Hell hath no fury...

  At the beginning of July, Husband emailed The Ex about her work schedule (Which she was still refusing to give to him) and about getting the kids to their baseball games the following week.  The Ex told Husband to bring Daughter back on Sunday; she said she would bring Daughter back that Tuesday for her game and take her home afterward (Instead of just leaving Daughter here, letting us bring her back to you after the games ended that week and making it easier on everyone - no no, have us make the drive on Sunday night, you will come back on Tuesday and then go back home.  Okay, fine.  It's your placement time, we'll do what you want)

  The day of Daughter's game, The Ex calls my phone at 11:20am. (I contemplated letting it go to voicemail but realized I'd feel horrible if something had happened to Daughter, she tried calling me and couldn't reach me.)  The Ex says it's downpouring in New City and asks what it's doing by me; I say it's not raining here.  The Ex says she hasn't watched the news, says she doesn't want to drive over here if the game is getting cancelled.  I tell her that if it's cancelled, either Husband or I will call her. (This was where I made a slight mistake)  The Ex asks how soon they would cancel it; I tell her they really only cancel if there's thunder and lightning.  The Ex repeats that it's pretty bad by her but "obviously no one knows what it's going to be like over there." (Actually, they do.  Those people are called "meteorologists.")  The Ex says she wanted to know because then she won't have to get off of work.  I repeat again that it's only cancelled if there's lightning and as of that moment, I have not heard anything about it being cancelled. (Maybe it will sink in if I say it twice?)  Now The Ex begins complaining that she asked Husband for the coaches' numbers two weeks ago and he hadn't given them to her (What difference would this make?  The game hasn't been cancelled.  Calling the coach yourself will not cancel the game.  Additionally, The Ex had been to a few different games for both kids.  She first asked Husband for this info at the end of June when she was driving to one of Daughter's games; Husband told her he had the info, but not right on him.  The Ex got to the game, never talked to any of Daughter's coaches or asked for their info.  She never asked any of Son's coaches for their info.  But of course, now it's a problem and it's Husband's fault)  I say nothing (Because really, what is there to say other than what I just typed out in italics?  Can't say that to her because it's just going to start an argument)  The Ex says she'll call me at 2pm (.....fine.)

  2pm comes and goes.  The Ex does not call me.

   At 2:46pm, I get a text message from Daughter's coach saying the game has been cancelled.  I don't react immediately because I had to pick up Baby Girl from summer rec.  At 2:55pm, I sent The Ex a text message that says Daughter's coach just told me that the game was cancelled and wanted to let her know before she left work and headed over here; Daughter's next game wasn't until the next week and Son was supposed to have a playoff game that week so Husband would probably email her.  I forgot about this, until I got done with work around 5pm and realized The Ex never replied to the message.  I left work and drove over to the park which was on my way home.

  There was The Ex's car. (Ohhhhh, hell.) Daughter came running over to my truck.  I said I guessed that The Ex never got my text; Daughter says, "What text?"  I tell her that the game was cancelled, I texted The Ex a few hours ago about it so she wouldn't drive up here.  Daughter kind of shrugs; it is what it is.  I tell her I love her and I'll see her next week.  I leave the park.

  The Ex immediately calls Husband.  The Ex leaves a ranting voicemail about how upset she is, particularly with me (Why is it my fault?) because she "called me a little after eleven to find out if there was a game." (And at 11am, there was still a game.  You cannot call me seven hours before the game is supposed to start and ask if it got rained out.)  The Ex says Husband doesn't know how upset she is that she wasted her time (I'm sure that Daughter felt really good hearing that bringing her to a game was a "waste of time") and if Husband will not give her the coaches names and numbers, she will not bring the kids (Okay, but you will so that means nothing) because this was "a waste of time and gas money that she doesn't have." (As far as time, you are the one who insisted that Daughter be brought back to your house on Sunday; if you didn't want to leave work early, you should have left her here and gotten a make-up day like Husband offered you.  As far as gas money, you are choosing not to look for a full-time job; you still have two vehicle payments and are complaining about how much your kids' sports cost you.  Get your act together.) The Ex says that Daughter told her that I texted her (I did) and says she doesn't have it in her phone; she demands to see phone records (Are my phone records your business?  Will showing you my phone records change what happened?  The answer to both of these questions is "no") Now, The Ex asks why I would show up at the park if I texted her (Because you didn't answer me, so I wanted to see if you were there or not) and says "It's all kind of bull crap if you ask me!" (I didn't, but thanks)  The Ex says she's upset and tells Husband,  "You should be...lucky" (Huh?  He should "be lucky"?  Is lucky a thing that you can "be"?  Does she mean, "You should consider yourself lucky"?  Is that what she meant to say but can't speak properly?)  The Ex says she's "VERY upset" (Unless you're turning green, I'm not impressed), now claims she never agreed to the kids playing here and if Husband "can't be open and verbal and let her know things, then maybe they shouldn't play over here." (Husband used to be "open and verbal" with you.  You lied about everything that did/didn't happen between the two of you.  Husband now sticks to text or email because you are insane)  The Ex ends the message with, "So, why don't you sit on THAT for awhile?!" (Sit on what?  Are you offering me a chair?)

  Husband emails The Ex regarding this.  Husband says I did not find out until almost 3pm that the game was cancelled, and that I sent her a text right away to let her know.  We took a screen capture of my phone and attached it to the email so she could see that I did, in fact, text her at 2:55pm.  Husband said I drove by the park to double-check because The Ex didn't reply to the text.  Husband tells her that he has given her the information for the coaches; if she felt something was missing, she could very easily have talked to the coaches herself at any of the games she's attended.  Husband reminds The Ex that she agreed to bring the kids to their games and if she goes against this, he will ask the court to find her in contempt.  Husband again asks The Ex for her work information and sends the email. (This email got ignored for the next eight days, until The Ex got pissed off about something else and sent some ranting emails; those will be in the next blog)