Summertime 2012
The kids had literally been with The Ex for four days. Son sent both of us text messages asking for our credit card information (Snowball's chance in hell!) so he could get XBox Live free for 30 days. I told him to use The Ex's card. Son said The Ex's card wouldn't work. I told him to use Boyfriend's card. Son said Boyfriend was at work. I told him to ask when Boyfriend got home, and that it was very dangerous and irresponsible to share credit card information. (Plus your mom is crazy and I would never trust her with any of my personal information, even if my life depended on it)
About a week later, The Ex's sister sent a text asking why Son was different with us than he was with The Ex. I said probably because we require him to behave and act appropriate, she does not. Her sister said the last time they had gotten together, Son had asked if his cousins could spend the night; she said no, so Son felt the appropriate response was to tell his aunt to shut up and go home. The Ex was standing there while this happened and said nothing to Son about his behavior. (Great parenting right there.) Her sister then told me that The Ex had quit her job (What?!); I said she told us that she was fired, and wondered what the real story was. Her sister said, "Not sure the real story but she told me that she always wanted to lose her job on purpose" (Omfg....it's all coming together now.)
We later made plans to get together with the sister and her family; we brought up what had happened and Son apologized for being disrespectful. That same night, we made plans for two of the kids to spend the night at our place. Somehow The Ex found out about this and boy oh boy...she was not happy. Supposedly, The Ex was going to come to her nephew's confirmation party but chose not to because Husband and I had been invited; her sister told her that it was his party, he wanted us there and The Ex should have been coming for her nephew, not for us. The Ex complained that her sister spent more time with us than she did with The Ex; her sister told her it was because she didn't like Boyfriend. The Ex then complained that her niece and nephews never spent the night at her house; the sister said that was because last time her daughter had spent the night at The Ex's house, Boyfriend had gotten drunk and he and The Ex got into a fight. The sister didn't want her kids around that, so they avoided Boyfriend completely. The Ex made her umpteenth claim that Boyfriend "had changed" and her sister replied, "Yeah, we've heard that before!" (So much family drama, seriously...)
After the kids had spent a week at our house, Husband dropped them off at The Ex's. He was on his way back home when The Ex called and said there was head lice in her house. Husband asked when they had found out about this. The Ex said, "Two or three days ago. But for sure, like, five hours ago." (She knew three days ago there was head lice in her house. Instead of calling us and letting us keep the kids away from the lice or being able to check them and our kids, she waited until Husband dropped them off with her and headed home, THEN told us about it. This proves one thing: The Ex does not care about keeping the kids safe; she just wants to keep them away from us.) Husband said he would come back and pick up the kids. The Ex said no. Husband told her he didn't want the kids exposed to it. The Ex claimed that Son already had eggs (He had been at our house for a week, how did he get eggs?) We had to make a ton of phone calls; the kids had been playing with the neighbors, having sleepovers, etc. There were literally a dozen kids that they had come into contact with, any of them could have gotten lice.
A few hours later, The Ex calls up Husband screaming that Son just got yelled at by his friend's dad. Husband asked what she was talking about. The Ex's phone had started ringing; she saw the name and number and told Son to answer her phone. (Supposedly there was a mix-up; the friend's dad said, "Is this [The Ex]?" and thought the person had said yes, so he let loose. The dad was upset that his son now had lice because The Ex had hidden it from all of us. If The Ex would have said something, we would have checked the kids and the sleepover never would have happened.) The Ex is screaming at Husband that the friend's dad "shouldn't be talking to [Son] like that!" Husband told her that if the dad wanted to talk to Son, he would have called Son's phone - he called The Ex's phone because he wanted to talk to The Ex. The Ex yelled that the dad was making it like it was her fault (It is. It's entirely your fault. You knew there was lice in your house and you didn't tell anybody. This is 100% your fault.) and that "for all she knew, [Son and Daughter] got it from one of their friends!" (No, they didn't.)
Now I realize that lice happens. I am not blaming The Ex but I was upset, nonetheless. Baby Girl had hair halfway down her back; I had literally never cut her hair, and now I had to go through it with a fine-tooth comb, looking for lice and/or eggs. On top of that, Baby Boy was only a year old and we couldn't treat him for lice; we just had to wash his hair, comb it and hope for the best. Again, I did not blame The Ex for having lice in her house. However, I do blame The Ex for finding lice in her house, intentionally not telling us about it and exposing us, our kids, our neighbors, our family and our friends to lice. I absolutely blame her for this.
After the uproar over lice, the next month and a half was quiet. But of course, things don't stay this way for long when The Ex is involved.
About a week later, The Ex's sister sent a text asking why Son was different with us than he was with The Ex. I said probably because we require him to behave and act appropriate, she does not. Her sister said the last time they had gotten together, Son had asked if his cousins could spend the night; she said no, so Son felt the appropriate response was to tell his aunt to shut up and go home. The Ex was standing there while this happened and said nothing to Son about his behavior. (Great parenting right there.) Her sister then told me that The Ex had quit her job (What?!); I said she told us that she was fired, and wondered what the real story was. Her sister said, "Not sure the real story but she told me that she always wanted to lose her job on purpose" (Omfg....it's all coming together now.)
We later made plans to get together with the sister and her family; we brought up what had happened and Son apologized for being disrespectful. That same night, we made plans for two of the kids to spend the night at our place. Somehow The Ex found out about this and boy oh boy...she was not happy. Supposedly, The Ex was going to come to her nephew's confirmation party but chose not to because Husband and I had been invited; her sister told her that it was his party, he wanted us there and The Ex should have been coming for her nephew, not for us. The Ex complained that her sister spent more time with us than she did with The Ex; her sister told her it was because she didn't like Boyfriend. The Ex then complained that her niece and nephews never spent the night at her house; the sister said that was because last time her daughter had spent the night at The Ex's house, Boyfriend had gotten drunk and he and The Ex got into a fight. The sister didn't want her kids around that, so they avoided Boyfriend completely. The Ex made her umpteenth claim that Boyfriend "had changed" and her sister replied, "Yeah, we've heard that before!" (So much family drama, seriously...)
After the kids had spent a week at our house, Husband dropped them off at The Ex's. He was on his way back home when The Ex called and said there was head lice in her house. Husband asked when they had found out about this. The Ex said, "Two or three days ago. But for sure, like, five hours ago." (She knew three days ago there was head lice in her house. Instead of calling us and letting us keep the kids away from the lice or being able to check them and our kids, she waited until Husband dropped them off with her and headed home, THEN told us about it. This proves one thing: The Ex does not care about keeping the kids safe; she just wants to keep them away from us.) Husband said he would come back and pick up the kids. The Ex said no. Husband told her he didn't want the kids exposed to it. The Ex claimed that Son already had eggs (He had been at our house for a week, how did he get eggs?) We had to make a ton of phone calls; the kids had been playing with the neighbors, having sleepovers, etc. There were literally a dozen kids that they had come into contact with, any of them could have gotten lice.
A few hours later, The Ex calls up Husband screaming that Son just got yelled at by his friend's dad. Husband asked what she was talking about. The Ex's phone had started ringing; she saw the name and number and told Son to answer her phone. (Supposedly there was a mix-up; the friend's dad said, "Is this [The Ex]?" and thought the person had said yes, so he let loose. The dad was upset that his son now had lice because The Ex had hidden it from all of us. If The Ex would have said something, we would have checked the kids and the sleepover never would have happened.) The Ex is screaming at Husband that the friend's dad "shouldn't be talking to [Son] like that!" Husband told her that if the dad wanted to talk to Son, he would have called Son's phone - he called The Ex's phone because he wanted to talk to The Ex. The Ex yelled that the dad was making it like it was her fault (It is. It's entirely your fault. You knew there was lice in your house and you didn't tell anybody. This is 100% your fault.) and that "for all she knew, [Son and Daughter] got it from one of their friends!" (No, they didn't.)
Now I realize that lice happens. I am not blaming The Ex but I was upset, nonetheless. Baby Girl had hair halfway down her back; I had literally never cut her hair, and now I had to go through it with a fine-tooth comb, looking for lice and/or eggs. On top of that, Baby Boy was only a year old and we couldn't treat him for lice; we just had to wash his hair, comb it and hope for the best. Again, I did not blame The Ex for having lice in her house. However, I do blame The Ex for finding lice in her house, intentionally not telling us about it and exposing us, our kids, our neighbors, our family and our friends to lice. I absolutely blame her for this.
After the uproar over lice, the next month and a half was quiet. But of course, things don't stay this way for long when The Ex is involved.
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