"Switching" Doesn't Mean Switching
The kids asked me on a Monday if they were here for the following weekend or with The Ex. I said they were with The Ex, because she and Husband had switched weekends for the dance. (Remember that whole ordeal? We switched weekends and then lost one of our days for the birthday party which The Ex intentionally switched trying to make things difficult? The following weekend was the weekend they had switched for)
The kids said something about The Ex may not come to get them and if she didn't come, then she wanted a different weekend. (...what?) I told the kids that wasn't how placement worked; their mom got them certain days and their dad got them certain days. If their mom chose not to take them on her days, then that's all there was to it. A few days later, we found out that The Ex told someone that she wasn't going to have the kids the following weekend, but then said she might have them (Okay, I see where this is going. The Ex thinks she can make new rules about placement, leave the schedule open-ended and decide on her own terms when she gets the kids. Absolutely not. There is a court order for a reason, that's what we're sticking to. You said you would switch; that's precisely what you are going to do.)
The Friday of the switched weekend, Husband got out of work, drove to School City, picked the kids up and drove home so they would be there by 5pm for The Ex to pick them up. Around 6pm, The Ex still hadn't shown up. Husband sent her an email around 6:20pm reminding her that they talked on the phone two weeks prior, they had switched weekends, this was her weekend but she had not come for the kids. Husband said he was emailing her because he did not want her later saying he had interfered with or denied her placement.
Three days later, The Ex responds. "I'm sorry you though that we switched for this weekend." (Uh...you did switch for this weekend.) The Ex acknowledged that they talked on the phone about the kids going to the dance and "we did agree if they did miss my weekend I would have a make-up weekend." (That was never once said, by either The Ex or Husband. What they both said, more than once, was "switch weekends.) "Why would you just assume I would make-up that weekend this time. (Is this a question? Because if it is, it's supposed to have a question mark at the end of it.) I was waiting to use one day at Thanksgiving and another day in December." (You said "switch weekends" - you did not say at any point in time that you just wanted two extra days for whenever you choose.) The Ex says she would never intentionally not pick the kids up (Except for the few times when you didn't and blamed it on being sick. Or all the times you sent your parents to do it. Or the times you're half an hour late for no reason) "I am the one that wants to spend more time with them. (Sooo...we do not want to spend time with them? Is that what you're alleging? What a ridiculous statement)
The Ex says Husband emailed her on Saturday at 8:10 (No, he didn't. He emailed you on Friday at 6:20pm. Husband stated that in the email. Going back to older emails, it's apparent that The Ex never set her time zone appropriately in her email and is about six hours off so when she hit "reply" it showed Husband's original message as 12:08am plus ten seconds, which in military time is 00:08:10. I honestly sometimes wish that being stupid hurt...) The Ex asks why, if they agreed, didn't Husband call her at 5:15pm on Friday and ask why she was running late (Because a)you always run late and b)Husband is not your babysitter) The Ex says that if Husband would have called her, she would have dropped what she was doing and would have picked up the kids (Probably not but whatever) The Ex says if she knew she was getting the kids, she wouldn't have signed up to work that weekend (The Ex told someone else a week ago that she had asked for off and if she got it, she was going to pick up the kids. Now she's telling Husband that she signed up for work, which is not at all how her job works. You don't volunteer - they tell you when they need you.) Now The Ex claims that she has "stated to Husband numerous times" that she will not work any weekend that she has Son and Daughter (She never said that) and says, "Since there was no communication about the switch on either end, I am still entitled to a make-up weekend and will let you know in advance as I can which weekend I choose." (Bull. Sh*t)
Husband emails her back and says they did communicate; they said they were switching weekends. Husband says over the last eight years, they always exchange the earliest weekend and have never left weekends open-ended. Husband says this is why they need to communicate by email or text, it's better for both of them when there's a written record of who said what. (Because you lie so much and can never keep your stories straight) Husband said he made the extra trip to get the kids home before 5pm, and The Ex chose not to use her make up weekend.
Husband reminds The Ex that her boss said "very rarely" does someone with The Ex's job position get a full weekend off, that The Ex's paystubs showed she worked almost every weekend, that two weeks ago in meditaion The Ex said she wasn't working any more weekends, and now she was saying she signed up for the weekend (Listening to The Ex is like watching a game of tennis - back and forth, never exactly the same)
Husband tells The Ex that she has never stated to him that she would not work on a weekend that she has Son and Daughter; he reminds her that he kept asking for her work schedule, which Our Attorney finally had to subpoena because The Ex refused to give it to him. Husband asks if The Ex is scheduled to work, will she choose not to exercise her placement? And if she is not going to work, will she provide him with her work schedule in advance? Husband tells The Ex that if there is going to be an argument like this every time they communicate, then maybe they will have to use Our Family Wizard like they discussed in mediation.
That was on November 7th. The Ex has not emailed Husband since then.
The kids said something about The Ex may not come to get them and if she didn't come, then she wanted a different weekend. (...what?) I told the kids that wasn't how placement worked; their mom got them certain days and their dad got them certain days. If their mom chose not to take them on her days, then that's all there was to it. A few days later, we found out that The Ex told someone that she wasn't going to have the kids the following weekend, but then said she might have them (Okay, I see where this is going. The Ex thinks she can make new rules about placement, leave the schedule open-ended and decide on her own terms when she gets the kids. Absolutely not. There is a court order for a reason, that's what we're sticking to. You said you would switch; that's precisely what you are going to do.)
The Friday of the switched weekend, Husband got out of work, drove to School City, picked the kids up and drove home so they would be there by 5pm for The Ex to pick them up. Around 6pm, The Ex still hadn't shown up. Husband sent her an email around 6:20pm reminding her that they talked on the phone two weeks prior, they had switched weekends, this was her weekend but she had not come for the kids. Husband said he was emailing her because he did not want her later saying he had interfered with or denied her placement.
Three days later, The Ex responds. "I'm sorry you though that we switched for this weekend." (Uh...you did switch for this weekend.) The Ex acknowledged that they talked on the phone about the kids going to the dance and "we did agree if they did miss my weekend I would have a make-up weekend." (That was never once said, by either The Ex or Husband. What they both said, more than once, was "switch weekends.) "Why would you just assume I would make-up that weekend this time. (Is this a question? Because if it is, it's supposed to have a question mark at the end of it.) I was waiting to use one day at Thanksgiving and another day in December." (You said "switch weekends" - you did not say at any point in time that you just wanted two extra days for whenever you choose.) The Ex says she would never intentionally not pick the kids up (Except for the few times when you didn't and blamed it on being sick. Or all the times you sent your parents to do it. Or the times you're half an hour late for no reason) "I am the one that wants to spend more time with them. (Sooo...we do not want to spend time with them? Is that what you're alleging? What a ridiculous statement)
The Ex says Husband emailed her on Saturday at 8:10 (No, he didn't. He emailed you on Friday at 6:20pm. Husband stated that in the email. Going back to older emails, it's apparent that The Ex never set her time zone appropriately in her email and is about six hours off so when she hit "reply" it showed Husband's original message as 12:08am plus ten seconds, which in military time is 00:08:10. I honestly sometimes wish that being stupid hurt...) The Ex asks why, if they agreed, didn't Husband call her at 5:15pm on Friday and ask why she was running late (Because a)you always run late and b)Husband is not your babysitter) The Ex says that if Husband would have called her, she would have dropped what she was doing and would have picked up the kids (Probably not but whatever) The Ex says if she knew she was getting the kids, she wouldn't have signed up to work that weekend (The Ex told someone else a week ago that she had asked for off and if she got it, she was going to pick up the kids. Now she's telling Husband that she signed up for work, which is not at all how her job works. You don't volunteer - they tell you when they need you.) Now The Ex claims that she has "stated to Husband numerous times" that she will not work any weekend that she has Son and Daughter (She never said that) and says, "Since there was no communication about the switch on either end, I am still entitled to a make-up weekend and will let you know in advance as I can which weekend I choose." (Bull. Sh*t)
Husband emails her back and says they did communicate; they said they were switching weekends. Husband says over the last eight years, they always exchange the earliest weekend and have never left weekends open-ended. Husband says this is why they need to communicate by email or text, it's better for both of them when there's a written record of who said what. (Because you lie so much and can never keep your stories straight) Husband said he made the extra trip to get the kids home before 5pm, and The Ex chose not to use her make up weekend.
Husband reminds The Ex that her boss said "very rarely" does someone with The Ex's job position get a full weekend off, that The Ex's paystubs showed she worked almost every weekend, that two weeks ago in meditaion The Ex said she wasn't working any more weekends, and now she was saying she signed up for the weekend (Listening to The Ex is like watching a game of tennis - back and forth, never exactly the same)
Husband tells The Ex that she has never stated to him that she would not work on a weekend that she has Son and Daughter; he reminds her that he kept asking for her work schedule, which Our Attorney finally had to subpoena because The Ex refused to give it to him. Husband asks if The Ex is scheduled to work, will she choose not to exercise her placement? And if she is not going to work, will she provide him with her work schedule in advance? Husband tells The Ex that if there is going to be an argument like this every time they communicate, then maybe they will have to use Our Family Wizard like they discussed in mediation.
That was on November 7th. The Ex has not emailed Husband since then.
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