the shower *emoji of a smiley face with its tongue sticking out* and it has a seat in there!!!! Oh yeah!!! LOL" (Why in the living hell would you announce to your parents, your siblings, your niece/nephews, and your children that you're going to be having shower sex?!  I could vomit...)

  The day of Grandson's party, there was suddenly a huge blow-up in their family group chat literally only 3 hours before the party started.  I'm going to use initials for everyone just to streamline it because there is a LOT to read through here.  Here's a breakdown of initials:
     TE - The Ex
     OS1 - The Ex's oldest sister
     OS2 - The Ex's second oldest sister
     YS - The Ex's younger sister
     GP - The Ex's dad/grandpa of the family
     GM - The Ex's mom/grandma of the family
     EN - The Ex's niece
     S - Son
     GF - Girlfriend
  And now, here's the transcript of the absurdity:

     YS:  Pretty hurtful that I don't get invites for someones birthday party I'm just as much family as everyone else its sad I had to find out by [OS2] and have to tell her we weren't invited didn't know anything about it. Guess I know where I stand with some SO called family (She literally waits until the day of the party to complain that she wasn't invited.  Also, I don't understand the jumping between "I/me" and "we" but I assume that when she says "we," she's referring to herself, The Ex's brother, and his wife.)
     GM:  *thumbs up* (I don't think this was intentional, but it's pretty funny.)
     S:  *biggest thumbs up possible* (This one was definitely intentional; Son announced to us that he was going to do it to be petty.)
     TE:  Quick question [YS]... would you have gone if asked? (This question, from the woman who isn't even attending her own grandson's party for the second year in a row.)
     YS:  I wasn't asked so what's the point of asking me it doesn't matter an invite would have been nice either way (So you're mad that you weren't invited, but you think it doesn't matter if you would have attended or not.  This does not make any sense.)
     GM:  Please stop it. I love you all.
     YS:  No I'm not going to stop it's so hurtful
     TE:  When I invite people its through mom and dad... maybe that's what happened. I don't think anyone was left out... (How is it possible that The Ex actually making sense?)
     YS:  Don't make excuses for them it was not by mistake (Nobody ever said the word "mistake.") they never invite us to shit (That's because you get invited and say you're coming, only to not show up and then have some half-assed excuse if you even bother giving one.)
     GF:  You were invited in the past and never came. So we re-invited the people that have showed. (She's not wrong.  I remember Grandson's first birthday party; Son and Girlfriend invited everyone on The Ex's side of the family.  Girlfriend told me she was worried that some of them - namely The Ex's younger sister, their brother, and his wife - would back out at the last second after she and Son had already bought all the food and drinks.  Well, guess what happened...Younger Sister told Girlfriend right before the party started that all three of them were, or had been, sick so they wouldn't be coming.)
     YS:  The one time we were invited was when covid was very beginning and we all had been sick (I snickered about this later and Daughter asked what I was laughing about.  I said, "[YS] is saying she didn't come to [Grandson's] first party 'because of COVID'?  Well, first of all, the birthday party was before COVID shut anything down.  Second, she lives with your grandparents and they both came to the party, sooo....???"  Daughter just laughed and rolled her eyes.)
     TE:  I'm not making any excuses for anyone. When I invite [OS1] and all her kids I go through [OS1]. That's all I'm saying
        Also we're remember it's still covid related and I only invite close family too for the longest time (The Ex literally threw a birthday party for her kids and invited her best friend that lives over 100 miles away.  But yeah, "close family," okay.)
     YS:  That's the ONLY time I've been invited to something so that bullshit lie of yours can stop (Girlfriend laugh-reacted to this; she was done being polite.  And I'm confused by this statement.  Younger Sister acknowledged that she was invited to the first party, but Girlfriend said she wasn't invited to future events because she failed to show up to the first one, so I don't understand how this is a "bullshit lie.")
        Covid related but ALL of her family and friends go and [OS2] is just as much family as me (Girlfriend never claimed that Younger Sister not being invited was COVID-related; The Ex is the one who brought up COVID.  And that's the difference: Girlfriend's family was invited, RSVPed, and attended.  You RSVPed and then backed out the day of the party, which is typical behavior for you.  You're not allowed to be "hurt" just because you weren't given the chance to be inconsiderate again.)
     TE:  Well, I hope the party goes extremely well. Have lots of fun, bc I really wish I could be there to c [Grandsons] reaction (If you wanted to be there, then don't plan a vacation at the time of the party.  It's quite simple, really.)
     YS:  Me too but oh yeah I wasn't invited (I swear, this entire family is nothing but narcissistic assholes.)
     TE:  Please stop [YS]! In all honesty this is petty... and very rude to use family chat... Go, if your really going to go and have fun!!! (I agree that it is petty and rude to use family chat...kind of like how The Ex used family chat to tell Older Sister 2 that "they" didn't want her fiance coming to their family Christmas.  Black pot, black kettle...)
     EN:  Rewind everyone. Pause pause pause.
     GF:  It's funny. We didn't invite anyone directly last year we gave the invite to grandma and grandpa and assumed anyone living with them would come. [OS2] did. [OS2] didn't have a direct invitation either. And not to mention every single time [Son] hits you up to hang our you ignore him. Maybe we assume you have better things to do. So before you come to a group chat and shit on us maybe you should think about all the time you have blown off your nephew. (The Ex like-reacted to this...which is hilarious considering that a week prior, she blew off her own grandkids.)
     TE:  I remember [The Ex's son's] birthday party last year where everyone was invited. Ordered so much pizza and my own family that lived down the road didn't make it.. Couldn't even call me to let me know they wouldn't be coming.. Now that's something I would didn't complain about bc I'm a bigger person... It hurt me more than it hurt [The Ex's son] *broken heart emoji* (First of all, this is not about The Ex but she sure tried to make it about herself.  Second, you don't get to complain about something and then say that you're "a bigger person" for not complaining about what you just complained about.)
        I think this enough... (Ah, yes.  The Ex has spoken and told everyone how hurt she was and that she's a bigger person, so the conversation is over now.)
     EN:  Moving forward, know you're invited. I get where you both are coming from. I only tell mom when I have parties assuming you all will come even though I dont talk to everyone. I get [YS] is hurt from no invite, but at the same time Id invite people even if they dont show up. (Well, nobody asked what you'd do.) I think this family needs to stop with the little things and focus on important things. (The Ex love-reacted to this.)
     TE:  I 2nd, 3rd and 4th that [EN]!!!! Well said!!!
     EN:  If you didnt get invited all ya gotta do is ask directly if you can come and thats it (The Ex and Girlfriend both love-reacted to this.)
     EN:  If they said no, thatd be a different story. But [YS] youre reacting and you have the right to react. No one is attacking you i dont think. Everyone here knows the importance of family. (HA.) But if you dont ask about being invited you assume you were left out and that wasnt the case. Not intentional. (The Ex like-reacted to this.)
     TE:  FYI- I'm like never on FB and if there's ever a get together, please text me, call me or stop by the house and let me know. I love my family!!! *emoji of smiley face with hearts* (Yeah, "call her"...like when Daughter tried calling for The Ex's birthday and The Ex refused to answer the phone?  Also, this once again has nothing to do with The Ex but she sure does love to try and make it that way.)
     EN:  Also, from me..i never got an invite but im ok with it only because im not that close with them and i respect that. Nothing against them, but we just arent close. But you are always welcome to come guys! (Uh...the reason they're "not that close" is because two years ago, The Ex's niece called Child Protective Services and claimed that she'd seen bruises on both Girlfriend and Grandson because Son was beating them.  The cops came to Girlfriend's parents' house, investigated, and found nothing.)
     YS:  I'm just leaving this group because pretty clear u have no family (I think she meant "I have no family."  This was the exact same thing that OS2 said back when The Ex told her that "they" didn't want OS2's fiance coming to Christmas.)

    *YS leaves the group*
     EN:  Yes. You. Do. *weary-faced emoji*
    *EN re-adds YS to group*
    *YS leaves the group again*
     EN:  Just take a breather no ones attacking you. You expressed your feelings and thats 100% okay to do.
     GM:  Can we please stop it? Ever since my mom died things don't go like she had it going. Love and miss all you all! (...."ever since her mom died"?  Her mom died over 20 years ago; what does that have to do with any of this?!)
     EN:  Families dont stay close when someone dies. Especially the ones who hold it together
     OS1:  If it matters ..... I love everyone no matter what!!!
     EN:  Me too!
    *EN readds YS to the group for the second time*
     GP:  *thumbs up*
     YS:  I can't ignore someone who NEVER calls me we dont exist to u guys ur at ur moms literally all the time and NEVER stop by us and we're literally 2 miles away (Okay, hold the phone.  How can Son & Girlfriend be at The Ex's house "literally all the time" yet The Ex is claiming that Girlfriend is keeping the kids from her?  And if they're only 2 miles away, why can't they come visit Son & Girlfriend at The Ex's house?  The answer is simple:  they don't want to.)

  The party itself went well.  The Ex's parents sat with Husband and myself; The Ex's kids hung out with our kids which was nice.  After the party, Daughter jokingly told Husband, "Grandma's making chicken tacos for dinner for us!"  The Ex's mom must have been in a petty mood herself that day because she told Husband, "Yeah, we should all go over to [The Ex's] house and eat them over there," and started laughing. (This made me giggle only because I knew The Ex's head would explode if she found out that Husband and/or I had been at her house while she was gone.)

  The day after the party, Girlfriend messaged me saying that she saw The Ex's sister-in-law at the grocery store.  Grandson also saw her and said hi; the SIL didn't respond so Girlfriend said, "He said hi to you."  SIL replied, "Okay, and?"  Girlfriend said she was done and walked away.  Girlfriend told me that even if they were mad at her, they didn't need to be mean to Grandson and said, "This family is so toxic it's unbelievable."

  ...after typing all of that, I need a nap.