Holiday Crazy has arrived.
Every year when the holidays roll around, The Ex tends to start acting crazier than usual. If you missed my previous post summarizing everything that's happened over the years, you can read it here.
This year, we've already gotten our dose of Thanksgiving Crazy. The Ex made Daughter miss practice, told Husband that Daughter will be missing practices scheduled on "her" time, tried to give the coach a note dismissing Daughter from practices without us knowing about it, told Son that Husband was trying to take Daughter away from them on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and got mad at Daughter for not leaving a game with her. All of these events happened in short 5-day period.
In addition to her own crazy, The Ex had her sister call Husband on Thanksgiving. The first voicemail was left at 8:26pm:
"Hey [Husband], it's [The Ex's sister]. Um, I'm gonna be picking [Daughter] tomorrow around noon-ish, 12:15-ish. (Thanks for the entire 15.5 hour notice.) So, can you just make sure she's ready? (Daughter is fourteen years old and entirely capable of ensuring that she, herself, is ready when she needs to be.) I mean, if you want you, you can give me a call. [XXX-XXX-XXXX]. (Nooo nooo nooo....) And I'll...just meet you at your house to get her. Bye."
Three minutes later:
"Hey, it's [The Ex's sister] again. Uh, we were there yesterday to pick [Daughter] up at 2:30 for our cousin's funeral. (This was the first time we're hearing about Daughter getting picked up on Wednesday.) And nobody was there. (Yes, we have these things called "jobs" that we go to every day. Sounds crazy, right?) Um...so, if we don't hear from you by 10 tomorrow morning, we're assuming it's alright to come get her. (So if Husband calls you back and says no, then you won't come get Daughter? Because that's what you're implying.) So...talk to you later. (No, we will not talk to you later because we have nothing to discuss with you.) Bye"
Right before she hung up, you could hear The Ex in the background say, "He don't have another choice, it's court ordered." Initially, I couldn't understand how or why she had her sister calling Husband about any of this if she was standing right there. Since we've ended verbal communication with her, I'd forgotten that this used to be one of her favorite games - she would have someone else call Husband, he'd answer, and they'd give the phone to The Ex.
Husband sent The Ex an email, addressed the two messages that had been left by her sister, and asked for clarification on where & when Daughter would be getting picked up. Husband stated that The Ex never told him she was coming to pick up Daughter on Wednesday, and said Daughter didn't even know what she was planning because when Daughter said she wanted to stay through the end of the week, The Ex got upset with her and left. Husband said that if The Ex would have communicated her plans, we would have made sure that Daughter was home on Wednesday. Husband reminded her that this is why the order says they're supposed to communicate directly; The Ex tried discussing it with Daughter and then had her sister call him, both of which complicated the situation. Husband asked The Ex to please communicate with him via 2houses like he had previously asked of her.
Just over an hour and a half later, The Ex replied to the email:
"She will be picked up at the school following practice on Friday at 11:30am by [The Ex's sister] and dad"
It would have been entirely less work for every single person involved if The Ex would have just sent this message to begin with. But as we've learned, The Ex just can't do anything the easy way. It later dawned on me that she had an ulterior motive behind the choice to have her sister leave these messages.
The Ex knows that she has repeatedly violated the court order; now Husband has threatened her with court if she continues. She is panicking because a)the court has already found her in contempt once before and she was ordered to pay $100 to Husband in addition to what she already owed, and b)she cannot afford to pay her lawyer for another court hearing at this point in time. In her typical narcissistic projection, she is trying to make it appear that Husband has also violated the order; her stupidity leads her to believe that making vacant allegations against Husband will "scare" him out of asking the court to find her in contempt.
If she's this crazy over Thanksgiving, I'm cringing at the thought of what she's got in store for Christmas...
This year, we've already gotten our dose of Thanksgiving Crazy. The Ex made Daughter miss practice, told Husband that Daughter will be missing practices scheduled on "her" time, tried to give the coach a note dismissing Daughter from practices without us knowing about it, told Son that Husband was trying to take Daughter away from them on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and got mad at Daughter for not leaving a game with her. All of these events happened in short 5-day period.
In addition to her own crazy, The Ex had her sister call Husband on Thanksgiving. The first voicemail was left at 8:26pm:
"Hey [Husband], it's [The Ex's sister]. Um, I'm gonna be picking [Daughter] tomorrow around noon-ish, 12:15-ish. (Thanks for the entire 15.5 hour notice.) So, can you just make sure she's ready? (Daughter is fourteen years old and entirely capable of ensuring that she, herself, is ready when she needs to be.) I mean, if you want you, you can give me a call. [XXX-XXX-XXXX]. (Nooo nooo nooo....) And I'll...just meet you at your house to get her. Bye."
Three minutes later:
"Hey, it's [The Ex's sister] again. Uh, we were there yesterday to pick [Daughter] up at 2:30 for our cousin's funeral. (This was the first time we're hearing about Daughter getting picked up on Wednesday.) And nobody was there. (Yes, we have these things called "jobs" that we go to every day. Sounds crazy, right?) Um...so, if we don't hear from you by 10 tomorrow morning, we're assuming it's alright to come get her. (So if Husband calls you back and says no, then you won't come get Daughter? Because that's what you're implying.) So...talk to you later. (No, we will not talk to you later because we have nothing to discuss with you.) Bye"
Right before she hung up, you could hear The Ex in the background say, "He don't have another choice, it's court ordered." Initially, I couldn't understand how or why she had her sister calling Husband about any of this if she was standing right there. Since we've ended verbal communication with her, I'd forgotten that this used to be one of her favorite games - she would have someone else call Husband, he'd answer, and they'd give the phone to The Ex.
Husband sent The Ex an email, addressed the two messages that had been left by her sister, and asked for clarification on where & when Daughter would be getting picked up. Husband stated that The Ex never told him she was coming to pick up Daughter on Wednesday, and said Daughter didn't even know what she was planning because when Daughter said she wanted to stay through the end of the week, The Ex got upset with her and left. Husband said that if The Ex would have communicated her plans, we would have made sure that Daughter was home on Wednesday. Husband reminded her that this is why the order says they're supposed to communicate directly; The Ex tried discussing it with Daughter and then had her sister call him, both of which complicated the situation. Husband asked The Ex to please communicate with him via 2houses like he had previously asked of her.
Just over an hour and a half later, The Ex replied to the email:
"She will be picked up at the school following practice on Friday at 11:30am by [The Ex's sister] and dad"
It would have been entirely less work for every single person involved if The Ex would have just sent this message to begin with. But as we've learned, The Ex just can't do anything the easy way. It later dawned on me that she had an ulterior motive behind the choice to have her sister leave these messages.
The Ex knows that she has repeatedly violated the court order; now Husband has threatened her with court if she continues. She is panicking because a)the court has already found her in contempt once before and she was ordered to pay $100 to Husband in addition to what she already owed, and b)she cannot afford to pay her lawyer for another court hearing at this point in time. In her typical narcissistic projection, she is trying to make it appear that Husband has also violated the order; her stupidity leads her to believe that making vacant allegations against Husband will "scare" him out of asking the court to find her in contempt.
If she's this crazy over Thanksgiving, I'm cringing at the thought of what she's got in store for Christmas...
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