I'm Not Talking To You
After the cancelled game incident, The Ex brought both kids to Daughter's game the following Monday. At the game, Son's coach told us that the first playoff game would be that Wednesday and that Son needed to be at the field no later than 5pm that night. Husband went over to The Ex, told her all of this, and asked her to think about what she wanted to do and let him know.
A little while later, we noticed that The Ex got into her van. We told Son that The Ex was leaving so he needed to get going. Son said, "No, she's leaving me here. She doesn't want to drive back and forth all week." (Walking over to the picnic table we were sitting at and saying this herself wouldn't have made sense. Instead, tell the child that you're leaving him here and let him tell us. Sounds like a logical adult choice to me) In fact, The Ex was being so childish about this, that she wouldn't even come say goodbye to Son - she called him from her van (Yes, I'm completely serious) and left him a voicemail saying she was leaving. Son went over and said goodbye; The Ex left. (Remember all her whining and crying about wanting to see the kids play and how it would have been easier if the kids had played in Hometown? The first inning was half over, and The Ex took off. Daughter hadn't even made it out onto the field, and The Ex left.) That weekend was Husband's visitation weekend, so we assumed that we were just going to keep the kids through the end of the week and would take them back on Sunday.
The next night, Husband's sister and brother-in-law came to Daughter's game. Since we had the kids the rest of the week, Husband's sister said they could spend the night at her place on Thursday and she would take them to a movie on Friday since she had off of work.
Husband sent The Ex an email on Tuesday night about the kids' games the next week. Husband said he wouldn't know Son's baseball schedule until the games were played; Husband also said he hadn't gotten the information yet about Son's football schedule but would send that when he had it.
Wednesday night, The Ex replies to Husband's email from the week before about the cancelled game. The first thing the email said was, "For your information I didn't get any text message until 7:56pm when we were all ready home from [School City]." (The Ex is still pissed off. We sent her a picture proving that I did, in fact, text her before 3pm about the game getting cancelled. Not to mention that it just reeks of hostility when your opening statement is, "For your information...") The Ex says she made "a long tiring trip for nothing" (How is it tiring? Oh, that's right - because you're dramatic) The Ex again accuses me of "knowing" that she didn't get my text message (Yes, I planned it. I sent it and blocked it from your phone because I am a magician. She also spelled my name wrong...twice.) The Ex complains about not having the coaches numbers and says she would have called them herself if she had the numbers (At 11am, nobody knew the game was cancelled - not me, not the coach. It didn't matter who you called. Additionally, you said you were going to call me back at 2pm which you didn't do. You didn't think it was getting cancelled either, because the sun was out. So just stop with your self-pity already.) The Ex says she talked to Daughter's coach on Monday; she said the coach "indicated to her that he didn't have her information" (Lie #1) that he "remembered calling me" about the cancelled game (Lie #2), that he "felt really bad about the situation" (Not necessarily a lie, but the coach really didn't care one way or the other) and that she gave the coach her information (I gave the coach The Ex's information at the beginning of the season. I spoke to the coach about this conversation The Ex had with him; the coach told me that he had told The Ex that he had her information, just not on him at the current moment. Also, he never called me about the game being cancelled so he did not tell her that he "remembered" calling me.) The Ex says that this "miss communication needs to stop." (Who is Miss Communication? I've never heard of her. What does she need to stop doing?) The Ex says, "Some how I feel you both did not call me on purpose to see if I would show. (I texted her 2+ hours before she needed to be here, and I proved it to her. I fail to see how Husband or I did this "on purpose.") How hard would it have been to call and say, 'No game for [Daughter] today.'" (It's not hard. It's not hard at all. It's also not hard for you to call me and double-check about the game, now is it? You do realize that the phone works both ways, correct?)
Seven minutes later, The Ex emails Husband again about the email he sent her on Tuesday. Now she says that Son is supposed to be coming home to her that night because he doesn't have any more games that week (The Ex left Son with us 48 hours ago and didn't say a word. Now she's pissed off and demanding that we bring Son home that night) The Ex says that "if it is ok," she'll bring Son back at 6pm on Friday to Daughter's game (Exchange time is still 5pm)
After Son's baseball game, Husband emails The Ex back. Husband says that The Ex did not discuss anything with him regarding returning the kids; Son said he was being left here because The Ex did not want to drive back and forth all week. Husband tells The Ex that we've already made plans for the next few days because she did not discuss this with him. Husband reminds The Ex that he is still waiting for her work schedule.
Almost two hours later, The Ex replies to the email. The Ex tells Husband that "not bringing Son home today is very selfish" on Husband's part. The Ex says she doesn't care if we have plans, and we shouldn't make plans during the week when we know Son should be home with her. (We didn't. You left Son here without any discussion about what you wanted done or what your plans were. Son told us he was staying, we made plans based on that. Not my issue.) The Ex says Husband is breaking court order by not returning Son to her. The Ex says, "You also say that [Son] said to you that he was staying all week with you and you know that's a lie and your just making that up." (Why would we make that up? Not everyone lies like you do. The Ex has this mentality of always assuming the worst, because that's naturally what she would do if the roles were reversed.) The Ex says that Son had plans on Thursday with other relatives in New City (We found out later that she had to work all day. Son didn't have plans; she needed a babysitter.) The Ex says that Son knew what day he was supposed to come back by her; then she adds, "You scare the kids all the time and they always tell me they can't talk to you. So don't tell me he told you any thing." (You are so desperate to make Husband look like a bad parent, it's not even funny. By the way, we talked to the kids about this - they both said they're "scared" of Husband in a respectful way but they're not afraid of him and they know they can talk to him.)
Husband replied the next day and again went over what had happened on Monday - The Ex showed up at the park, left before the first inning was over, didn't talk to Husband about what she wanted done; we made plans based on the information that The Ex told Son to give to us. Husband told her that we talked to Son about this; he said he forgot to tell us that The Ex wanted him home on Wednesday night. Husband points out that this is why their court order says they are to communicate directly and not through the kids. Husband apologized (Again) for The Ex coming up for a game that was cancelled, reminded her that we sent the picture showing I did text her at 2:55pm and he doesn't know why she didn't get it until later. Husband reminds The Ex that she said to bring Daughter back to her that Sunday and that she'd bring her back on Tuesday; if The Ex would have just left Daughter here, The Ex wouldn't have needed to leave work early that day and wouldn't have driven to a cancelled game. Husband points out that just like this incident with Son, The Ex made a decision, did not communicate with Husband and is now upset because things didn't work out like she had planned. Husband also tells her that I spoke to Daughter's coach, who said that when The Ex talked to him she never asked him for his contact information (But how dare Husband not give her the coaches names and phone numbers!!!) Husband asks, again, for The Ex's work schedule.
A week later, Attorney 4 files for contempt of court against Husband. (No, honestly. Over one night, she filed for contempt) The Ex flat-out lies and says that she drove up to our house and that Husband refused to answer the door to let her pick up the kids (If you go off all of the times that the emails were sent, it was physically impossible for The Ex to have come to our house unless she showed up at 11pm, which meant we were sleeping and obviously would not have answered the door) and says that Husband did not talk to the police when they tried contacting him (Husband never got any call from a police officer that night. We found out later from a police report that they tried contacting him the next morning when Husband was at work and didn't have his phone with him, but the officer didn't leave a message so we had no idea that they called)
A little while later, we noticed that The Ex got into her van. We told Son that The Ex was leaving so he needed to get going. Son said, "No, she's leaving me here. She doesn't want to drive back and forth all week." (Walking over to the picnic table we were sitting at and saying this herself wouldn't have made sense. Instead, tell the child that you're leaving him here and let him tell us. Sounds like a logical adult choice to me) In fact, The Ex was being so childish about this, that she wouldn't even come say goodbye to Son - she called him from her van (Yes, I'm completely serious) and left him a voicemail saying she was leaving. Son went over and said goodbye; The Ex left. (Remember all her whining and crying about wanting to see the kids play and how it would have been easier if the kids had played in Hometown? The first inning was half over, and The Ex took off. Daughter hadn't even made it out onto the field, and The Ex left.) That weekend was Husband's visitation weekend, so we assumed that we were just going to keep the kids through the end of the week and would take them back on Sunday.
The next night, Husband's sister and brother-in-law came to Daughter's game. Since we had the kids the rest of the week, Husband's sister said they could spend the night at her place on Thursday and she would take them to a movie on Friday since she had off of work.
Husband sent The Ex an email on Tuesday night about the kids' games the next week. Husband said he wouldn't know Son's baseball schedule until the games were played; Husband also said he hadn't gotten the information yet about Son's football schedule but would send that when he had it.
Wednesday night, The Ex replies to Husband's email from the week before about the cancelled game. The first thing the email said was, "For your information I didn't get any text message until 7:56pm when we were all ready home from [School City]." (The Ex is still pissed off. We sent her a picture proving that I did, in fact, text her before 3pm about the game getting cancelled. Not to mention that it just reeks of hostility when your opening statement is, "For your information...") The Ex says she made "a long tiring trip for nothing" (How is it tiring? Oh, that's right - because you're dramatic) The Ex again accuses me of "knowing" that she didn't get my text message (Yes, I planned it. I sent it and blocked it from your phone because I am a magician. She also spelled my name wrong...twice.) The Ex complains about not having the coaches numbers and says she would have called them herself if she had the numbers (At 11am, nobody knew the game was cancelled - not me, not the coach. It didn't matter who you called. Additionally, you said you were going to call me back at 2pm which you didn't do. You didn't think it was getting cancelled either, because the sun was out. So just stop with your self-pity already.) The Ex says she talked to Daughter's coach on Monday; she said the coach "indicated to her that he didn't have her information" (Lie #1) that he "remembered calling me" about the cancelled game (Lie #2), that he "felt really bad about the situation" (Not necessarily a lie, but the coach really didn't care one way or the other) and that she gave the coach her information (I gave the coach The Ex's information at the beginning of the season. I spoke to the coach about this conversation The Ex had with him; the coach told me that he had told The Ex that he had her information, just not on him at the current moment. Also, he never called me about the game being cancelled so he did not tell her that he "remembered" calling me.) The Ex says that this "miss communication needs to stop." (Who is Miss Communication? I've never heard of her. What does she need to stop doing?) The Ex says, "Some how I feel you both did not call me on purpose to see if I would show. (I texted her 2+ hours before she needed to be here, and I proved it to her. I fail to see how Husband or I did this "on purpose.") How hard would it have been to call and say, 'No game for [Daughter] today.'" (It's not hard. It's not hard at all. It's also not hard for you to call me and double-check about the game, now is it? You do realize that the phone works both ways, correct?)
Seven minutes later, The Ex emails Husband again about the email he sent her on Tuesday. Now she says that Son is supposed to be coming home to her that night because he doesn't have any more games that week (The Ex left Son with us 48 hours ago and didn't say a word. Now she's pissed off and demanding that we bring Son home that night) The Ex says that "if it is ok," she'll bring Son back at 6pm on Friday to Daughter's game (Exchange time is still 5pm)
After Son's baseball game, Husband emails The Ex back. Husband says that The Ex did not discuss anything with him regarding returning the kids; Son said he was being left here because The Ex did not want to drive back and forth all week. Husband tells The Ex that we've already made plans for the next few days because she did not discuss this with him. Husband reminds The Ex that he is still waiting for her work schedule.
Almost two hours later, The Ex replies to the email. The Ex tells Husband that "not bringing Son home today is very selfish" on Husband's part. The Ex says she doesn't care if we have plans, and we shouldn't make plans during the week when we know Son should be home with her. (We didn't. You left Son here without any discussion about what you wanted done or what your plans were. Son told us he was staying, we made plans based on that. Not my issue.) The Ex says Husband is breaking court order by not returning Son to her. The Ex says, "You also say that [Son] said to you that he was staying all week with you and you know that's a lie and your just making that up." (Why would we make that up? Not everyone lies like you do. The Ex has this mentality of always assuming the worst, because that's naturally what she would do if the roles were reversed.) The Ex says that Son had plans on Thursday with other relatives in New City (We found out later that she had to work all day. Son didn't have plans; she needed a babysitter.) The Ex says that Son knew what day he was supposed to come back by her; then she adds, "You scare the kids all the time and they always tell me they can't talk to you. So don't tell me he told you any thing." (You are so desperate to make Husband look like a bad parent, it's not even funny. By the way, we talked to the kids about this - they both said they're "scared" of Husband in a respectful way but they're not afraid of him and they know they can talk to him.)
Husband replied the next day and again went over what had happened on Monday - The Ex showed up at the park, left before the first inning was over, didn't talk to Husband about what she wanted done; we made plans based on the information that The Ex told Son to give to us. Husband told her that we talked to Son about this; he said he forgot to tell us that The Ex wanted him home on Wednesday night. Husband points out that this is why their court order says they are to communicate directly and not through the kids. Husband apologized (Again) for The Ex coming up for a game that was cancelled, reminded her that we sent the picture showing I did text her at 2:55pm and he doesn't know why she didn't get it until later. Husband reminds The Ex that she said to bring Daughter back to her that Sunday and that she'd bring her back on Tuesday; if The Ex would have just left Daughter here, The Ex wouldn't have needed to leave work early that day and wouldn't have driven to a cancelled game. Husband points out that just like this incident with Son, The Ex made a decision, did not communicate with Husband and is now upset because things didn't work out like she had planned. Husband also tells her that I spoke to Daughter's coach, who said that when The Ex talked to him she never asked him for his contact information (But how dare Husband not give her the coaches names and phone numbers!!!) Husband asks, again, for The Ex's work schedule.
A week later, Attorney 4 files for contempt of court against Husband. (No, honestly. Over one night, she filed for contempt) The Ex flat-out lies and says that she drove up to our house and that Husband refused to answer the door to let her pick up the kids (If you go off all of the times that the emails were sent, it was physically impossible for The Ex to have come to our house unless she showed up at 11pm, which meant we were sleeping and obviously would not have answered the door) and says that Husband did not talk to the police when they tried contacting him (Husband never got any call from a police officer that night. We found out later from a police report that they tried contacting him the next morning when Husband was at work and didn't have his phone with him, but the officer didn't leave a message so we had no idea that they called)
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