Parenting is too much work.
After not logging into 2houses for 10 straight days, The Ex decided that she needed something and sent Husband this message on Sunday night:
"Can we please switch the weekend of September 8th with September 15th? Please let me know" (It always makes me giggle when she uses the same words over and over, like she did here.)
Unfortunately for The Ex, we planned a family outing on the weekend of September 15th. I literally made the reservations four days before she sent this email. It was hard enough to schedule and book what we have planned around sports schedules, school, and shared placement. Quite honestly, I don't want to spend the time and energy trying to reschedule the entire thing just to make it more beneficial to a single person who isn't even a part of my family.
Husband replied and said we already have plans, we cannot switch the weekends and said he was sorry.
Fifteen minutes later:
"How about the weekend of October 27th???" (Question marks are not magic; using more of them will not force me to do what you want or bend my schedule to your pleasing.)
Well, it just so happens that we've got something going on the weekend of October 27th as well. Husband replied that he can't switch for that weekend either; The Ex hasn't logged in for the last two days so she hasn't seen his reply yet. Either way, she clearly doesn't want the kids on the weekend of September 8th.
Keeping in mind that The Ex is responsible for transportation during placement exchanges and that it's roughly 180 miles roundtrip, here's the placement schedule from now until the end of October:
August 13th - Drop off for Husband's second summer week
"Can we please switch the weekend of September 8th with September 15th? Please let me know" (It always makes me giggle when she uses the same words over and over, like she did here.)
Unfortunately for The Ex, we planned a family outing on the weekend of September 15th. I literally made the reservations four days before she sent this email. It was hard enough to schedule and book what we have planned around sports schedules, school, and shared placement. Quite honestly, I don't want to spend the time and energy trying to reschedule the entire thing just to make it more beneficial to a single person who isn't even a part of my family.
Husband replied and said we already have plans, we cannot switch the weekends and said he was sorry.
Fifteen minutes later:
"How about the weekend of October 27th???" (Question marks are not magic; using more of them will not force me to do what you want or bend my schedule to your pleasing.)
Well, it just so happens that we've got something going on the weekend of October 27th as well. Husband replied that he can't switch for that weekend either; The Ex hasn't logged in for the last two days so she hasn't seen his reply yet. Either way, she clearly doesn't want the kids on the weekend of September 8th.
Keeping in mind that The Ex is responsible for transportation during placement exchanges and that it's roughly 180 miles roundtrip, here's the placement schedule from now until the end of October:
August 13th - Drop off for Husband's second summer week
August 21st - Pick up for end of second summer week
August 29th - Drop off for beginning of school year
September 1st - Pick up for Labor Day weekend
September 4th - Drop off for Labor Day weekend
September 8th - Pick up for regular weekend
September 22nd - Pick up for regular weekend
September 24th - Drop off for regular weekend
October 6th - Pick up for regular weekend
October 8th - Drop off for regular weekend
October 12th - Pick up for regular weekend
October 15th - Drop off for regular weekend
She and/or her family members are going to drive almost 2,200 miles from now until the end of October solely for the purpose of placement exchanges. It's exhausting, but it's also why she's not paying child support; she agreed to do this.
I couldn't understand why she was so adamant about switching or why she wanted to push her make-up weekend out into the end of October, but then the calendar made sense of everything. Daughter has a volleyball tournament on September 9th, so my assumption which is probably accurate is that The Ex doesn't want to take her; instead of just leaving her here to participate, she wants to switch weekends. The available weekends for switching are: September 15th (Which we've already told her we can't switch), September 29th (Daughter has another tournament this weekend so The Ex didn't bother asking for this weekend), October 20th (She doesn't want this weekend because then she's driving three weekends in a row), October 27th (Almost two months after the fact, but okay) or November 10th (Which is our only weekend in November so we're not switching, even if she asked).
I feel a little bit bad that we're not able to switch but at the same time, she's had Daughter's volleyball calendar since July 11th. If she would have asked earlier about switching, then we wouldn't have made plans and this would be a lot easier for us to switch. But she didn't, and we did, so we can't.
The irony in all of this is that The Ex constantly whines to the kids about not being able to spend time with them. Yet when she's given the opportunity to watch her daughter play in a tournament, she tries her damnedest to get out of having to do so.
She and/or her family members are going to drive almost 2,200 miles from now until the end of October solely for the purpose of placement exchanges. It's exhausting, but it's also why she's not paying child support; she agreed to do this.
I couldn't understand why she was so adamant about switching or why she wanted to push her make-up weekend out into the end of October, but then the calendar made sense of everything. Daughter has a volleyball tournament on September 9th, so my assumption which is probably accurate is that The Ex doesn't want to take her; instead of just leaving her here to participate, she wants to switch weekends. The available weekends for switching are: September 15th (Which we've already told her we can't switch), September 29th (Daughter has another tournament this weekend so The Ex didn't bother asking for this weekend), October 20th (She doesn't want this weekend because then she's driving three weekends in a row), October 27th (Almost two months after the fact, but okay) or November 10th (Which is our only weekend in November so we're not switching, even if she asked).
I feel a little bit bad that we're not able to switch but at the same time, she's had Daughter's volleyball calendar since July 11th. If she would have asked earlier about switching, then we wouldn't have made plans and this would be a lot easier for us to switch. But she didn't, and we did, so we can't.
The irony in all of this is that The Ex constantly whines to the kids about not being able to spend time with them. Yet when she's given the opportunity to watch her daughter play in a tournament, she tries her damnedest to get out of having to do so.
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