New-ish things
So sorry about the lack of updates. The Ex has just been so very quiet.
The Ex and Daughter got into a semi-fight last weekend. She was whining at Daughter about I don't even know what. Something about wanting to see her/spend time with her, blah blah blah. Daughter stood her ground, told The Ex that she gets upset at Son but takes her anger out on Daughter. The Ex denied it. Daughter pointed out how Son was always taking off and spending the entire weekend with Girlfriend (They're dating again, by the way. That's an entirely different blog topic all by itself.) but The Ex doesn't say a word to him; she just gets mad at yells at Daughter when she didn't do anything wrong.
At some point, The Ex brought me up like she always has to. The Ex complained that she feels like Daughter sees me as more of a mom than she does The Ex; Daughter replied that she doesn't even call me "Mom," she calls me by my first name. (For once, The Ex is actually right. Daughter does see me as more of a mom because I act like more of a mom. I come to her games, I get her ready for confirmation/homecoming/prom, I take her out with her friends, I don't yell at her for things that Son does wrong. But we can't say this, because it will fall on deaf ears.)
Apparently Son invited his friends up to The Ex's a few weekends ago; they drove him up there, he disappeared to Girlfriend's house for the whole weekend and left his friends at The Ex's with Daughter. Daughter said he then tried claiming that she was the one who had invited his friends up there (Because that totally makes sense. *eye roll*) One of the same friends had come up over Christmas Break. Son was supposed to go to Ned's parents' house on Christmas Eve; instead, he went to a movie with his friend and Girlfriend. When his friend drove Daughter home the next day, The Ex called Daughter and whined, "Your brother's a prick." (Once again, The Ex is upset with Son but doesn't discuss it with him; she complains to Daughter about it.)
In other news, the state basketball tournament is coming up in less than 2 months. Daughter's team is going as a group like they did last year; Daughter said that she wants to go. (Last year was a complete mess, which you can read about here.) This year, Daughter brought it up again and asked if I wanted to go along because they need more chaperones. I said I could probably go and that I'd look into it. A little while later, Daughter stated very firmly to Husband that she is going to the tournament, regardless of whose weekend it is. The day after she said this, she and I were having a conversation and the tournament was brought up again; she stated again, "I'm going." I said I thought it was on The Ex's weekend. Daughter repeated she wanted to go and said she'd talk to The Ex about it. I reminded her that last year there was an issue with it being on or around The Ex's birthday; Daughter said, "I don't even know when Mom's birthday is. But whatever, it's fine. I'll talk to her. I want to go." Daughter said one of the assistant coaches, who she's close friends with, wasn't sure if she was going because she didn't really want to room with anyone; Daughter said that she had already insisted that her friend was going no matter what. I said that if I went, then the three of us could room together. Daughter said, "Oh, that could work! Yeah, I'll tell her."
Husband emailed The Ex about it, just like he did last year. Husband told me that The Ex is going to be upset when Daughter doesn't go for her birthday and put her on a guilt trip. I said she'll be upset, but she's going to be livid when she finds out that Daughter spent the weekend with me instead. Daughter said that she doesn't want to spend the weekend babysitting her siblings while The Ex goes out for her birthday with Ned, her friends, or whoever else; Daughter wants to enjoy her weekend which means going to the tournament.
I kind of want to feel bad for The Ex, but I just can't.
The Ex and Daughter got into a semi-fight last weekend. She was whining at Daughter about I don't even know what. Something about wanting to see her/spend time with her, blah blah blah. Daughter stood her ground, told The Ex that she gets upset at Son but takes her anger out on Daughter. The Ex denied it. Daughter pointed out how Son was always taking off and spending the entire weekend with Girlfriend (They're dating again, by the way. That's an entirely different blog topic all by itself.) but The Ex doesn't say a word to him; she just gets mad at yells at Daughter when she didn't do anything wrong.
At some point, The Ex brought me up like she always has to. The Ex complained that she feels like Daughter sees me as more of a mom than she does The Ex; Daughter replied that she doesn't even call me "Mom," she calls me by my first name. (For once, The Ex is actually right. Daughter does see me as more of a mom because I act like more of a mom. I come to her games, I get her ready for confirmation/homecoming/prom, I take her out with her friends, I don't yell at her for things that Son does wrong. But we can't say this, because it will fall on deaf ears.)
Apparently Son invited his friends up to The Ex's a few weekends ago; they drove him up there, he disappeared to Girlfriend's house for the whole weekend and left his friends at The Ex's with Daughter. Daughter said he then tried claiming that she was the one who had invited his friends up there (Because that totally makes sense. *eye roll*) One of the same friends had come up over Christmas Break. Son was supposed to go to Ned's parents' house on Christmas Eve; instead, he went to a movie with his friend and Girlfriend. When his friend drove Daughter home the next day, The Ex called Daughter and whined, "Your brother's a prick." (Once again, The Ex is upset with Son but doesn't discuss it with him; she complains to Daughter about it.)
In other news, the state basketball tournament is coming up in less than 2 months. Daughter's team is going as a group like they did last year; Daughter said that she wants to go. (Last year was a complete mess, which you can read about here.) This year, Daughter brought it up again and asked if I wanted to go along because they need more chaperones. I said I could probably go and that I'd look into it. A little while later, Daughter stated very firmly to Husband that she is going to the tournament, regardless of whose weekend it is. The day after she said this, she and I were having a conversation and the tournament was brought up again; she stated again, "I'm going." I said I thought it was on The Ex's weekend. Daughter repeated she wanted to go and said she'd talk to The Ex about it. I reminded her that last year there was an issue with it being on or around The Ex's birthday; Daughter said, "I don't even know when Mom's birthday is. But whatever, it's fine. I'll talk to her. I want to go." Daughter said one of the assistant coaches, who she's close friends with, wasn't sure if she was going because she didn't really want to room with anyone; Daughter said that she had already insisted that her friend was going no matter what. I said that if I went, then the three of us could room together. Daughter said, "Oh, that could work! Yeah, I'll tell her."
Husband emailed The Ex about it, just like he did last year. Husband told me that The Ex is going to be upset when Daughter doesn't go for her birthday and put her on a guilt trip. I said she'll be upset, but she's going to be livid when she finds out that Daughter spent the weekend with me instead. Daughter said that she doesn't want to spend the weekend babysitting her siblings while The Ex goes out for her birthday with Ned, her friends, or whoever else; Daughter wants to enjoy her weekend which means going to the tournament.
I kind of want to feel bad for The Ex, but I just can't.
Oh well. Let her get mad & stay mad. She doesn’t have to know you are going. What you do with your time is your business not hers. If she finds out afterwards, what is she really going to do? It’s her fault that her daughter is growing up and moving on. Should’ve been a better mom. 🤷🏼♀️
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