"Things have to change"
After learning that The Ex had a texting number on Friday, Husband sent her a text on Sunday asking if they could switch weekends in December. The Ex didn't respond.
On Monday afternoon, The Ex's mom left Husband a message saying, "[The Ex's] sister-in-law called me. She didn't feel like calling you, so I'm calling you. (Why would either of you call Husband?)" The Ex's mom goes on about how The Ex wants to know if she's picking the kids up on Tuesday or not until Wednesday for Thanksgiving, and asks Husband to call her.
Husband was at the dentist with Son and Daughter, went grocery shopping afterward and remembered as we were sitting down to eat that The Ex's mom had tried calling him. Husband sent The Ex's mom a text saying that he had texted The Ex the night before and had emailed her that day.
Apparently, The Ex's mom did not get this text so she called Husband again. We were eating dinner, so Husband obviously didn't answer. The Ex's mom then called Son's phone and complained that Husband wasn't calling her back. Son told her that Husband was eating. The Ex's mom complained she had called earlier; Son told her that Husband was at the dentist then. (Extremely sad when a woman of this age has less maturity than her 13-year-old grandson.) The Ex's mom says that The Ex wants to know if she can pick him and Daughter up early. Son says they have to talk to Husband about that (High five, Son!) The Ex's mom tells him to "make sure" that Husband calls her back when he's done eating.
Husband gets done eating and again sends the text message to The Ex's mom. The Ex's mom texts back that The Ex doesn't have a phone, "That is why I am calling you!" (Great, here's a cookie)
Husband didn't reply to this, because the court order is very specific; it says, and I quote, "Both parents should make every effort to communicate directly with each other, rather than through a spouse, significant other or the children." We had this written in because The Ex was always having the kids ask Husband about switching days or weekends for her, rather than her talking to Husband like an adult
An hour and a half later, The Ex's mom texts again:
"Well we cant get ahold of her so i guess in that case she will be there tomorrow(Tuesday). [Boyfriends] sister called me and i am supposed to let her know so she can go over to [The Exs] and let her know what is going on when she can pick kids up"
...do you see how ridiculously complicated this has become? The Ex asked her sister-in-law to call Husband. Sister-in-law didn't want to call Husband, so she called The Ex's mom. The Ex's mom then called Husband, and then called Son. It couldn't possibly have made any sense at all for The Ex just to ask her sister-in-law, "Can I borrow your phone to call my ex-husband?" No no no, that's silly. Instead, let's play a game of telephone less than two weeks after your parents didn't listen to us and then got angry that they waited over an hour for no reason.
Husband texts her back asking why The Ex would be there on Tuesday, says The Ex can call him if she wants to talk about it. The Ex's mom texts back and said The Ex hasn't had a phone for three days (Why is this our problem?) Husband replies that The Ex texted him on Friday, if The Ex wants to talk about the schedule then she can reach him and he's not going to talk about it with all these other people.
The Ex's mom texts back:
"I am not just another person. I am the kids grandma" (Great, I'm their stepmother. What's your point? You have no legal standing here.) Husband texts her back, says his court agreement is with The Ex, he does not have children with her or Boyfriend's sister; Husband repeats he will talk to The Ex about this, and asks The Ex's mom not to call Son about this again because she is putting him in the middle.
As Husband is writing this reply, The Ex's mom tries calling him again, leaves him a message saying he's "never been like this" and all she's doing is "asking a simple little question, what's wrong with you?" Then she texts in response to his request that she not call Son and put him in the middle:
No you are (Yes, she did. She honestly wrote this to him) Things have to change. (No, they don't) She has no phone (Again, this is not my problem. There are any number of ways that The Ex could have avoided having her phone disconnected but she did not. She very easily could have borrowed a phone to call Husband about this instead of dragging everyone else into it. Also, her employer offers free wi-fi so she has no legitimate reason not to be checking her email or just sending Husband an email herself)
At this point, The Ex's mom is not going to listen to anything that anyone else has to say so Husband texts back, tells her to have a good night. She replies:
[The Ex's dad] and I have also been put in the middle. (Again, not my problem. You allow The Ex to put you there) You said you would never do that (...huh? The Ex had her sister-in-law call you. The Ex is refusing to communicate with Husband. Husband is removing you from the equation. Explain how you can possibly feel, in any way imaginable, that is this Husband's fault?!) Good night [Husband]. Have a nice Thanksgiving!! (Holy passive-aggressive)
Aaaand as of today, The Ex still has no phone. Well, at least she hasn't given us a phone number.
On Monday afternoon, The Ex's mom left Husband a message saying, "[The Ex's] sister-in-law called me. She didn't feel like calling you, so I'm calling you. (Why would either of you call Husband?)" The Ex's mom goes on about how The Ex wants to know if she's picking the kids up on Tuesday or not until Wednesday for Thanksgiving, and asks Husband to call her.
Husband was at the dentist with Son and Daughter, went grocery shopping afterward and remembered as we were sitting down to eat that The Ex's mom had tried calling him. Husband sent The Ex's mom a text saying that he had texted The Ex the night before and had emailed her that day.
Apparently, The Ex's mom did not get this text so she called Husband again. We were eating dinner, so Husband obviously didn't answer. The Ex's mom then called Son's phone and complained that Husband wasn't calling her back. Son told her that Husband was eating. The Ex's mom complained she had called earlier; Son told her that Husband was at the dentist then. (Extremely sad when a woman of this age has less maturity than her 13-year-old grandson.) The Ex's mom says that The Ex wants to know if she can pick him and Daughter up early. Son says they have to talk to Husband about that (High five, Son!) The Ex's mom tells him to "make sure" that Husband calls her back when he's done eating.
Husband gets done eating and again sends the text message to The Ex's mom. The Ex's mom texts back that The Ex doesn't have a phone, "That is why I am calling you!" (Great, here's a cookie)
Husband didn't reply to this, because the court order is very specific; it says, and I quote, "Both parents should make every effort to communicate directly with each other, rather than through a spouse, significant other or the children." We had this written in because The Ex was always having the kids ask Husband about switching days or weekends for her, rather than her talking to Husband like an adult
An hour and a half later, The Ex's mom texts again:
"Well we cant get ahold of her so i guess in that case she will be there tomorrow(Tuesday). [Boyfriends] sister called me and i am supposed to let her know so she can go over to [The Exs] and let her know what is going on when she can pick kids up"
...do you see how ridiculously complicated this has become? The Ex asked her sister-in-law to call Husband. Sister-in-law didn't want to call Husband, so she called The Ex's mom. The Ex's mom then called Husband, and then called Son. It couldn't possibly have made any sense at all for The Ex just to ask her sister-in-law, "Can I borrow your phone to call my ex-husband?" No no no, that's silly. Instead, let's play a game of telephone less than two weeks after your parents didn't listen to us and then got angry that they waited over an hour for no reason.
Husband texts her back asking why The Ex would be there on Tuesday, says The Ex can call him if she wants to talk about it. The Ex's mom texts back and said The Ex hasn't had a phone for three days (Why is this our problem?) Husband replies that The Ex texted him on Friday, if The Ex wants to talk about the schedule then she can reach him and he's not going to talk about it with all these other people.
The Ex's mom texts back:
"I am not just another person. I am the kids grandma" (Great, I'm their stepmother. What's your point? You have no legal standing here.) Husband texts her back, says his court agreement is with The Ex, he does not have children with her or Boyfriend's sister; Husband repeats he will talk to The Ex about this, and asks The Ex's mom not to call Son about this again because she is putting him in the middle.
As Husband is writing this reply, The Ex's mom tries calling him again, leaves him a message saying he's "never been like this" and all she's doing is "asking a simple little question, what's wrong with you?" Then she texts in response to his request that she not call Son and put him in the middle:
No you are (Yes, she did. She honestly wrote this to him) Things have to change. (No, they don't) She has no phone (Again, this is not my problem. There are any number of ways that The Ex could have avoided having her phone disconnected but she did not. She very easily could have borrowed a phone to call Husband about this instead of dragging everyone else into it. Also, her employer offers free wi-fi so she has no legitimate reason not to be checking her email or just sending Husband an email herself)
At this point, The Ex's mom is not going to listen to anything that anyone else has to say so Husband texts back, tells her to have a good night. She replies:
[The Ex's dad] and I have also been put in the middle. (Again, not my problem. You allow The Ex to put you there) You said you would never do that (...huh? The Ex had her sister-in-law call you. The Ex is refusing to communicate with Husband. Husband is removing you from the equation. Explain how you can possibly feel, in any way imaginable, that is this Husband's fault?!) Good night [Husband]. Have a nice Thanksgiving!! (Holy passive-aggressive)
Aaaand as of today, The Ex still has no phone. Well, at least she hasn't given us a phone number.
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