It's All My Husband's Fault

  Driving home last night, Daughter got a phone call.  She answered it and I could tell that it was The Ex's sister.  They talked for a little while and Daughter said, "Well, he's the one that wants to marry her!"  Daughter continued talking to her aunt and started complaining about Lucifer, how Ned doesn't discipline him, and she agrees with The Ex that Lucifier doesn't learn anything based on what Ned thinks is disciplining his son.   Daughter told her aunt, as she's told us before, that she thinks that The Ex would have been better off without Ned; she said that The Ex has more problems now than she did before Ned was in the picture. ( I don't see how that's possible but then again, I've been aware of The Ex's stupidity for much longer than Daughter has.  It's easy to think that Ned is the reason that everything is falling apart. )  They talked a little longer about some other things and then hung up.   After she was off the phon...

  The other day, I was on the website for Tiny City's school.  I don't remember what I was looking for, it wasn't very important.  I was clicking different links and looking at stuff they had posted.  I clicked the link for registration forms and oh my goodness.   For the last three years, the idiots in Tiny City scan all of their new students' school enrollment paperwork and save it publicly to Google Drive.  As in, anyone can access the students' paperwork.  It's got the kids' names, addresses, parents' phone numbers and emails, doctor and dentist information, whether the kid is riding the bus, etc.  This covers kids from 4K through high school.  If I had a kid in that district, I'd be pretty pissed off that all of their information was available on the Internet like that.  Personally, I don't think it's safe whatsoever.   While I disapprove of how they handle this, the upside is that I was able to get a copy of the paperwork ...

  After Daughter and The Ex had their fight on Friday (I wrote about it here .),  The Ex's sister called Daughter later that night and asked where they were.  Daughter said she didn't know and that she wasn't coming up because The Ex said she didn't want to bring her back for practice so she made plans with her friends, only to have The Ex call and say that she was going to pick her up and have her back in time for practice on Monday.  Daughter said she wasn't cancelling her plans because The Ex kept changing her mind; The Ex's sister replied, "Serves her right."   I don't think that Daughter has talked to The Ex since then.  This morning, The Ex uploaded two pictures to Facebook.  She tagged both of her parents, Son, Daughter, Boyfriend, and Ned in the post and wrote: "Do you remember [The Ex's dog] always jumping into [The Ex's son's] crib and taking his pacifiers? ( Why was the dog jumping into the crib?  You weren't wo...

  Daughter has not kept it a secret that she doesn't care for Ned.  This hasn't stopped The Ex from dating him, moving in with him, and becoming engaged to him.  I've never felt that your kids should run your life, but this isn't the first time this has been a problem.  Son told the guardian ad litem that he didn't want The Ex to marry Boyfriend and that he thought she never should have moved in with him; a year later, The Ex and Boyfriend got married without the kids there.   Sunday afternoon, I'm not sure exactly how it was brought up but Daughter started talking about Ned.  She said that Ned "talks crap about [The Ex] to her."  I looked at her and said, "...excuse me?"  Daughter said yeah, Ned tries talking to Daughter about his and The Ex's relationship.  Daughter said that Ned has even talked crap about The Ex to her own mother.   I asked what Ned tried talking to her about.  Daughter said, "He just says stuff about her....

  The Ex was supposed to have placement on Friday at 5:30pm until Monday at 5:30pm due to the kids having off of school.  The issue is that Daughter had practice on Monday morning, so we weren't sure if she was going on Friday and coming back early, or staying the weekend here.   Thursday night, Son told The Ex that she should just leave Daughter here for the weekend because he didn't want to come back early on Monday.  The Ex replied that Son should tell Daughter she was staying, otherwise The Ex wasn't bringing them home until Monday evening because she had to work.  Son said nothing to anyone about this.   Friday afternoon, we still weren't sure what the plan was, so Daughter said she was going to call The Ex and ask.  The Ex answered; Daughter asked if she was coming home on Sunday evening.  The Ex replied that Son wasn't going to want to come home a day early.  Daughter replied, "Well, [Son] doesn't make the rules.  He's not an ...

  Son has been in counseling since October when The Ex told him/he told his doctor he was "depressed."  He's since been taken off his medication ( He wasn't taking it every day and told multiple people that Girlfriend "makes him feel like he doesn't need it," which isn't how real depression works, but whatever. ) but everyone agreed the counseling would be good, including The Ex.   His counselor talked to me for a bit yesterday and said it's been kind of a slow battle to get Son to accept responsibility for himself.  She said that he has a lot of pent-up anger toward Husband, which I agreed with.  The counselor said that Son was of the impression that he was "taken away from The Ex."  I said yes, because that's what The Ex has been beating into the kids' heads for the last nine years.  The Ex doesn't say that she lost custody, The Ex doesn't say that the kids went to live with Husband; The Ex says that Husband "to...

  The Ex has not logged into 2houses since January 26th.  That makes it thirteen days; she's required by the court order to check her emails daily.   This morning, Husband was lucky enough to get a rambling text AND a voice mail from The Ex.  The long-winded text message came at 7:19am and read: "I know you like to go through two houses for things but since this is tomorrow ( ...what?  "Since this is tomorrow"??? ) I'm texting you and yes I'll probably be calling and leaving a message also and it's not a probably I am. ( "I'll probably be calling...it's not a probably I am."  She's literally arguing with herself in her own text message. ) I have a doctor's appointment that's in [city name] tomorrow at 4 p.m. ( I don't care. ) and Dad will be going to get the kids tomorrow. ( I don't care about this, either. ) He just texted me and would like to know if he can pick them up straight after school ( No, because Daughte...

  This video is a couple of years old; I forgot about it until recently.  We were celebrating a friend's birthday and someone commented about The Ex shoving her kid into a table at his birthday party.  I blurred out the faces and identifying information, and cropped off the end when the kid starts crying.   I think I've told you before that The Ex and her family have a "tradition" of shoving the birthday person's face into their cake.  There's doing this as a joke....aaand, then there's doing it as The Ex did in this video.  Around six seconds, you hear a loud "thud."  I'm still not able to tell if it's the sound of The Ex's son's face hitting the tabletop or his chest slamming into the corner.  Either way, it sounds incredibly painful.   I honestly wish there was some way to require testing prior to one being allowed to become a parent.