End of Summer Court
We had tons of things pending. The Ex was trying to get her child support reduced and was asking the court to find Husband in contempt for not bringing Son home that one single night. Husband was asking the court to clarify variable expenses (Because The Ex was refusing to pay for school lunches and because of that B.S. she pulled over Daughter's basketball shoes) and was asking for the sole right to choose extracurricular activities for the kids (Over the last four years, The Ex complained about every single activity the kids took part in; she never wanted to take them, she never wanted to pay for it, she never wanted them to do anything if it was on "her" time. The kids can't even be kids because their mom is too busy trying to spite their father.) Child support had also filed for contempt against The Ex because she wasn't completing work search forms and fell behind on support when she ran out of unemployment benefits.
Because The Ex still refused to give Husband her work schedule, Our Attorney sent a subpoena for The Ex's work information. We found out that The Ex worked every single weekend (This is why The Ex wouldn't tell Husband about her schedule. She has the kids three weekends a month but isn't spending time with them; she just needs a babysitter) We filed a motion asking the court to modify The Ex's weekend placement from three weekends a month to every other weekend.
We get to court; the judge immediately says that a few of these issues are going to be referred to mediation (The extracurricular activities and the weekend placement). Someone brought up the contempt motion filed by The Ex and Our Attorney says Husband was never served. The judge looks at Attorney 4 and she says, "Well...it was only for one day." (Okay, so even you know that your client is a stupid cow. But whatever, as long as she's paying you then I guess you don't care what you file)
Hours later, we get done making the arguments about child support. The Ex says she wasn't trying to lose her job (Bullsh*t, your sister told me by text message that you told her you wanted to get fired on purpose); we argued that she got fired for not showing up to work, so she should not be granted a modification to child support. The Ex maintains that she had to miss work because she was sick or her kids were sick, or she needed to catch up on sleep because of her baby. (So, you have all the exact same problems as the entire rest of the world, yet we all manage to keep our jobs. Astonishing, isn't it?) Our Attorney asks if The Ex looked for a babysitter; The Ex says no, goes into a speech about how you need to be able to trust someone to come into your home and watch your kids and says, "I'm not very trustworthy." (I almost lost it; I almost burst out laughing at her in the middle of the court hearing. The word she was actually looking for was "trusting" but nevertheless, she hit the nail right on the head) The judge takes everything into consideration, takes a recess.
The judge comes back, reads a statute regarding variable expenses: "'Variable costs' means the reasonable costs above basic support costs incurred by or on behalf of a child, including but not limited to, the cost of child care, tuition, a child's special needs and other activities that involve substantial cost." The judge says the court is not going to vary from that definition. (Our court order already included "school costs and fees" as part of variable expenses. The Ex argued so much over the petty things like school lunches, that now she has to pay 33% of the kids' school tuition on top of the school lunches. Glad that worked out for her.)
The judge says he's going to modify support (I was so frustrated by this but reminded myself that God has a reason for everything, so I really tried to not get upset) dating back to June of 2012 when The Ex initially filed for a support modification; support is going from $92.00 per week down to $70 per month (....omfg. I start silently trying to do the math in my head, figuring how many thousands of dollars we're going to have to pay back) The judge then says he's going to modify support again starting in May when The Ex got another job and base it on what The Ex's income is now (This is just going downhill); the judge says he'll use Husband's income from the last hearing (Okay, a little better. Husband had gotten a small raise since then but the judge was willing to use the old financial information). The judge says he's basing support on The Ex working 40 hours a week, even though she's only working 25-30 hours (Again, getting slightly better) and sets child support at $3.00 per month (Honest. We get $3.00 a month for two kids. That's the equivalent of each kid getting a nickel a day. A ridiculous amount but whatever, at least we're not paying her anything)
The judge then says that he's not going to order Husband to repay anything he was overpaid because he feels that The Ex did not bring this to the court in a timely manner and any repayment "would be a detriment to the father." (Okay, this just got a LOT better) Attorney 4 says that once child support is reconciled, The Ex is going to have an overpayment. The judge replies that the court will not require a repayment of the overpayment. Attorney 4 asks if income withholding can be delayed until the reconciliation; the judge says he doesn't know what the reconciliation is going to be. Attorney 4 says that The Ex has an arrearage which will be cleared, then trails off. The judge blinks, repeats again that the court is not going to order Husband to repay any overpayment because this wasn't brought before the court in a timely manner. Attorney 4 mentions that we were supposed to have a hearing in June which got cancelled because Husband had a family emergency (Sorry it inconvenienced you that my mother-in-law was hospitalized out-of-state. We'll ask her not to be so selfish next time) and asks that any overpayment from May be credited to The Ex. The judge states, "There will be no repayment of any overpayment," and repeats what he said earlier about The Ex not handling this in a timely manner (I understand Attorney 4 is looking out for her client, but honestly? The judge has to tell you four times before it sinks in that your client is not getting her money back? How do judges put up with this stupidity?)
The judge then says that he doesn't believe The Ex has been doing an appropriate work search. The judge continued child support's contempt motion until December and ordered The Ex to do a job search of no less than 10 jobs per week until she obtained full-time work at no less than $10.00 an hour (As I write this, the contempt hearing is going to be held in eight days - she still hasn't found a job. She should have applied for over 130 jobs by now, and nothing. I'm actually tempted to take off of work and drive over there just to listen to her excuse for this one)
Because The Ex still refused to give Husband her work schedule, Our Attorney sent a subpoena for The Ex's work information. We found out that The Ex worked every single weekend (This is why The Ex wouldn't tell Husband about her schedule. She has the kids three weekends a month but isn't spending time with them; she just needs a babysitter) We filed a motion asking the court to modify The Ex's weekend placement from three weekends a month to every other weekend.
We get to court; the judge immediately says that a few of these issues are going to be referred to mediation (The extracurricular activities and the weekend placement). Someone brought up the contempt motion filed by The Ex and Our Attorney says Husband was never served. The judge looks at Attorney 4 and she says, "Well...it was only for one day." (Okay, so even you know that your client is a stupid cow. But whatever, as long as she's paying you then I guess you don't care what you file)
Hours later, we get done making the arguments about child support. The Ex says she wasn't trying to lose her job (Bullsh*t, your sister told me by text message that you told her you wanted to get fired on purpose); we argued that she got fired for not showing up to work, so she should not be granted a modification to child support. The Ex maintains that she had to miss work because she was sick or her kids were sick, or she needed to catch up on sleep because of her baby. (So, you have all the exact same problems as the entire rest of the world, yet we all manage to keep our jobs. Astonishing, isn't it?) Our Attorney asks if The Ex looked for a babysitter; The Ex says no, goes into a speech about how you need to be able to trust someone to come into your home and watch your kids and says, "I'm not very trustworthy." (I almost lost it; I almost burst out laughing at her in the middle of the court hearing. The word she was actually looking for was "trusting" but nevertheless, she hit the nail right on the head) The judge takes everything into consideration, takes a recess.
The judge comes back, reads a statute regarding variable expenses: "'Variable costs' means the reasonable costs above basic support costs incurred by or on behalf of a child, including but not limited to, the cost of child care, tuition, a child's special needs and other activities that involve substantial cost." The judge says the court is not going to vary from that definition. (Our court order already included "school costs and fees" as part of variable expenses. The Ex argued so much over the petty things like school lunches, that now she has to pay 33% of the kids' school tuition on top of the school lunches. Glad that worked out for her.)
The judge says he's going to modify support (I was so frustrated by this but reminded myself that God has a reason for everything, so I really tried to not get upset) dating back to June of 2012 when The Ex initially filed for a support modification; support is going from $92.00 per week down to $70 per month (....omfg. I start silently trying to do the math in my head, figuring how many thousands of dollars we're going to have to pay back) The judge then says he's going to modify support again starting in May when The Ex got another job and base it on what The Ex's income is now (This is just going downhill); the judge says he'll use Husband's income from the last hearing (Okay, a little better. Husband had gotten a small raise since then but the judge was willing to use the old financial information). The judge says he's basing support on The Ex working 40 hours a week, even though she's only working 25-30 hours (Again, getting slightly better) and sets child support at $3.00 per month (Honest. We get $3.00 a month for two kids. That's the equivalent of each kid getting a nickel a day. A ridiculous amount but whatever, at least we're not paying her anything)
The judge then says that he's not going to order Husband to repay anything he was overpaid because he feels that The Ex did not bring this to the court in a timely manner and any repayment "would be a detriment to the father." (Okay, this just got a LOT better) Attorney 4 says that once child support is reconciled, The Ex is going to have an overpayment. The judge replies that the court will not require a repayment of the overpayment. Attorney 4 asks if income withholding can be delayed until the reconciliation; the judge says he doesn't know what the reconciliation is going to be. Attorney 4 says that The Ex has an arrearage which will be cleared, then trails off. The judge blinks, repeats again that the court is not going to order Husband to repay any overpayment because this wasn't brought before the court in a timely manner. Attorney 4 mentions that we were supposed to have a hearing in June which got cancelled because Husband had a family emergency (Sorry it inconvenienced you that my mother-in-law was hospitalized out-of-state. We'll ask her not to be so selfish next time) and asks that any overpayment from May be credited to The Ex. The judge states, "There will be no repayment of any overpayment," and repeats what he said earlier about The Ex not handling this in a timely manner (I understand Attorney 4 is looking out for her client, but honestly? The judge has to tell you four times before it sinks in that your client is not getting her money back? How do judges put up with this stupidity?)
The judge then says that he doesn't believe The Ex has been doing an appropriate work search. The judge continued child support's contempt motion until December and ordered The Ex to do a job search of no less than 10 jobs per week until she obtained full-time work at no less than $10.00 an hour (As I write this, the contempt hearing is going to be held in eight days - she still hasn't found a job. She should have applied for over 130 jobs by now, and nothing. I'm actually tempted to take off of work and drive over there just to listen to her excuse for this one)
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