It's that time of year again.
Daughter's team is making plans to attend the girls' state basketball tournament. Once again, the tournament is on The Ex's weekend and it's right around her birthday. If you need a refresher as to how well The Ex handled this the first time around, click here.
Daughter has already been talking about going to state this year, how she's so incredibly excited, how she can't wait. I asked if there was something happening this year that she was particularly excited about; she said no, she just loves going every year. I asked her if I was also going again this year; she said, "Of course you are!" I laughed and said okay, I just wanted to make sure; I didn't want to assume that I was going and just invite myself. Daughter said no, she was planning on me going with them the whole time.
On January 28th, Husband sent this email with the subject "State basketball tournament":
"[Daughter's] basketball team is attending the state tournament again and she wants to go with them. The tournament is on the weekend of March 9th, which is your weekend. Please let me know which weekend you want to switch."
That's literally e-x-a-c-t-l-y what he sent to her.
The Ex hasn't logged into 2houses for just over three months. The last message she read was when Husband sent her Daughter's basketball schedule and asked when she'd be making a payment toward the kids' medical bills; she has refused to log in since November 3rd, 2018. Husband has sent five messages since then, all of which have been left unopened.
The Sunday night following Husband's email about the tournament, Daughter came home from The Ex's and said that The Ex wants to know "if they can switch for March 1st since state is the weekend after."
You guys, I kind of snapped. I didn't raise my voice, I didn't get angry. But I might have said more than I should have. I told Daughter that first of all, it's not her place to make arrangements for placement; that's something her parents are supposed to talk about. I said second of all, Husband already emailed The Ex about this almost a week prior and The Ex is refusing to read his emails; I said if The Ex wanted to be responsible and act like a parent, then she could communicate with Husband like she was supposed to.
Combine this with The Ex not knowing she's supposed to have Daughter this weekend, and I suddenly don't feel bad for saying what I did. No child should feel like an afterthought to their parent. The Ex wants to make the kids feel bad that she "never sees them" but can't be bothered to put any effort into finding out when she's even supposed to have them.
Daughter has already been talking about going to state this year, how she's so incredibly excited, how she can't wait. I asked if there was something happening this year that she was particularly excited about; she said no, she just loves going every year. I asked her if I was also going again this year; she said, "Of course you are!" I laughed and said okay, I just wanted to make sure; I didn't want to assume that I was going and just invite myself. Daughter said no, she was planning on me going with them the whole time.
On January 28th, Husband sent this email with the subject "State basketball tournament":
"[Daughter's] basketball team is attending the state tournament again and she wants to go with them. The tournament is on the weekend of March 9th, which is your weekend. Please let me know which weekend you want to switch."
That's literally e-x-a-c-t-l-y what he sent to her.
The Ex hasn't logged into 2houses for just over three months. The last message she read was when Husband sent her Daughter's basketball schedule and asked when she'd be making a payment toward the kids' medical bills; she has refused to log in since November 3rd, 2018. Husband has sent five messages since then, all of which have been left unopened.
The Sunday night following Husband's email about the tournament, Daughter came home from The Ex's and said that The Ex wants to know "if they can switch for March 1st since state is the weekend after."
You guys, I kind of snapped. I didn't raise my voice, I didn't get angry. But I might have said more than I should have. I told Daughter that first of all, it's not her place to make arrangements for placement; that's something her parents are supposed to talk about. I said second of all, Husband already emailed The Ex about this almost a week prior and The Ex is refusing to read his emails; I said if The Ex wanted to be responsible and act like a parent, then she could communicate with Husband like she was supposed to.
Combine this with The Ex not knowing she's supposed to have Daughter this weekend, and I suddenly don't feel bad for saying what I did. No child should feel like an afterthought to their parent. The Ex wants to make the kids feel bad that she "never sees them" but can't be bothered to put any effort into finding out when she's even supposed to have them.
The Ex doesn't care. She can't use the kids against Husband anymore. One is grown with a new baby on the way, & the other isn't under her spell. There's no fight to pick so she's not interested.
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