It's All My Husband's Fault

  Okay, so after The Ex posted pictures of Daughter's underwear online ( You can read about it here . ), Daughter decided to get some revenge.  Daughter laid a pair of The Ex's underwear on the bathroom counter, took a picture, uploaded it to Facebook, and wrote "Pay back is a bitch aye mom😂 Next time put your panties away😂"  Daughter also tagged The Ex, two of The Ex's sisters, The Ex's mom and dad, The Ex's cousin, The Ex's aunt and Ned.   The commentary that followed was...just weird. The Ex:  [Daughter first and last name]!!!! I wiped my ass with those and you touched them...eeewww ( ....why in the actual hell would you wipe your ass with your underwear?!  The only thing I can figure is that The Ex was trying to hide her embarrassment so she wrote something that sounded funny without actually thinking about what she was saying. ) The Ex:  When you clean your hands get those tire marks out would you ( You just told everyone on the internet th...

  This past weekend, Son and Daughter were supposed to go to The Ex's.  Friday afternoon around 3pm, Son messaged The Ex on Facebook and asked if she could pick him up on Saturday instead.  The Ex didn't answer, so Son called her and they talked for just under 2 minutes.  Son then messaged me and asked if he could drive himself to The Ex's on Saturday and if not, he'd just stay here this weekend. ( We had this conversation four months ago as to why Son would not be taking his vehicle to The Ex's house. You can read it  here . )   Son then messaged her and said he guessed he was staying here.  The Ex then decided that she would reply: "I can't pick you up tomorrow.  I work until 5pm and [Ned] has his party tomorrow. ( Ned and his friend have thrown a joint party for like, fourteen years now.  You can read about last year's party  here and here . ) R u driving up then? ( Uh, no.  You told him that he "didn't need his license," re...

  Again, this post has nothing to do with The Ex but I might have some fun to post about after this weekend.   My reason for this post is that I've had a few people comment that they wished they could talk to me privately, or saying they have questions they wish I could answer. And I totally get it - this blog is anonymous for a reason.   So with that being said, I've created another email just for that purpose. You guys can now reach me at: iamhf.blog@gmail.com   Looking forward to hearing from you! It may take me a little while to get back to you, but please be patient... I'm dealing with a crazy ex-wife ;)

  This has nothing to do with The Ex.   I just wanted to say thank you to all of you who follow my blog, because we know how "it" feels.  Thank you guys for reminding me that as crazy as this all gets, we are not alone. I needed this today and wanted to share with you You are enough.

  I could have told you a long time ago that The Ex is only claiming that Son has depression because it draws more attention to her and she thinks it will convince the court to grant her placement.  However, all of her actions prove that she's not actually concerned at all about Son; if he actually had depression, there's no way he'd be better off with her because she doesn't even pay attention to him right now.   A little over a week ago, Husband emailed The Ex saying that Son told us that she is telling him he is depressed and needs to be on medication.  Husband said that Son is not exhibiting any signs of depression and gave specific examples of how/why; he also said that since The Ex had a concern, he would schedule a doctor's appointment for Son and let her know when it is so that she could attend if she would like.   It took The Ex four days to respond. ( If you honestly thought your kid was depressed, wouldn't you be checking up on them a bit more fre...

  Tuesday night, The Ex uploaded two pictures to Facebook and tagged Daughter in the post.  The first picture was a pair of Daughter's underwear spread out on the counter top. The second picture was The Ex's younger daughter wearing Daughter's underwear as a hair tie for her ponytail. ( I'm not kidding.  This isn't even funny to joke about. )  With the pictures, she wrote: "Well [Daughter first & last name]... I found a new use for your chonies!!! LOL [The Ex's niece] likes wearing your chonies like a headband!!! LOL!!!" ( Absolutely no part of this is funny.  It's gross and weird. )  The following people commented:      The Ex's younger sister:  Ewww I hope those are clean lmao      The Ex's older sister:  Well whatever works! Lol      The Ex:  Might teach her a lesson to put her clothes away!!! Lol      The Ex's younger sister:  Lmao very true I'm so glad ur not my ...

  The Ex filed a motion to modify placement for Son almost 2 weeks ago, alleging that Son is suicidal because he lives here and that Son is trying to get out of a gang that he joined at the high school here.  Forty-eight hours after she filed, she and Ned went on a week-long vacation by themselves.   She made sure to post about her vacation with Ned multiple times over the last week.  The first was on Thursday.  She uploaded two pictures, one of food and one of Ned being his typical douchey self, and wrote: "[Name of restaurant, misspelled] 2x now we've eaten here ( Who the hell cares? ) 1st time we ate Steak Pesto ( Refer to my previous question. ) [Ned's first & last name]...I Love You silly" ( This is just the beginning of her misuse of capitalization. )   Exactly 3 hours later, she uploaded three pictures of Ned on a sailboat and wrote: "My Sweet Love!!! ( Why Does She Type Like This? ) My Captain [Ned]...relaxing on our way back in" ( I do...

  Over the years, we've kept our wallet from getting drained because Our Attorney and I work together on most everything.  In fact, the last time we went to court, I had prepared all of the paperwork, had her review it, made all of the copies, filed the motion, served The Ex and Attorney 4, and submitted proof of service to the court.  Our Attorney actually asked why we even needed her; I said because I'm not licensed by the state to practice law.  So with that being said, I'm relatively familiar with the forms and what needs to be done.   The sheriff showed up at our house at 6am on Wednesday morning to serve Husband with this paperwork that The Ex filed.  It appears that The Ex had Attorney 4 prepare the motion and notarize her signature, and that The Ex filed it herself.  It was only 2 pages long but it's just chock-full of errors that I can't believe she actually gave them money to do this for her.   Page 1 was the notice of her motion and...

  So we found out that The Ex was going to talk to her lawyer about trying to get the kids placed with her again.  Daughter also told me about a week ago that The Ex's parents came over and slept on an air mattress in Ned's living room because their electricity got shut off at their trailer; that means there were 8 or 9 people sleeping in a house that's less than 1,000 square feet.   I found out on Tuesday that The Ex had allegedly enrolled Son in the high school at Tiny City.  I called Our Attorney, who told me to call the school and explain that a)Husband and The Ex share joint legal custody so they both need to consent to the enrollment, b)Husband did not consent to the enrollment, and c)Husband has primary physical placement so Son is already enrolled in the school here because he doesn't live in Tiny City. ( So once again, The Ex is violating the court order.  Surprise. ) I call the school; the secretary looks and says she doesn't see him enrolled but tak...

  Son and I had a really good heart-to-heart conversation a few weeks ago...or so I thought.  He initiated it, and we talked for almost 3 hours, just the two of us.  During the conversation, Son asked if he HAD to finish school here.  I said yes and asked why he was asking; he asked about home schooling.  I asked why he wanted to be home schooled and he said then he could do his schoolwork at The Ex's house since she has wi-fi.   I told him that I'd have to see if we could even enroll him yet and what the cost would be. ( I wasn't actually going to do this but if I gave him a flat out no, then he'd just get upset. )  Son then suggested going to school in Tiny City.  I told him that wasn't an option because the high school at Tiny City is absolutely horrible. ( Our state releases a report card every year on school districts - Tiny City is not even meeting state requirements. )  I asked why he suddenly wanted to go to school in Tiny City, and S...