Just when you thought she couldn't get any worse...

   A couple weeks ago, Girlfriend and Son came down to visit for the weekend.  We had a really good time.  They made a surprise gift for us; they used a poster board and paint to put all the kids' and grandkids' handprints and our last name on it.  I almost cried when they gave it to us, it was so sweet.  We all sat on the couch and held up the gift; I obviously posted it because it makes my heart full.

  A week after Son & Girlfriend had visited us, Girlfriend began messaging both me and Daughter.  She sent pictures of text messages on Son's phone.  The Ex had texted Son saying:
     Text 1: "Was wondering if you are ever going to stop over to open all your guys gifts? I never have my tree up this long... but didn't want to take it down until after you all have come...
[Ned] has tried multiple times calling and texting both you and [Girlfriend]. (Odd that Ned is the one calling and texting instead of The Ex being the one to reach out to either of them, but okay.) I see you've made plans for other family's but you own mothers. (Son & Girlfriend had gone over to The Ex's parents' house the night before, so I'm not sure if her text is talking about that or about the previous weekend when Son & Girlfriend had come to visit us.  Based on what she says later, I'm thinking it's the latter.)
We hope you had a great time with you family's. I'll remember (This constant jump between "we/I" or "us/me" is so confusing.  And what is "I'll remember" supposed to mean?  Is that some kind of threat?)"
     Text 2: "You and [Girlfriend] don't understand how much you've hurt me. (Here we go with this crap again...) Most of the time I feel like you do this on purpose and care less how your own mother feels. (Quoting a voice mail that The Ex left for Husband on December 28, 2014: "You do this to hurt me and I know it."  Just over eight years later and she's saying the exact same thing to Son.  She's so gross.)
If you can't communicate with me... I will be donating everything"
     Text 3: "I CAN'T AND WILL NOT DO THIS ANYMORE" (I have no idea why she's screaming, or what it is that she can't/won't do anymore.)

  Someone sent her a reply; I'm not sure if it was Son or if Girlfriend replied using Son's phone, because Girlfriend said Son was extremely upset by all of this and sobbing his eyes out.  Regardless, the reply told The Ex that she had not messaged them either, they'd both messaged Ned a few weeks prior asking when he would like them to stop by to repay the money he had loaned them and he hadn't responded; they said that Ned asked them after Christmas if they were going to pick up their gifts.  They said Son's work schedule was crazy and he didn't know when he'd be able to come over; they acknowledged that yes, they had gone to The Ex's parents' house because they were invited to come over.  They said that The Ex hadn't messaged them until that day and they weren't ignoring anyone.

  The Ex fired back:
     "It shouldn't be [Ned's] responsibility for you to make sure he gets his money, but yours. You borrowed it... I trust my kids IF you ever would stop by and give the money to them... (...they literally just told her that they asked Ned when they could come over to repay him and he didn't answer.  How are they making it Ned's responsibility??) [Ned's] run into you recently and you were in a hurry to get away. (Maybe they were late for an appointment.  Maybe they had explosive diarrhea.  There is literally any reason under the sun to explain why they were "in a hurry to get away" but really only one reason for Ned to not reply, which is that he never got the message.  It's not like they're not trying to do the right thing.)
[Son], I can't do this anymore... (I'm still confused as to what the eff it is that she "can't do" anymore.  All I've ever seen for 17 years is her treating her kids like garbage.) as much as I want all of you around, don't come over, don't call and don't ask about us... I have to put my health first... (Baby girl, you waved goodbye to your "health" about 20-some years ago.  You're obese, pre-diabetic, and claim you have depression...and those are just the issues that I personally know about.  "Your health" doesn't exist.)
You succeeded in hurting me. I know that was your plan... (Where does she come up with this?  What a wretched way to live, constantly thinking that everyone else's life goal is to "hurt" you.) you have NEVER thought of me as your momma... I've heard you calling [my name] mom and telling her you love her... so glad you're happy - you got what you wanted" (Holy.  Shit.  She is absolutely insane.)

  Daughter and I were absolutely fuming when we read this.  Daughter told me, "I'm so mad right now that I'm shaking."  She and I both messaged Son telling that we loved him; Daughter took it one step further and told him she's sorry that their mom was being an ass.

  My assumption is that sometime within the week after they visited, The Ex saw my picture on social media of our family with the gift; that's the only theory I can come up with as to why she went off an this tangent about Son & Girlfriend making plans with their "family's" and then spouted off about Son calling me mom and telling me that he loves me.  I'm sure any stepparent reading this has heard the phrase, "If a parent can love more than one child, why can't a child love more than one parent?"  Well apparently The Ex is of the mindset that only her new husbands should be considered "Daddy" while I should be completely despised.

  She's such a douche cannon.