It's All My Husband's Fault

  2houses is a pretty darn good website.  The change request option lets you pick the date(s) you're requesting the change be on, which parent you would like to have physical custody on that date, and which kid or kids would be with said parent.  My only complaint about it is that if you're asking to switch weekends, then you need to send two separate requests - the first request indicating which weekend you'd like the kids and the second request indicating which weekend you'd like the other parent to have the kids.  But hey, it's free and we get verification that The Ex read the message.  That alone is worth having to send two messages about the same thing.   Our extended family is making plans for a milestone birthday next month; the party is going to be on The Ex's weekend.  Husband sent a change request asking to switch weekends.  As outlined above, the first request indicated that he'd like to have the kids on the weekend March 13th-15th; t...

  Placement exchange has kind of always been an issue for The Ex.  When she had custody, she'd frequently drop the kids off late; if Husband said anything about it, she'd swear at him and hang up.  Now that we have custody, she always wants to pick them up early or wants Husband to pick them up late.  The Ex never tries to make arrangements in advance; typically she calls when she's half an hour away from our house and asks to pick the kids up early.  Then if Husband wants to pick them up at the same time on Sunday, The Ex acts offended that Husband wants them "early."   For almost a full year now, placement exchange time has been at 5:30pm.  Yes, there is the occasional rearranging of the place or time but Husband typically discusses it beforehand.  Most of the time, the exchanges take place at 5:30pm at the home of the parent ending custody.   Yesterday, Husband drove to New City.  He got there early, like he usually does; he finds...

  I realized last night that if stupidity came in layers, The Ex would be an onion.   For those who are just joining in, Husband had sent a change request to The Ex through 2houses back in November.  2houses sends the other parent an email any time a change or request is made.  I did not realize until last night that the parent sending the request can see a copy of exactly what is sent to the other parent.   These screenshots are identical to what The Ex saw when she opened her email.  I did not know until last night that the email included "Accept" and "Decline" buttons; you simply have to click one or the other, and I assume that the requesting parent would be notified of your choice.   The Ex did not utilize either of the buttons.  Instead, she logged into the website and sent this:   A friend of mine speculated that perhaps The Ex was confused because she didn't know which weekend was supposed to be hers.  I thought th...

  The bottom line is that I like to know things.  I'm even more inclined to know things when they affect my family.  So when we found out that The Ex was cheating on Boyfriend, we naturally wanted to find out more about New Guy.   In the last few weeks I have learned:      New Guy is also married.      New Guy adopted his wife's first child.      New Guy and his wife have another child together.      New Guy and The Ex work together.      The Ex has used New Guy's truck, which is registered in his wife's name, to pick up Son and Daughter from our house.      The Ex is using Daughter as a "middle man" to let New Guy know when Boyfriend is or isn't around, so New Guy knows if he can call The Ex or not.      Both Son and Daughter are completely aware that The Ex is having an affair on Boyfriend.   New Guy is programmed into Daughter's phone und...

  The Ex sent a message on Thursday: "I just wanted to update with you about my insurance. ( "Update with you."  Not "update you" or "give you an update."  I don't know, I think it's weird. ) HR has corrected the errors on the policy. ( Oh, would this be the policy that you repeatedly told me and/or Husband "like a little child" was not your policy?  Except that now it is your policy and there were "errors" on it? ) She doesn't know if I will have another insurance card or not. ( You probably will because none of your dependents were listed on the copy that you gave to Husband, which should have been a good sign to you that you had none of the kids signed up on what was "not your policy." ) About getting [Son] coverage. ( Sig. H. )  I have to fax a copy of his birth certificate as soon as possible. ( She literally said this exact same thing forty-two days ago.  It's still not done?! ) Once they receive i...

  It's now been 50.5 hours since The Ex angrily stated on Monday evening that "enough is enough" and that she would "let us know TOMORROW!?!" ( "Tomorrow" being yesterday/Tuesday. )   We have heard nothing from her.

  To cover all bases before making any accusations, we contacted both the dentist and doctor's offices; we provided The Ex's insurance information and asked them to please verify coverage for both Son and Daughter.  Both offices said that the insurance companies were showing it to be a valid policy under The Ex's name, but they weren't recognizing Son or Daughter as being covered under that policy.   Husband messaged The Ex and said that we contacted the offices, who indicated that the kids were not covered.  Husband said we contacted the customer service number on the back of the card that The Ex had given us, and it was indicating that she was enrolled in an "employee only" policy.  Husband asked why The Ex would lie about this, pointed out she said the deadline to submit Son's birth certificate was 12/27 but her card had been issued on 12/23; he pointed out that The Ex kept asking him for info and blamed him for Son not being covered, when she knew al...

  I am taking some slight satisfaction in the fact that The Ex has officially lied herself into a corner.   The Ex came to Daughter's game on Friday night, walked up to us and gave Husband a copy of her insurance cards. ( Even though she claimed to only have one card, she managed to photocopy both the front and the back of the card at the same time.  Isn't that impressive? )  Husband asked if it was for both kids.  The Ex said no, Son was not covered; she said someone at her work was "checking into it for her" to see if Son could still get covered if The Ex provided the required documents.  Husband said to let him know what they gave her for an answer and thanked her for the card.   I called the customer service number on the back of the dental card and tried to verify coverage for Daughter.  The automated system said it didn't recognize her birth date.  Hmmm....that's weird.  I called the number on the back of the medical card and tried...