"Even though he still does it to this day."
Saturday afternoon, The Ex shared a post that read:
"Let this sink in.
I gave you $10, he gave you $20.
You felt that he was better just because he gave you more.
But he had $200, all I had was $10"
I've seen the post before, I get the meaning behind it. Don't appreciate something because it's "bigger," appreciate the effort that someone makes. It totally makes sense to me and I agree with it.
But holy. Shit.
The Ex couldn't just leave it at that. Oh, heavens no. The Ex not only had to tag Son in the post, but then she turned a life lesson into an attack on Husband's character and behavior. And really, it's almost an attack on Son too.
When she shared the post, she also wrote:
"Something for people to think on... especially for those teenagers ones... My oldest too...[Son first & last name] YES your dad always had more money... This is how it went in your eyes and heart ALWAYS😔 But I never stopped loving you. Even though he still does it to this day"
Soooo....wait. In Son's "heart and eyes ALWAYS" he thought that Husband was better than The Ex? What happened to, "Look how you have pushed our son away," and "You two have shoved our son out," and "Our son has seen for years what the two of you have been doing to me all this time"? When did we flip the script? How did this go from us being terrible human beings and parents to suddenly Son always thought that Husband was better than The Ex was?
And because of money??? We give Son gas money when he comes to visit because it's 180 miles roundtrip and he's got a baby to support. We'll buy stuff for him and Girlfriend and the baby every now and again. I didn't realize that any of this constituted buying affection, but okay...
A few hours later, Girlfriend sent me a screenshot of the post and wrote,
"Oh
My
Fuck"
I told Girlfriend that I didn't think even The Ex herself knew what she was trying to say; was she trying to imply that Husband and I are "buying" Son's love? Girlfriend said yes, that's what The Ex is implying. I said, "Well...shit. I didn't know we had that much money 😂😂😂" Girlfriend said that she untagged Son from the post and said, "That's not happening." Girlfriend asked how The Ex could bash Husband on Facebook and think that's okay to do, and asked, "What is she, 2?" I told her that The Ex doesn't care; she feels justified in everything that she does. Girlfriend said that stuff pisses her off. I told her that The Ex thinks that every single thing Husband has ever done in his entire life is just "to hurt her" and that The Ex loves to play the victim. Girlfriend said she had just said the same thing to Son.
I told Girlfriend the story about winter break 2014 when The Ex insisted she got the kids on Sunday night instead of Monday night, showed up at our house on Sunday when we weren't home, called the police on us, and left Husband a message saying, "You do this to hurt me and I know it." Girlfriend said The Ex is ridiculous. I pointed out that if Husband communicated very clearly what the schedule was, how was it our fault? Girlfriend said it wasn't, The Ex just thinks that she's always right and wants us and the rest of the world to go by her schedule.
We also talked briefly about how The Ex will use her kids to her advantage; I said it was pretty disgusting. Girlfriend said it's horrible and that The Ex would have her youngest child call Son and tell him that he hates him because Son never comes over to their house. Girlfriend said, "She will use anything to get her way."
Girlfriend also said that she wants The Ex to get help; she said she didn't think that The Ex is a "horrible" person but she was messed up in the head and needs help. She said "everyone" wants The Ex to go to therapy. (I don't know who "everyone" is but Daughter has expressed this quite a few times; she's obviously not alone if Girlfriend is repeating it and saying that others feel the same way.) I told her that I agreed; I think therapy would really help, except that The Ex has to be willing to listen to what the therapist says. Which of course, every single person reading this blog knows is not going to happen.
Okay, next post will be about the volleyball tournament and how The Ex and Daughter got into a fight over it.
"Let this sink in.
I gave you $10, he gave you $20.
You felt that he was better just because he gave you more.
But he had $200, all I had was $10"
I've seen the post before, I get the meaning behind it. Don't appreciate something because it's "bigger," appreciate the effort that someone makes. It totally makes sense to me and I agree with it.
But holy. Shit.
The Ex couldn't just leave it at that. Oh, heavens no. The Ex not only had to tag Son in the post, but then she turned a life lesson into an attack on Husband's character and behavior. And really, it's almost an attack on Son too.
When she shared the post, she also wrote:
"Something for people to think on... especially for those teenagers ones... My oldest too...[Son first & last name] YES your dad always had more money... This is how it went in your eyes and heart ALWAYS😔 But I never stopped loving you. Even though he still does it to this day"
Soooo....wait. In Son's "heart and eyes ALWAYS" he thought that Husband was better than The Ex? What happened to, "Look how you have pushed our son away," and "You two have shoved our son out," and "Our son has seen for years what the two of you have been doing to me all this time"? When did we flip the script? How did this go from us being terrible human beings and parents to suddenly Son always thought that Husband was better than The Ex was?
And because of money??? We give Son gas money when he comes to visit because it's 180 miles roundtrip and he's got a baby to support. We'll buy stuff for him and Girlfriend and the baby every now and again. I didn't realize that any of this constituted buying affection, but okay...
A few hours later, Girlfriend sent me a screenshot of the post and wrote,
"Oh
My
Fuck"
I told Girlfriend that I didn't think even The Ex herself knew what she was trying to say; was she trying to imply that Husband and I are "buying" Son's love? Girlfriend said yes, that's what The Ex is implying. I said, "Well...shit. I didn't know we had that much money 😂😂😂" Girlfriend said that she untagged Son from the post and said, "That's not happening." Girlfriend asked how The Ex could bash Husband on Facebook and think that's okay to do, and asked, "What is she, 2?" I told her that The Ex doesn't care; she feels justified in everything that she does. Girlfriend said that stuff pisses her off. I told her that The Ex thinks that every single thing Husband has ever done in his entire life is just "to hurt her" and that The Ex loves to play the victim. Girlfriend said she had just said the same thing to Son.
I told Girlfriend the story about winter break 2014 when The Ex insisted she got the kids on Sunday night instead of Monday night, showed up at our house on Sunday when we weren't home, called the police on us, and left Husband a message saying, "You do this to hurt me and I know it." Girlfriend said The Ex is ridiculous. I pointed out that if Husband communicated very clearly what the schedule was, how was it our fault? Girlfriend said it wasn't, The Ex just thinks that she's always right and wants us and the rest of the world to go by her schedule.
We also talked briefly about how The Ex will use her kids to her advantage; I said it was pretty disgusting. Girlfriend said it's horrible and that The Ex would have her youngest child call Son and tell him that he hates him because Son never comes over to their house. Girlfriend said, "She will use anything to get her way."
Girlfriend also said that she wants The Ex to get help; she said she didn't think that The Ex is a "horrible" person but she was messed up in the head and needs help. She said "everyone" wants The Ex to go to therapy. (I don't know who "everyone" is but Daughter has expressed this quite a few times; she's obviously not alone if Girlfriend is repeating it and saying that others feel the same way.) I told her that I agreed; I think therapy would really help, except that The Ex has to be willing to listen to what the therapist says. Which of course, every single person reading this blog knows is not going to happen.
Okay, next post will be about the volleyball tournament and how The Ex and Daughter got into a fight over it.
She sounds like my husband's ex. We currently have his 16 year old daughter living with us after she couldn't take living with her mom and her emotional and verbal abuse anymore. Nothing is ever her fault and everything my DH does is wrong and manipulative in her eyes.
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