It's All My Husband's Fault

   With today being the end of 2021, I believe/hope/pray that this is the last incident of Holiday Crazy 2021 that we'll have to talk about.   Girlfriend messaged me on Christmas Eve saying she was hurt/upset because she was putting everyone's stockings together when Son walked in and commented that next year, they ought to buy more gifts because The Ex "goes nuts on Christmas and gets a lot of presents."  Girlfriend was upset because she's the one who had gone out shopping and bought everything; she felt like Son was insulting her and/or comparing her to The Ex.  I told Girlfriend that it's all about money with The Ex; I said it's not about what you bought or how much you spent, that's not the reason we have Christmas.  I also told her that Son was probably more comparing himself as a parent to The Ex more than comparing her to The Ex.  I said Son probably feels like he's "failing" because he "didn't do as much as The Ex did....

 She's back at it again, y'all.   Girlfriend messaged me last night super pissed at The Ex because she's starting crap about Christmas.  She sent me a bunch of screenshots of the conversations, told me that The Ex has brought up Christmas Day about 3 different times even though Girlfriend has already told The Ex what their plans were, and now The Ex is using her narcissistic manipulation to turn Son and Girlfriend against each other.   Despite having already previously asked and being provided an answer, The Ex messaged both Son and Girlfriend in a group chat last night.  Here's a transcript:      The Ex:  Can you [Son] and kids be at our house on Saturday at 10:30am      Girlfriend:  Tbh I'm not sure we can try to be but we're also having our Christmas here first ( Girlfriend said that The Ex asked a few months ago and asked again last week; Girlfriend told her both times that she and Son wanted to celebrate with their ki...

   Short blog post, but long enough to increase your disdain for The Ex.   If you haven't read through the events of this year's Holiday Crazy that have already taken place, you can read those here and here .  As if there hasn't already been enough nonsense from her, The Ex has continued on her rampage; we're still 2 1/2 weeks away from Christmas so I'd be shocked if this was the end of it.   After The Ex had told Daughter that she and Ned wanted gifts that were anywhere from $120-200 each, which Daughter told The Ex that she is refusing to buy, Daughter told us the other night that The Ex texted her saying that her youngest son wants a toy for Christmas.  I guess the kid is really into Pacific Rim and there's some character/animal action figure that The Ex said he wants.   I looked it up on Amazon.  The listing says this particular item is for "adult collectors" ( So, it's not really a toy.  It's a collectible action figure and not meant fo...

   Daughter said the other day that when she and Guy will go up to Tiny City, The Ex will go to take a shower but leaves the bathroom door open.  Not just unlocked, but open.  Daughter said that The Ex will then get out of the shower stark-ass naked, while the door is still open, knowing good and full well that Guy is in the house.   Excuse me while I go drink bleach to try and get that image erased from my mind.

  She just.  Doesn't.  Stop.   Daughter decided that she was going to call The Ex on Thursday to wish her a happy Thanksgiving.  Under normal circumstances, this would be a kind gesture that would be appreciated.   But as we all know, this is The Ex that we're talking about.   After they talked for just a few minutes, The Ex asked about Daughter's Christmas present. ( Daughter is buying something that she needs through my place of work; The Ex had said she'd give her money as a Christmas gift that she could use toward it.  We are not telling The Ex that I am connected to where Daughter is buying the items from, because The Ex will be petty and spiteful and will not give her anything toward it simply because I'm affiliated with it. )  The Ex then announced that she "needs wrapping paper" ( Why is that Daughter's problem?  Buy your own wrapping paper, you're an adult. ) and asked when Daughter was coming to visit them.  Daughter ...

   A couple of weeks ago, Daughter told me that The Ex messaged her out of nowhere, asking her if she would take care of The Ex's kids if anything happened to The Ex. ( This happened two years ago.  The Ex and Ned were taking a trip somewhere and The Ex got it into her head that she might die while on the trip.  You can read about it here under the third "September 2019" paragraph. )  Daughter again told The Ex that she would, of course, take care of her siblings.  Daughter then asked The Ex what was wrong.   The Ex launched into a whiny rant about how she was so incredibly sick, she didn't know what was going on, she's never been this sick in her entire life, the doctors were running tests and tested her for COVID again, blah blah blah. ( I don't know if I mentioned it previously but this past January, a whole bunch of them tested positive for COVID - The Ex, Ned, both of The Ex's parents, and I believe at least one or two other family members. ...

   The Ex already started with her Holiday Crazy before we made it to Halloween.  Although technically, Halloween is a holiday sooo...?  I don't know, maybe Halloween has also gotten pulled into her mix of insanity.  Anyway...   About a week before Halloween, The Ex sent a message in their family group chat asking who wanted to host Thanksgiving; she said that she and Ned could do it, but the "small space isn't do able." ( Well for starters, it's spelled "doable."  And if your house is too small then you're not really able to host, are you?  That's like saying, "Would you like to come over so that I can make you coffee?  I don't have any coffee." )   The Ex then went on to say that she's willing to drive to someone else's house for Thanksgiving but Ned works on Friday, so if the dinner is held on Friday then they're not going to come.  Oh, and The Ex said she doesn't want to do it on Sunday, either. ( So in summary: ...

     I am so sorry for the lack of updates.  It's partially due to lack of contact with The Ex now that the kids are over 18; we have not spoken to her in almost a year and it's been amazing.  My silence is also partially due to the fact that my own life (work, kids' school, kids' extracurricular activities, etc) has been so incredibly busy that I have honestly barely even had time to think.  The other day, I said a small prayer of thanks because if I had this much stuff going on in my own life AND I still had to deal with The Ex and her insanity, I truly don't know how far I'd be making it.  But anyway, I'm off-topic.   This blog post is going to be a mishmash of things that have happened over the last month or two.  I'm going to try to keep it all in one post, simply because I'm going to reference back to things and don't want you to have to go looking for what I was originally talking about.  Fair warning: I feel like this post is goi...

   Daughter and Guy did get back together.  I wasn't happy about it, but whatever; it is what it is.  In his defense, Guy has made more of an effort to spend time with Daughter and has been over to our house a number of times.  One of those times was when Son & Girlfriend came down to visit which was...interesting.   You see, Guy has been to The Ex's house in the past so Girlfriend was already somewhat acquainted with him.    I had a whole bunch of stuff typed out detailing the visit and why Girlfriend doesn't like Guy now, but realized that this blog is about The Ex and not anything else.  To make a long story short, everyone - Son, Girlfriend, and Daughter - all agreed that Guy is "completely different" when he goes to The Ex's house vs. when he comes to our house.  Why, I do not know exactly.  Girlfriend and I talked about it briefly and I told her that Guy is sucking up to the wrong parents; The Ex doesn't even know who...

  I blogged previously about how Son's therapist had recommended that he distance himself from The Ex in order to start making progress with his mental health.  This blog post is going to highlight exactly why it's necessary and I truly hope that Son makes the right decision for himself before things get even worse.   Awhile back, The Ex created a group chat on Facebook which included herself, Ned, both of her parents, all three of her sisters, her brother & his wife, Son & Girlfriend, Daughter, her niece, and two of her nephews.  The Ex uses the group chat to announce family gatherings, birthday parties, her kids' extracurricular activities, etc.  Son has left this group chat more than once, the most recent being in February.   Last Monday, The Ex re-added Son to the group chat at 5:57pm and then messaged the group about her youngest son's baseball schedule: "[The Ex's son] plays today at [field name] at 6pm. Field 1" ( No, I'm serious.  She l...

  This might be my longest blog post to date.  Grab yourself a drink and some popcorn, because you'll be here awhile.    Daughter has been seeing someone for over a year now; we'll call him Guy.  I'd really prefer to call him Douche because that's what he is, but anyway...that's not the point of this blog.  This particular post is going to be about Daughter and Guy, and how The Ex is royally f*cking with Daughter's head.   Now truth be told, I do not like Guy.  Daughter had a couple of "boyfriends" in high school and I never had a problem with any of them while she was dating them.  I liked them, had no objections to Daughter spending time with them, and liked seeing her happy.  Guy?  No thank you.  Daughter could be doing so much better, and I'm not even talking physical appearances.   The first problem I have is that Guy is slightly over four years older than Daughter; the two of them started "talking" when she was only ...

   For Husband and myself, life has been amazingly calm since we got our final money from The Ex and we haven't had any contact with her.  The only time she affects us is when she's messing with Son and/or Daughter's minds...I can't help myself, I get angry.  They didn't ask for her to be their mother, and they don't deserve for her to be their mother.   A couple of weeks after The Ex skipped out on Grandson's birthday party, Girlfriend told me that The Ex messaged Son saying that she was throwing a birthday party for her niece & nephew's daughters, and she wanted to know if Son & Girlfriend were going to come.  Girlfriend said that Son pointed out that The Ex wouldn't even come to her own grandson's party, but was now throwing a party for two kids that weren't her grandkids; allegedly The Ex replied, "Wow."  As in, "How dare you even be offended that I missed your son's party but am willing to host a party for two ...

  My last blog post was talking about Son's anxiety over Grandson's party and how he thought that The Ex was going to start a fight and cause a scene.  As it turns out, he had absolutely nothing to worry about.   The Ex didn't come.   Seriously.  She missed her own grandson's birthday party.  Before I get into the party itself, I'll go back a few days because there was a lot of tea that got spilled.  Buckle up, it's gonna be a bumpy ride.   Girlfriend told me on Thursday that they were over at The Ex's and said that The Ex was running her mouth and being petty.  On Friday, she told me that The Ex claimed that Son told her that I was planning on rolling my eyes at her during the party "just to piss her off"; Son looked at her and said, "I have never once said that."  The Ex also told them that she bought presents to give to Granddaughter at the birthday party so that she could "look better than everyone."  Girlfriend then went on...