Football 2011
Husband had told The Ex back in May that Son wanted to play football so we were going to sign him up. The Ex never said anything about this, positive or negative. Son was with us the night of the first football meeting, so he and Husband attended and were given a schedule. Son was going to have practice Monday through Thursday from 5pm to 7pm, and all the games were on Saturdays. Husband called The Ex and left her a message saying he wanted to discuss Son's football schedule.
The Ex called back and said she wanted to talk to the kids. Husband told her he would put the kids on the phone, but wanted to first discuss the football schedule. The Ex said she wasn't going to bring Son to practices because they were too far away and she "didn't have any money" (But she's having another baby). Husband told The Ex that Son had to attend practices or he wouldn't be allowed to play. The Ex then said she didn't have to take Son because she didn't agree to him playing; Husband reminded her that he told her about it in May and if she had a problem with it, she should have discussed it then and not after Son had been enrolled. The Ex claimed she didn't remember getting a text and then said if Husband had told her about it, she would have told him to enroll Son in football in Hometown, not our city. (Why, exactly? He doesn't live there or go to school there. Why would we drive almost an hour one way for football practice?) The Ex began complaining about being broke (Again) and said Boyfriend was paying for everything and borrowing money from people. Husband told The Ex that he didn't want to hear her complain about money when she had two car payments yet was now saying she couldn't afford to bring Son to something that was important to him. The Ex said, "Oh, are you jealous that you can't buy a new car?" (Yes, she did. She actually asked Husband if he was jealous of her car. When repeating this story to people, the reaction is always the same every single time: a confused look, followed by them saying, "You own a house - why would you be jealous of her car?!") Husband started laughing at her and said he was glad to have our vehicles paid off. The Ex then demanded that Husband put the kids on the phone and said if he didn't, she was going to call Attorney 3. Husband told her he was not finished talking to her about football. The Ex kept refusing to bring Son to practices. Husband told her that the court order required her to bring Son to practices; he had informed her about the activity, she did not object so we enrolled Son. The Ex said she never agreed to that and began screaming at Boyfriend to go find the court order. (Yet again, she agrees to things in court and then tries to fight over them. If you don't want to do it, then don't agree to it. Easy peasy)
Husband finally told her that if she wasn't going to bring Son to practices, then he wouldn't be returning the kids to her and he let the kids talk to The Ex. After hanging up, Son says, "Mom's upset and crying. She says you're not bringing us back." We explained to them that The Ex said she wasn't going to bring Son to practices which was why we weren't taking them back to The Ex's house, not because we were trying to keep them away from her. We explained that Husband had talked to The Ex about this months ago and she didn't have a problem then, but was now saying she wasn't going to bring Son to his practices. Son said, "Well, Mom doesn't have a lot of money." I told Son that if his mom didn't have a lot of money, then she shouldn't have bought a new car. Son said they were going to sell Boyfriend's truck; Daughter chimed in and said they hadn't sold it yet (Boyfriend had a truck and a "work car" which was actually a legitimate old beater work car, not a brand-new excuse-for-a-work-car. The Ex and Boyfriend had four vehicles between them, and she was the only one with a driver's license. Yet she "had no money.")
The next day, Husband typed up a letter to The Ex and mailed a copy to the courts. Husband said that because The Ex had told him repeatedly that she was going to violate their agreement by refusing to bring Son to his practices, he would not be returning the kids to her.
Son went to his first football practice on Monday, said he had a great time and couldn't wait to play an actual game. The next morning, The Ex left Husband a message at 5:40am saying she had called the police and wanted Husband to call her back. At 5:54am, Husband got a message from a police officer saying that The Ex had contacted them saying Husband was interfering with the court order, that The Ex did not agree to Son being in football, that Husband could be charged with a felony and needed to make arrangements to return the kids back to The Ex as soon as possible. At 6:02am, the same officer left me a message saying the same thing. I tried to call the officer back; I was told he was on the road but dispatch would send a message to his laptop asking him to call me back - never got a return call. The Ex left Husband another message at 9:45am asking him to call her back, saying she wanted to know why he hadn't returned the kids, and says, "I like the letter that you sent." (This is exactly how Husband closed the letter: "Due to the fact that you repeatedly told me last night you are not going to abide by the court order in which we agreed to facilitate our children’s extracurricular activities and stated that you refuse take [Son] to his practices or games when they are on “your” time, I will not be returning the children to you." Yet she's saying she wants to know why he hasn't returned the kids? Again - I swear she's being this stupid on purpose.) The Ex then left another message at 5:22pm; now she suddenly wants to talk to the kids. (Husband hadn't called her back because there was nothing to discuss. He told her the week before and then sent her a letter explaining what he was doing and why.) After the kids showered and ate dinner, we let them call The Ex back. She asked Son how football practice had gone; his exact response was, "Great, I love it!" (So it shouldn't be an argument anymore, right? The child loves the activity, that should seal the deal.)
Then at almost 10:30 at night, Husband's phone starts ringing. I answer it; it's another officer from New City. He says he needs to talk to Husband. I say Husband is sleeping and needs to be up in a few hours for work. Officer asks me to wake Husband up; I ask if I can help him with something. Officer asks if we have Son and Daughter; I say yes. Officer again asks me to wake up Husband and says he needs to speak with him. I ask if this was about the same thing that the first officer had called about this morning; he says yes. I tell him that I tried returning that officer's call and he had not gotten back to me. I explained the situation: we told The Ex back in May that Son wanted to play football, she didn't object to it, we signed him up, now she says she won't bring him. The officer asked to put me on hold, came back after a few minutes and said that this was a civil matter which needed to be handled through the courts (I could've told you that) and he would advise The Ex of the same thing. The officer then said The Ex had told him we were ignoring her and not letting her talk to the kids; I told him they had both talked to her at approximately quarter to eight that evening.
Two days later, The Ex showed up at Son's football practice with her parents. She said she was taking the kids home since that was Son's last practice that week, and that she would bring Son back on Monday the next week for practice, leave him with us for the week and would pick him up the next Thursday. Husband told her that was fine and if Son was making it to his practices, there was no issue.
The next Monday, Husband gets a call just after 3pm. It's Son - he says he doesn't want to play football. (Six days ago, he said he "loved" football - now he doesn't want to play after spending 4 days with The Ex, who didn't want to take him in the first place? A bit too convenient, if you ask me) Husband tells Son that he asked to play and is already signed up, he will be there for practice, and that's the end of discussion. (This kid didn't say again once for the rest of the season that he didn't want to play)
The Ex called back and said she wanted to talk to the kids. Husband told her he would put the kids on the phone, but wanted to first discuss the football schedule. The Ex said she wasn't going to bring Son to practices because they were too far away and she "didn't have any money" (But she's having another baby). Husband told The Ex that Son had to attend practices or he wouldn't be allowed to play. The Ex then said she didn't have to take Son because she didn't agree to him playing; Husband reminded her that he told her about it in May and if she had a problem with it, she should have discussed it then and not after Son had been enrolled. The Ex claimed she didn't remember getting a text and then said if Husband had told her about it, she would have told him to enroll Son in football in Hometown, not our city. (Why, exactly? He doesn't live there or go to school there. Why would we drive almost an hour one way for football practice?) The Ex began complaining about being broke (Again) and said Boyfriend was paying for everything and borrowing money from people. Husband told The Ex that he didn't want to hear her complain about money when she had two car payments yet was now saying she couldn't afford to bring Son to something that was important to him. The Ex said, "Oh, are you jealous that you can't buy a new car?" (Yes, she did. She actually asked Husband if he was jealous of her car. When repeating this story to people, the reaction is always the same every single time: a confused look, followed by them saying, "You own a house - why would you be jealous of her car?!") Husband started laughing at her and said he was glad to have our vehicles paid off. The Ex then demanded that Husband put the kids on the phone and said if he didn't, she was going to call Attorney 3. Husband told her he was not finished talking to her about football. The Ex kept refusing to bring Son to practices. Husband told her that the court order required her to bring Son to practices; he had informed her about the activity, she did not object so we enrolled Son. The Ex said she never agreed to that and began screaming at Boyfriend to go find the court order. (Yet again, she agrees to things in court and then tries to fight over them. If you don't want to do it, then don't agree to it. Easy peasy)
Husband finally told her that if she wasn't going to bring Son to practices, then he wouldn't be returning the kids to her and he let the kids talk to The Ex. After hanging up, Son says, "Mom's upset and crying. She says you're not bringing us back." We explained to them that The Ex said she wasn't going to bring Son to practices which was why we weren't taking them back to The Ex's house, not because we were trying to keep them away from her. We explained that Husband had talked to The Ex about this months ago and she didn't have a problem then, but was now saying she wasn't going to bring Son to his practices. Son said, "Well, Mom doesn't have a lot of money." I told Son that if his mom didn't have a lot of money, then she shouldn't have bought a new car. Son said they were going to sell Boyfriend's truck; Daughter chimed in and said they hadn't sold it yet (Boyfriend had a truck and a "work car" which was actually a legitimate old beater work car, not a brand-new excuse-for-a-work-car. The Ex and Boyfriend had four vehicles between them, and she was the only one with a driver's license. Yet she "had no money.")
The next day, Husband typed up a letter to The Ex and mailed a copy to the courts. Husband said that because The Ex had told him repeatedly that she was going to violate their agreement by refusing to bring Son to his practices, he would not be returning the kids to her.
Son went to his first football practice on Monday, said he had a great time and couldn't wait to play an actual game. The next morning, The Ex left Husband a message at 5:40am saying she had called the police and wanted Husband to call her back. At 5:54am, Husband got a message from a police officer saying that The Ex had contacted them saying Husband was interfering with the court order, that The Ex did not agree to Son being in football, that Husband could be charged with a felony and needed to make arrangements to return the kids back to The Ex as soon as possible. At 6:02am, the same officer left me a message saying the same thing. I tried to call the officer back; I was told he was on the road but dispatch would send a message to his laptop asking him to call me back - never got a return call. The Ex left Husband another message at 9:45am asking him to call her back, saying she wanted to know why he hadn't returned the kids, and says, "I like the letter that you sent." (This is exactly how Husband closed the letter: "Due to the fact that you repeatedly told me last night you are not going to abide by the court order in which we agreed to facilitate our children’s extracurricular activities and stated that you refuse take [Son] to his practices or games when they are on “your” time, I will not be returning the children to you." Yet she's saying she wants to know why he hasn't returned the kids? Again - I swear she's being this stupid on purpose.) The Ex then left another message at 5:22pm; now she suddenly wants to talk to the kids. (Husband hadn't called her back because there was nothing to discuss. He told her the week before and then sent her a letter explaining what he was doing and why.) After the kids showered and ate dinner, we let them call The Ex back. She asked Son how football practice had gone; his exact response was, "Great, I love it!" (So it shouldn't be an argument anymore, right? The child loves the activity, that should seal the deal.)
Then at almost 10:30 at night, Husband's phone starts ringing. I answer it; it's another officer from New City. He says he needs to talk to Husband. I say Husband is sleeping and needs to be up in a few hours for work. Officer asks me to wake Husband up; I ask if I can help him with something. Officer asks if we have Son and Daughter; I say yes. Officer again asks me to wake up Husband and says he needs to speak with him. I ask if this was about the same thing that the first officer had called about this morning; he says yes. I tell him that I tried returning that officer's call and he had not gotten back to me. I explained the situation: we told The Ex back in May that Son wanted to play football, she didn't object to it, we signed him up, now she says she won't bring him. The officer asked to put me on hold, came back after a few minutes and said that this was a civil matter which needed to be handled through the courts (I could've told you that) and he would advise The Ex of the same thing. The officer then said The Ex had told him we were ignoring her and not letting her talk to the kids; I told him they had both talked to her at approximately quarter to eight that evening.
Two days later, The Ex showed up at Son's football practice with her parents. She said she was taking the kids home since that was Son's last practice that week, and that she would bring Son back on Monday the next week for practice, leave him with us for the week and would pick him up the next Thursday. Husband told her that was fine and if Son was making it to his practices, there was no issue.
The next Monday, Husband gets a call just after 3pm. It's Son - he says he doesn't want to play football. (Six days ago, he said he "loved" football - now he doesn't want to play after spending 4 days with The Ex, who didn't want to take him in the first place? A bit too convenient, if you ask me) Husband tells Son that he asked to play and is already signed up, he will be there for practice, and that's the end of discussion. (This kid didn't say again once for the rest of the season that he didn't want to play)
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