Tattoos.
Husband and I recently made an appointment and got matching tattoos that we've wanted for quite some time. It's a bible verse about marriage and we also included a cross. I absolutely love them, plus it's been at least 15 years since I've gotten a tattoo so I was pretty excited.
Since that's the common topic, Daughter made a comment today about how she and The Ex have talked about getting matching tattoos. She said that she, Son, and The Ex have talked about the 3 of them all getting matching tattoos. Daughter said that Son had agreed on some symbol with a heart and an infinity symbol because The Ex would tell them over the phone that she loved them "eternity times eternity" so that's where the infinity symbol comes into play. Daughter said that she didn't know if she wanted that symbol and she thought it was kind of girly for Son to get; she said she wanted to get a matching one with just The Ex and not with Son.
Now this isn't new information. When Daughter was only 15 and Son was only 17, The Ex was telling both of them that she wanted to go get matching tattoos with them. I emailed Our Attorney about it because our state doesn't allow anyone under the age of 18 to be legally tattooed, period. Not with parental consent, not with emancipation, nothing - if you're not 18, you're not getting tattooed.
She said it a few hours ago and while I already knew about it, it's making me sick to think about. Once again, if The Ex was a good mom then I'd be all for the idea of the kids sharing something with her. But in my opinion, she's not doing it to "bond" with the kids - she's doing it to "brand" them. "See, these are my children! We have matching tattoos because of the bond that we share, and nobody else has this with them except for me!"
I think the fact that it's so permanent is what bothers me. I've said goodbye to plenty of family and friends who I would've bet would always be a part of my life; that turned out to not be the case. And I hate to keep beating a dead horse, but The Ex is so destructive, so hurtful, so selfish...I just can't imagine my kids sharing a tattoo with someone like that.
Anyway...enough speculation and overthinking on my part. I have a happy story to share, so that's coming up next 😁
Since that's the common topic, Daughter made a comment today about how she and The Ex have talked about getting matching tattoos. She said that she, Son, and The Ex have talked about the 3 of them all getting matching tattoos. Daughter said that Son had agreed on some symbol with a heart and an infinity symbol because The Ex would tell them over the phone that she loved them "eternity times eternity" so that's where the infinity symbol comes into play. Daughter said that she didn't know if she wanted that symbol and she thought it was kind of girly for Son to get; she said she wanted to get a matching one with just The Ex and not with Son.
Now this isn't new information. When Daughter was only 15 and Son was only 17, The Ex was telling both of them that she wanted to go get matching tattoos with them. I emailed Our Attorney about it because our state doesn't allow anyone under the age of 18 to be legally tattooed, period. Not with parental consent, not with emancipation, nothing - if you're not 18, you're not getting tattooed.
She said it a few hours ago and while I already knew about it, it's making me sick to think about. Once again, if The Ex was a good mom then I'd be all for the idea of the kids sharing something with her. But in my opinion, she's not doing it to "bond" with the kids - she's doing it to "brand" them. "See, these are my children! We have matching tattoos because of the bond that we share, and nobody else has this with them except for me!"
I think the fact that it's so permanent is what bothers me. I've said goodbye to plenty of family and friends who I would've bet would always be a part of my life; that turned out to not be the case. And I hate to keep beating a dead horse, but The Ex is so destructive, so hurtful, so selfish...I just can't imagine my kids sharing a tattoo with someone like that.
Anyway...enough speculation and overthinking on my part. I have a happy story to share, so that's coming up next 😁
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