Son Van Gogh
It's been quite awhile since I posted. Things have been unbelievably calm and quiet in regard to The Ex. I don't have an exact reason for it but there could be any number of reasons: The Ex is quiet/happier because Boyfriend is in jail right now so there's less arguing in her own household; The Ex doesn't have anything to fight about right this second; The Ex doesn't want to email Husband because she looks stupid every time she clicks "Send." I don't know, but I'm enjoying the peace and quiet we've got over here.
Going back quite a few months, Son started asking if he could get his ear pierced. Husband told him that he would talk to The Ex about it and was not going to take Son unless The Ex was okay with it. (Even though The Ex took Daughter to get her ears double-pierced at the age of 7, right before we picked the kids up on a Sunday afternoon; she called last minute and said to pick up the kids at the mall instead of her house, Daughter showed us when she got in the car. No no, we're the stable parents. We like to do things the right way, like make sure both parents are okay with there being an extra hole in the child's head before putting it there.) Husband emailed The Ex and asked what she thought of it.
Two days later, The Ex sends Husband a (long-winded) text at almost 11pm asking for a copy of Daughter's basketball schedule but asked him not to send it by email because she was "having problems with it." (Absolutely no mention of Son's ear.) The next day, Husband replied and said he got a notification that she read his email last night, he emailed her the schedule in November, that he had sent two emails about Daughter's tournament that weekend and asked her to reply to them.
The Ex says she "probably did" read the emails (...what? What do you mean you "probably" read them? Somebody read them; we got a notification saying it had been opened from The Ex's email.) but she "CAN'T open attachment." (Written exactly like that) The Ex says she only has email on her phone (Now it's in writing - no going back.) but it won't let her "go back that far." (She says nothing about Daughter's tournament - if she's bringing Daughter, if she's leaving Daughter here, if she's forcing Daughter to miss it, etc.)
This redundant texting goes on for a bit, so I'll cover it in another blog.
Finally, 4 days/100 hours after Husband asked about Son getting his ear pierced, The Ex finally replied. (Later found out this was only because Son called her and asked her to give Husband an answer) The Ex texted: "[Son] wants his ear piercing. Honestly I would prefer him not to but he insists. Up to u" (Okay, how hard would that have been to type out in an email? How hard would it have been to send that, oh I don't know, four days ago??) Husband says if she doesn't want Son to have it, then he won't take him; asks again for confirmation about Daughter's tournament because The Ex still has not answered what she's planning on doing.
Half an hour later, The Ex calls and leaves a voicemail:
"Hey. Sorry, it's [The Ex]. I didn't mean to call you this late. (It was just after 9pm. She texted Husband at 11pm the other night.) I was trying to text you and...I'm laying in bed and the dog starts getting all over me, (...who in the actual hell cares about any of this?) and I must have call- pushed your phone number. ("I pushed your phone number.") Or, the number and it dialed you. Um, I guess while I'm talking to you (You're not - you're talking to voicemail.) um, about [Daughter]. No, I won't be able to bring her so yeah, she'll be staying with you. Um, I will be there in [Tournament City], though. You said the game was at 5:30. Um...I, I'm not finding any email that has an attachment of her schedule. (You know what's weird? If I make no attempt to find things, then I can't find them either. When I actually look for them, I have much better success.) I, I only have it on my phone, so if you can get me a copy of that, it'd be appreciated, for Friday. (Daughter had games for a month already. The season was a third over; now The Ex suddenly wants a copy of the schedule.) And as for [Son]. (sighs) I did talk to him about the consequences, you know. (I'm sorry, what? If he doesn't like it, you take the earring out and the hole closes back up. How is there a consequence?) He's stuck with the ear piercings...um, even if he don't like it. (Why? Why would he be "stuck" with it? If he doesn't like it, you're going to force him to leave it in?) And I asked him 'what if this, and what if that.' (I seriously cannot believe she is making such a production out of this. It's. An. EARRING.) I- (sighs) If he wants it and he says he's paying for it, (I have no idea where this came from. Husband and I never told Son that he needed to pay for it himself.) I guess...I mean, gotta make his own decisions. (He's 13 years old. What decisions of his own does he need to make?) You know, um...and learn from his mistakes so...I guess, it- I'm still leaving it up to you. (So it's not a yes and it's not a no. It's a, "If you tell Son no, I will tell him it was your choice so he's mad at you and not at me. If you tell Son yes, I will yell at you because I don't you I didn't want him having it.") I- like I said, I- he wants two (laughs) I- I- I guess let him learn from his mistakes, alright? I will see you on Friday. Bye." (I'm exhausted just reading this again...) We opt not to take Son to get his ear pierced because...I don't know. We just don't want to rock the boat. The Ex said she'd prefer he not have it, then we won't do it.
Fast forward a few months. Son asks again if he can get his ear pierced; we say The Ex doesn't really want him to have one. Son says The Ex told him since that time that he can get it done. We tell Son that Husband will ask The Ex because she has to tell Husband that she's okay with it, not play this game of Telephone with us and the kids. Husband emails The Ex (The court order now reads that emails will be read daily and responded to within 24-48 hours) and says Son told him that she said it was okay, but we'd like to hear it from her before we decide anything.
Three days/seventy-six hours later, The Ex sends a text message to Husband:
"I'm okay with [Son] getting his ear pierced. (Finally, a definitive answer. Great, that only took 5 months.) I've talked with him and he knows the consequence. (What is this "consequence" she keeps referring to? I'm starting to think she doesn't actually know what a consequence it, but it's a big word with more than one syllable so if she says it a lot, then she sounds smart.) Let you know now I will not be paying for anything" (Omfg. We didn't WANT her to pay for anything. This was something we wanted to do for Son because he wanted it. But I suppose, when all you think about is the Almighty Dollar, you've gotta grab every little penny you can get your hands on and cling to it chanting, "My precious...")
Going back quite a few months, Son started asking if he could get his ear pierced. Husband told him that he would talk to The Ex about it and was not going to take Son unless The Ex was okay with it. (Even though The Ex took Daughter to get her ears double-pierced at the age of 7, right before we picked the kids up on a Sunday afternoon; she called last minute and said to pick up the kids at the mall instead of her house, Daughter showed us when she got in the car. No no, we're the stable parents. We like to do things the right way, like make sure both parents are okay with there being an extra hole in the child's head before putting it there.) Husband emailed The Ex and asked what she thought of it.
Two days later, The Ex sends Husband a (long-winded) text at almost 11pm asking for a copy of Daughter's basketball schedule but asked him not to send it by email because she was "having problems with it." (Absolutely no mention of Son's ear.) The next day, Husband replied and said he got a notification that she read his email last night, he emailed her the schedule in November, that he had sent two emails about Daughter's tournament that weekend and asked her to reply to them.
The Ex says she "probably did" read the emails (...what? What do you mean you "probably" read them? Somebody read them; we got a notification saying it had been opened from The Ex's email.) but she "CAN'T open attachment." (Written exactly like that) The Ex says she only has email on her phone (Now it's in writing - no going back.) but it won't let her "go back that far." (She says nothing about Daughter's tournament - if she's bringing Daughter, if she's leaving Daughter here, if she's forcing Daughter to miss it, etc.)
This redundant texting goes on for a bit, so I'll cover it in another blog.
Finally, 4 days/100 hours after Husband asked about Son getting his ear pierced, The Ex finally replied. (Later found out this was only because Son called her and asked her to give Husband an answer) The Ex texted: "[Son] wants his ear piercing. Honestly I would prefer him not to but he insists. Up to u" (Okay, how hard would that have been to type out in an email? How hard would it have been to send that, oh I don't know, four days ago??) Husband says if she doesn't want Son to have it, then he won't take him; asks again for confirmation about Daughter's tournament because The Ex still has not answered what she's planning on doing.
Half an hour later, The Ex calls and leaves a voicemail:
"Hey. Sorry, it's [The Ex]. I didn't mean to call you this late. (It was just after 9pm. She texted Husband at 11pm the other night.) I was trying to text you and...I'm laying in bed and the dog starts getting all over me, (...who in the actual hell cares about any of this?) and I must have call- pushed your phone number. ("I pushed your phone number.") Or, the number and it dialed you. Um, I guess while I'm talking to you (You're not - you're talking to voicemail.) um, about [Daughter]. No, I won't be able to bring her so yeah, she'll be staying with you. Um, I will be there in [Tournament City], though. You said the game was at 5:30. Um...I, I'm not finding any email that has an attachment of her schedule. (You know what's weird? If I make no attempt to find things, then I can't find them either. When I actually look for them, I have much better success.) I, I only have it on my phone, so if you can get me a copy of that, it'd be appreciated, for Friday. (Daughter had games for a month already. The season was a third over; now The Ex suddenly wants a copy of the schedule.) And as for [Son]. (sighs) I did talk to him about the consequences, you know. (I'm sorry, what? If he doesn't like it, you take the earring out and the hole closes back up. How is there a consequence?) He's stuck with the ear piercings...um, even if he don't like it. (Why? Why would he be "stuck" with it? If he doesn't like it, you're going to force him to leave it in?) And I asked him 'what if this, and what if that.' (I seriously cannot believe she is making such a production out of this. It's. An. EARRING.) I- (sighs) If he wants it and he says he's paying for it, (I have no idea where this came from. Husband and I never told Son that he needed to pay for it himself.) I guess...I mean, gotta make his own decisions. (He's 13 years old. What decisions of his own does he need to make?) You know, um...and learn from his mistakes so...I guess, it- I'm still leaving it up to you. (So it's not a yes and it's not a no. It's a, "If you tell Son no, I will tell him it was your choice so he's mad at you and not at me. If you tell Son yes, I will yell at you because I don't you I didn't want him having it.") I- like I said, I- he wants two (laughs) I- I- I guess let him learn from his mistakes, alright? I will see you on Friday. Bye." (I'm exhausted just reading this again...) We opt not to take Son to get his ear pierced because...I don't know. We just don't want to rock the boat. The Ex said she'd prefer he not have it, then we won't do it.
Fast forward a few months. Son asks again if he can get his ear pierced; we say The Ex doesn't really want him to have one. Son says The Ex told him since that time that he can get it done. We tell Son that Husband will ask The Ex because she has to tell Husband that she's okay with it, not play this game of Telephone with us and the kids. Husband emails The Ex (The court order now reads that emails will be read daily and responded to within 24-48 hours) and says Son told him that she said it was okay, but we'd like to hear it from her before we decide anything.
Three days/seventy-six hours later, The Ex sends a text message to Husband:
"I'm okay with [Son] getting his ear pierced. (Finally, a definitive answer. Great, that only took 5 months.) I've talked with him and he knows the consequence. (What is this "consequence" she keeps referring to? I'm starting to think she doesn't actually know what a consequence it, but it's a big word with more than one syllable so if she says it a lot, then she sounds smart.) Let you know now I will not be paying for anything" (Omfg. We didn't WANT her to pay for anything. This was something we wanted to do for Son because he wanted it. But I suppose, when all you think about is the Almighty Dollar, you've gotta grab every little penny you can get your hands on and cling to it chanting, "My precious...")
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