Holidays of 2010
The Ex called to wish the kids a happy Thanksgiving, then asked Daughter to put Husband on the phone. The Ex began stating that they were splitting Christmas; Husband corrected her and said that was the old order, they hadn't "split" Christmas since 2006 and this was his year to have the kids for Christmas. The Ex then changed to, "Well, we split their break and this is my year." Husband again told her that the order said nothing about splitting Christmas Break. The Ex began screaming that the kids had off and she wanted them for a few days. Husband told her he wasn't sure which week it was, so he'd check and get back to her. The Ex said, "So you're pretty much telling me no, I can't have them?" Husband said he wasn't telling her no, he was telling her he wanted to check the schedule and he'd get back to her. The Ex hung up on him.
A week later, The Ex began calling both of our phones saying she needed the kids' Social Security numbers for her insurance otherwise she wasn't going to be able to cover them for a year and this was, again, somehow Husband's fault because he didn't return their SS cards to her "like he promised" (He never promised that). Husband called her back, told her he didn't have the numbers off the top of his head but they should be in the divorce paperwork. The Ex said, "I don't even know where that is." (So call our phones repeatedly and blame Husband because you don't have the information you need about your children)
The Ex then said that she was getting the kids on Christmas weekend; Husband corrected her and told her that holiday schedule overruled regular schedule. Like the court order read, this was our year for Christmas so we were keeping the kids even though it was her weekend. The Ex began screaming and swearing that she didn't want to argue. Husband told her he wasn't arguing; he was explaining the schedule to her. The Ex hung up on him, yet again. (See this pattern? Husband uses logic, The Ex hangs up on him. THAT should show him...)
Four days before Christmas, The Ex called Husband and left him a message at 5:56pm saying she was trying to get a hold of him and wanted to talk about picking up the kids the next weekend. Then she left me a message at 5:58pm, saying she was trying to get a hold of Husband, so could I have him answer his phone? (We were not ignoring you, we were busy. Even if we WERE ignoring you, I am not going to force Husband to answer his phone regardless of who is calling. Husband is a grown man. I am not his mother) The Ex then called Husband again and left a message at 6:00pm, literally four minutes after leaving him the first message. Now she claims that she told him around Thanksgiving that she wanted to pick up the kids early (No, she didn't) and that we "are not the only ones having a Christmas!" The Ex says they are trying to plan their Christmas and they can't when Husband won't answer his phone (In a four minute window) or call her back (Again, these messages were left for Husband only four minutes apart. I have no idea why The Ex can't plan her Christmas; we do it all the time. We look at the calendar, note which days the kids will be gone, and make plans for the days that the kids will be here. Done. Christmas planned.) Husband called The Ex back and said she could pick up the kids at 5pm the following Friday, just like the court order read. The Ex began arguing that she wanted the kids at 1pm. Husband told her no, he'd like to say goodbye to the kids before they left so she could pick them up at 5pm. The Ex began swearing at him and, as always, hung up.
The day before New Year's Eve, we took the kids swimming at the YMCA and left our phones in the car (You don't need your phone when you're swimming, right? We could either lock the phones in the car, or we could bring them inside and leave them in a locker that has no security from which they could be stolen. We chose to leave them in the car) We got out of the pool a little after 9pm and found that between our two phones, we had TEN missed calls and FOUR new messages from The Ex. The Ex called Husband at 7:37pm, then called back at 7:38pm and left Message #1 saying she wanted to talk to the kids and asked him to have them call her back "sometime today." The Ex then called my phone at 7:57pm, then called Husband's phone and left Message #2 at 7:58pm saying she called half an hour ago (19 minutes is half an hour?) and she wanted the kids to call her before they went to bed. The Ex then called Husband again at 8:23pm and left Message #3 saying that she had been calling for almost an hour (46 minutes) and wishes that Husband "would STOP ignoring her phone calls so she can talk to the kids." The Ex then left Message #4 on my phone at 8:24pm saying that she had been trying to get a hold of Husband for almost an hour (47 minutes) and it would be nice if I could have the kids call her back. The Ex then called Husband's phone at 8:25pm, again at 8:27pm, called my phone at 8:27pm and then called Husband's phone once more at 8:28pm. (There was literally nothing The Ex had to talk to the kids about that couldn't have waited one more day; nobody was in the hospital, nobody died, they didn't get a new pet, nothing. She was picking them up the next day at 5pm. It was less than a 22-hour difference. But of course, she wasn't getting what she wanted instantaneously, so the appropriate response is to call our phones non-stop like a psychopath.)
The next morning, we took the kids to breakfast at McDonald's. They started telling us a funny story about how they had gone to McDonald's; when they went outside to look for Boyfriend, Boyfriend had come in the other side of the building to look for them. We laughed and asked where The Ex was when this happened. The kids said she was with their sister. We asked if she was inside McDonald's while the rest of them were trying to find each other. The kids said no, she was at home. We asked if Boyfriend had driven them to McDonald's and they both said yes. (The court order had changed to allow Boyfriend to have contact with the kids, but he was prohibited from driving them around because he still did not have a valid license. The Ex was fully aware of this and agreed to it in court) We asked the kids when this had happened and they said it was the last weekend they had spent at The Ex's (Which was two weeks before - nearly four months after the court order had been entered about unlicensed people not being allowed to transport the kids. The only thing I can assume about The Ex is that she feels that the court order is not there for her, it's only there for Husband. She can, and does, break the order frequently. Yet if Husband and her are disagreeing over something, she will quote the order if she thinks she will get her way)
Happy New Year, everyone.
Four days before Christmas, The Ex called Husband and left him a message at 5:56pm saying she was trying to get a hold of him and wanted to talk about picking up the kids the next weekend. Then she left me a message at 5:58pm, saying she was trying to get a hold of Husband, so could I have him answer his phone? (We were not ignoring you, we were busy. Even if we WERE ignoring you, I am not going to force Husband to answer his phone regardless of who is calling. Husband is a grown man. I am not his mother) The Ex then called Husband again and left a message at 6:00pm, literally four minutes after leaving him the first message. Now she claims that she told him around Thanksgiving that she wanted to pick up the kids early (No, she didn't) and that we "are not the only ones having a Christmas!" The Ex says they are trying to plan their Christmas and they can't when Husband won't answer his phone (In a four minute window) or call her back (Again, these messages were left for Husband only four minutes apart. I have no idea why The Ex can't plan her Christmas; we do it all the time. We look at the calendar, note which days the kids will be gone, and make plans for the days that the kids will be here. Done. Christmas planned.) Husband called The Ex back and said she could pick up the kids at 5pm the following Friday, just like the court order read. The Ex began arguing that she wanted the kids at 1pm. Husband told her no, he'd like to say goodbye to the kids before they left so she could pick them up at 5pm. The Ex began swearing at him and, as always, hung up.
The day before New Year's Eve, we took the kids swimming at the YMCA and left our phones in the car (You don't need your phone when you're swimming, right? We could either lock the phones in the car, or we could bring them inside and leave them in a locker that has no security from which they could be stolen. We chose to leave them in the car) We got out of the pool a little after 9pm and found that between our two phones, we had TEN missed calls and FOUR new messages from The Ex. The Ex called Husband at 7:37pm, then called back at 7:38pm and left Message #1 saying she wanted to talk to the kids and asked him to have them call her back "sometime today." The Ex then called my phone at 7:57pm, then called Husband's phone and left Message #2 at 7:58pm saying she called half an hour ago (19 minutes is half an hour?) and she wanted the kids to call her before they went to bed. The Ex then called Husband again at 8:23pm and left Message #3 saying that she had been calling for almost an hour (46 minutes) and wishes that Husband "would STOP ignoring her phone calls so she can talk to the kids." The Ex then left Message #4 on my phone at 8:24pm saying that she had been trying to get a hold of Husband for almost an hour (47 minutes) and it would be nice if I could have the kids call her back. The Ex then called Husband's phone at 8:25pm, again at 8:27pm, called my phone at 8:27pm and then called Husband's phone once more at 8:28pm. (There was literally nothing The Ex had to talk to the kids about that couldn't have waited one more day; nobody was in the hospital, nobody died, they didn't get a new pet, nothing. She was picking them up the next day at 5pm. It was less than a 22-hour difference. But of course, she wasn't getting what she wanted instantaneously, so the appropriate response is to call our phones non-stop like a psychopath.)
The next morning, we took the kids to breakfast at McDonald's. They started telling us a funny story about how they had gone to McDonald's; when they went outside to look for Boyfriend, Boyfriend had come in the other side of the building to look for them. We laughed and asked where The Ex was when this happened. The kids said she was with their sister. We asked if she was inside McDonald's while the rest of them were trying to find each other. The kids said no, she was at home. We asked if Boyfriend had driven them to McDonald's and they both said yes. (The court order had changed to allow Boyfriend to have contact with the kids, but he was prohibited from driving them around because he still did not have a valid license. The Ex was fully aware of this and agreed to it in court) We asked the kids when this had happened and they said it was the last weekend they had spent at The Ex's (Which was two weeks before - nearly four months after the court order had been entered about unlicensed people not being allowed to transport the kids. The only thing I can assume about The Ex is that she feels that the court order is not there for her, it's only there for Husband. She can, and does, break the order frequently. Yet if Husband and her are disagreeing over something, she will quote the order if she thinks she will get her way)
Happy New Year, everyone.
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