It's All My Husband's Fault

  The Ex is...I don't even know what word to use to describe this.  Holiday Crazy is nothing new, but this one is just plain silly.   Yesterday, Daughter called The Ex to see if she could stay with us this weekend since a friend is having a birthday party.  The Ex said yes, started asking about Son and what was wrong( He had a temper tantrum over the weekend and messaged her, which she didn't respond to. ), and then started talking about her family celebrating Christmas.  I thought I overheard something but wasn't positive until she messaged Son later.  I'm going to share with you some of what she said: "We're doing that elephant gift exchange here at the house ( She means that they're doing "White Elephant" for Christmas this year. ) [The Ex's nephew] is an it only because he's buying his own gift ( I think she was saying her one nephew isn't participating, but somehow wrote "is an it." ) and I told [Daughter] that if yo...

  Daughter told me last night that The Ex's daughter rides the bus with Lucifer, Ned's son.  The Ex's daughter claims that Lucifer says terrible things while they're on the bus together, and that she writes them down on her tablet.  Daughter said that her account is linked to the tablet, so she can see all of the things that are written down.  Since I have access to Daughter's account, I decided to look at these.   In chronological order, these are the things that The Ex's daughter has in her Google Docs: "[Lucifer] said he is the BOES ( I think this is supposed to be "boss."  The "E" is close enough to the "S" on the keyboard, so we'll call it a typo. ) BY [The Ex's daughter's first, middle, and last name] on the BUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! can't BEALEVE it." "[Lucifer] is well might KILL his dada when he is on a honeymoon. He said on the bus. can't bealeve it. BY [The Ex's daughter...

  The Ex finally logged into 2houses on Saturday morning.  She read a message that Husband had sent five days prior about Daughter's practices on the week of Thanksgiving.  She read a message that Husband had sent ten days prior about Son's wisdom teeth and what she was going to owe for the procedure, how she wasn't following the court order about repaying medical bills or reading her messages, and asking if there was a reason she was not following the order; she did not reply.  She did not read the message that Husband sent on November 6th about Daughter's basketball schedule and attached a copy of the schedule, the message he sent on October 26th about Son's counseling, the message he sent on October 10th about Daughter's volleyball, or the message he sent on October 8th when she "wanted to talk to him" about mediation.   Monday morning, The Ex messaged Son asking him if Daughter had a game this Friday and where it was.  Son asked what she was tal...

  Friday evening, The Ex's sister called Daughter to tell her that The Ex was upset.  Daughter asked why; her aunt replied that it was because Daughter didn't call The Ex on Thanksgiving.  Daughter replied, "Well, she didn't call me either.  She has a phone.  It works both ways." ( This child is only fifteen years old, yet she is light-years ahead of her mother when it comes to logical thinking. )   Being the bigger person despite being a child, Daughter still tried to call The Ex so she would quit pouting.  Daughter called twice; no answer.  When she called the third time, The Ex's daughter answered.  Daughter asked where The Ex was and her sister said that their mom was right there. ( The Ex is complaining to her family that Daughter didn't call her.  Then when Daughter tries to call, she intentionally ignores her.  She's such a cow. )  Daughter asks her sister to put The Ex on the phone.   The Ex gets on the phone....

  The Ex still has not logged into 2houses; we're coming up on two straight months of unread messages, unviewed schedules, unpaid medical bills, and unanswered questions. I think she's absolutely livid that Husband refuses to speak with her over the phone, so she's just going to completely ignore him.  It makes sense to her, so I'm sure the courts would agree wholeheartedly. *eye roll*   Earlier today, Ned changed his profile picture to this:   Because nothing says "I love you" quite like cutting off half of your fiancee's face.  Honestly, you can't even see her nose. I don't know what he was thinking.   Worse than that, Ned also updated his cover photo.  It's a picture of The Ex's two youngest kids.  That might be cute, except for the fact that they collectively have 5 kids; based on what the two of them share online, you'd think they only had her two youngest.  The Ex's cover photo used to be a collage she made of hersel...

  The Ex has not logged into 2houses since October 6th, which means she isn't checking her email daily like she is required to do per court order.  The Ex has also not paid anything toward her half of the medical bills for Son or Daughter since November 2016, so she hasn't been following that part of the order either.  The latter is more pertinent to this blog post.   Last night, The Ex posted on Facebook for the first time in almost 2 weeks: "My kids are AMAZING!!! ( Okay, fair enough.  That's a normal claim for any parent to make.  The strange thing is that this entire post had absolutely nothing to do with Son or Daughter; this was all about her two youngest kids with Boyfriend. ) Today [The Ex's daughter] and [The Ex's son] had dental appointments. ( This had nothing to do with her story. ) Afterwards we stopped at [store name] to look @. ( ...to look at what? ) As we walk in there's a tree with paper stars and bells on it with boy/girl and ages...

  This is The Ex's weekend; Son wanted to hang out with his friends tonight so he messaged her.  I don't know if I'm just finding it more funny than it is, but I can't stop laughing at this conversation. Thursday    11:44am - Son: Can I go to a cabin this weekend just for Friday night?    12:17pm - The Ex: As long as u have a ride there and back to mom's on Saturday    12:20pm - Son: How about I go with them there and you come pick me up?                                 Or could I use one of the cars?    12:28pm - The Ex: No to cars. We both work ( Quite ironic that she's going to work on her placement weekend, yet she literally just told the mediator that she wants the kids back on Sundays during the summer because Husband is working on Mondays now. )                             ...

  I forgot to tell you guys about The Ex's son.  She posted two pictures on Facebook, one of him sitting on an exam table with no shirt on ( I don't know how or why, but whatever. ) and one of a tiny rock on a towel.  She wrote: "At Urgent Care with my little man [name]. His side of his jaw has been hurting him and last night he was complaining of his ear hurting.  The doctor couldn't see inside his ear, so they flushed it out with water. Guess what came out???? A little rock??? ( Sooo....a little rock is what came out, or she's not sure? ) Remember [Son first & last name] your incident with your nose and pencil eraser when you were [The Ex's son]s age???? What boys do...( I know plenty of kids that put stuff into their ears and nose.  It's not just boys and it's usually not when they're six years old. ) no wonder my hair is turning white.( Um, because of age and genetics. )"   That in and of itself is relatively boring, until The Ex repli...

  I previously blogged about how The Ex seemingly ignores Son and Daughter's birthdays, but then posts about her two youngest kids' birthdays like it's going out of style.  You can read those here and here .  Now it's time to entertain you with this year's festivities.   Son's birthday -  nothing posted.   Daughter's birthday -  nothing posted.   The Ex's daughter's birthday - they had the birthday party on The Ex's daughter's actual birthday.  The first post had 4 photos; The Ex tagged three people and wrote: "Cake time. [Son first & last name] turned 17 on [birth date]. [Daughter first & last name] turned 15 on [birth date]. [The Ex's daughter first & middle names] turned 9 on the 29th!!! ( Why the sudden excitement? ) Happy Birthday Babies!!!"   The second post was a video almost a minute and a half long, which The Ex tagged eleven people and captioned it, "Pie face went wrong."  The three kids...

  The mediator called me yesterday morning and said she had gotten a hold of The Ex; she said she didn't think there needed to be mediation any longer as there seemed to be an agreement, but The Ex still wanted something changed and she would have to speak to Husband about it.  I asked if she was able to tell me what it was that The Ex wanted to change; she said it wasn't that she couldn't tell me, but I wasn't able to make the decision on Husband's behalf and she needed to speak with him directly. ( The good old mantra of being a stepparent: you have no say over what happens even though it affects you and your household.  I wasn't trying to make a decision for him, anyway.  I was trying to find out what The Ex wanted so I could get a hold of Our Attorney if need be to run the information past her. )   Husband fortunately got out of work early, called the mediator, and then called me.   The Ex told the mediator that Son had told her that he wants to finish...

  Son had been telling people that court was going to be on Friday, October 6th, ( I have no idea where he got that idea from. ) and that he was going to go to court and tell them he wanted to live with The Ex. ( This was said when he was upset about Nice Girl. )   Then Son told a few people, including Nice Girl, that he didn't know what he wanted to do anymore but he couldn't tell The Ex that he didn't want to live with her because it would "break her heart." ( Okay, so this has nothing to do with what Son wants; it's all about what The Ex wants Son to do.  Her manipulation disgusts me. )   Then on Sunday evening, The Ex left her rambling message saying she wanted to talk to Husband and was hoping they could have saved money on mediation fees, but they were going to have to pay money because he's acting like a child. ( She filed a motion with the court, the court ordered mediation, and somehow it's all Husband's fault they have to pay for it. )  H...

  Daughter told me that this past weekend, The Ex made a comment to her along the lines of, "I feel like you're the girl at school who would lose her virginity this year."  She said The Ex also told her that she'd give Daughter $1,000 if she kept her virginity until she was twenty-two years old.   Daughter is fifteen .   I have no idea what the hell is wrong with this woman.

  A little less than a month and half ago, The Ex filed her bogus motion asking the court to modify placement for Son but not for Daughter.  The judge reviewed it and sent it back to mediation.  Mediation is scheduled for Thursday.  A few weeks ago, The Ex was telling Son to talk to Husband and to say that he wants to live with The Ex; Son said he had told Husband and that Husband said he was "going to fight it in court and shit." ( Husband didn't say this.  All he said was that he and The Ex were going to court, which Son already knew. )  The Ex replied, "Seriously.  I'm ready.  Let him bring it on. R u?" ( Okay, so this isn't really about what's best for Son.  It's about you fighting with Husband.  Cool. )   Last night, The Ex and her mom dropped off Son and Daughter; we were at the neighbors' watching football, like we typically do on fall days.  Both of the kids came over and said hi to us, then went back home.  Abou...

  The Ex uploaded this picture to Facebook this afternoon:  She took a selfie with some friends and was laughing.  I covered her face just to keep stride with the anonymity of this blog, but it's not any better without the sticker.   So yeah, that right there is the woman who told Husband almost thirteen years ago that she was going to lose a bunch of weight and he would regret not coming back to her; I think it goes without saying that neither of those things happened.

  After Son's ordeal with Nice Girl this past weekend, ( Read it here if you haven't already. ) he shared a picture on Facebook that reads: "If you're judging someone based on who they used to be, obviously it's you who's stuck in the past."   Son is passive-aggressively stating to Nice Girl that if she doesn't want to date him, then it's her problem because she won't get over who he "used to be."  He fails to realize that he looks like a total idiot because he keeps saying, "I changed" and then does the same dumb ass stuff over and over again.   Of course, because she can't be bothered to check in with her kids on a regular basis and see how they are, The Ex had no idea that this was going on with Nice Girl.  She went on Facebook, saw this post, and commented: "Sooo true. Some people just want to make people look bad when there ( *their ) life has gotten sooo good...mom..."   What she is trying to hint at is ...

  Saturday afternoon, The Ex started texting Daughter asking what she thought was a good name for a male dog.  Daughter said she didn't know, and asked why The Ex was asking.  The Ex replied that she would just have to wait until Friday to see. ( The Ex loves playing this game.  It's not her weekend, so she does something to pique the kids' interest and try to make them want to come to her house right away. )  The Ex then sent a picture of a poodle puppy and asked Daughter if she liked the name "Blaze" for a dog.  Daughter said no.   Sunday night, Daughter called The Ex to ask if she had, in fact, gotten another dog.  ( I say "another dog" because Ned has a dog that's like, fifteen years and is blind; The Ex also has a dog that's five years old.  Additionally, The Ex's parents are still staying there while they "pay down their light bill" and they also have a dog that came from the same litter as The Ex's dog. ) The Ex said yes...

  At the end of last school year, Son liked this girl who we'll call Nice Girl.  Nice Girl was somewhat upfront and told Son that she wasn't interested in a relationship with anyone because she didn't want anything holding her back or keeping her in School City after graduation; she also added, "But that could change."  Son and Nice Girl went to prom with a bunch of friends, they danced together a few times, and Son thought it was going to turn into something.  A few days after prom, Nice Girl more or less friend-zoned him and just reiterated that she wasn't looking for a serious relationship.  Son was sad but he got over it.   Now Son and Nice Girl have been flirting again.  Nice Girl told Son he should come to more of her games because she "usually plays better when there's hot guys there."  Nice Girl asked Son if he wanted to go to homecoming with her and he said yes.  Nice Girl told one of their friends that she wanted Son to ask her in...

  Okay, so after The Ex posted pictures of Daughter's underwear online ( You can read about it here . ), Daughter decided to get some revenge.  Daughter laid a pair of The Ex's underwear on the bathroom counter, took a picture, uploaded it to Facebook, and wrote "Pay back is a bitch aye mom😂 Next time put your panties away😂"  Daughter also tagged The Ex, two of The Ex's sisters, The Ex's mom and dad, The Ex's cousin, The Ex's aunt and Ned.   The commentary that followed was...just weird. The Ex:  [Daughter first and last name]!!!! I wiped my ass with those and you touched them...eeewww ( ....why in the actual hell would you wipe your ass with your underwear?!  The only thing I can figure is that The Ex was trying to hide her embarrassment so she wrote something that sounded funny without actually thinking about what she was saying. ) The Ex:  When you clean your hands get those tire marks out would you ( You just told everyone on the internet th...

  This past weekend, Son and Daughter were supposed to go to The Ex's.  Friday afternoon around 3pm, Son messaged The Ex on Facebook and asked if she could pick him up on Saturday instead.  The Ex didn't answer, so Son called her and they talked for just under 2 minutes.  Son then messaged me and asked if he could drive himself to The Ex's on Saturday and if not, he'd just stay here this weekend. ( We had this conversation four months ago as to why Son would not be taking his vehicle to The Ex's house. You can read it  here . )   Son then messaged her and said he guessed he was staying here.  The Ex then decided that she would reply: "I can't pick you up tomorrow.  I work until 5pm and [Ned] has his party tomorrow. ( Ned and his friend have thrown a joint party for like, fourteen years now.  You can read about last year's party  here and here . ) R u driving up then? ( Uh, no.  You told him that he "didn't need his license," re...

  Again, this post has nothing to do with The Ex but I might have some fun to post about after this weekend.   My reason for this post is that I've had a few people comment that they wished they could talk to me privately, or saying they have questions they wish I could answer. And I totally get it - this blog is anonymous for a reason.   So with that being said, I've created another email just for that purpose. You guys can now reach me at: iamhf.blog@gmail.com   Looking forward to hearing from you! It may take me a little while to get back to you, but please be patient... I'm dealing with a crazy ex-wife ;)

  This has nothing to do with The Ex.   I just wanted to say thank you to all of you who follow my blog, because we know how "it" feels.  Thank you guys for reminding me that as crazy as this all gets, we are not alone. I needed this today and wanted to share with you You are enough.

  I could have told you a long time ago that The Ex is only claiming that Son has depression because it draws more attention to her and she thinks it will convince the court to grant her placement.  However, all of her actions prove that she's not actually concerned at all about Son; if he actually had depression, there's no way he'd be better off with her because she doesn't even pay attention to him right now.   A little over a week ago, Husband emailed The Ex saying that Son told us that she is telling him he is depressed and needs to be on medication.  Husband said that Son is not exhibiting any signs of depression and gave specific examples of how/why; he also said that since The Ex had a concern, he would schedule a doctor's appointment for Son and let her know when it is so that she could attend if she would like.   It took The Ex four days to respond. ( If you honestly thought your kid was depressed, wouldn't you be checking up on them a bit more fre...

  Tuesday night, The Ex uploaded two pictures to Facebook and tagged Daughter in the post.  The first picture was a pair of Daughter's underwear spread out on the counter top. The second picture was The Ex's younger daughter wearing Daughter's underwear as a hair tie for her ponytail. ( I'm not kidding.  This isn't even funny to joke about. )  With the pictures, she wrote: "Well [Daughter first & last name]... I found a new use for your chonies!!! LOL [The Ex's niece] likes wearing your chonies like a headband!!! LOL!!!" ( Absolutely no part of this is funny.  It's gross and weird. )  The following people commented:      The Ex's younger sister:  Ewww I hope those are clean lmao      The Ex's older sister:  Well whatever works! Lol      The Ex:  Might teach her a lesson to put her clothes away!!! Lol      The Ex's younger sister:  Lmao very true I'm so glad ur not my ...

  The Ex filed a motion to modify placement for Son almost 2 weeks ago, alleging that Son is suicidal because he lives here and that Son is trying to get out of a gang that he joined at the high school here.  Forty-eight hours after she filed, she and Ned went on a week-long vacation by themselves.   She made sure to post about her vacation with Ned multiple times over the last week.  The first was on Thursday.  She uploaded two pictures, one of food and one of Ned being his typical douchey self, and wrote: "[Name of restaurant, misspelled] 2x now we've eaten here ( Who the hell cares? ) 1st time we ate Steak Pesto ( Refer to my previous question. ) [Ned's first & last name]...I Love You silly" ( This is just the beginning of her misuse of capitalization. )   Exactly 3 hours later, she uploaded three pictures of Ned on a sailboat and wrote: "My Sweet Love!!! ( Why Does She Type Like This? ) My Captain [Ned]...relaxing on our way back in" ( I do...

  Over the years, we've kept our wallet from getting drained because Our Attorney and I work together on most everything.  In fact, the last time we went to court, I had prepared all of the paperwork, had her review it, made all of the copies, filed the motion, served The Ex and Attorney 4, and submitted proof of service to the court.  Our Attorney actually asked why we even needed her; I said because I'm not licensed by the state to practice law.  So with that being said, I'm relatively familiar with the forms and what needs to be done.   The sheriff showed up at our house at 6am on Wednesday morning to serve Husband with this paperwork that The Ex filed.  It appears that The Ex had Attorney 4 prepare the motion and notarize her signature, and that The Ex filed it herself.  It was only 2 pages long but it's just chock-full of errors that I can't believe she actually gave them money to do this for her.   Page 1 was the notice of her motion and...

  So we found out that The Ex was going to talk to her lawyer about trying to get the kids placed with her again.  Daughter also told me about a week ago that The Ex's parents came over and slept on an air mattress in Ned's living room because their electricity got shut off at their trailer; that means there were 8 or 9 people sleeping in a house that's less than 1,000 square feet.   I found out on Tuesday that The Ex had allegedly enrolled Son in the high school at Tiny City.  I called Our Attorney, who told me to call the school and explain that a)Husband and The Ex share joint legal custody so they both need to consent to the enrollment, b)Husband did not consent to the enrollment, and c)Husband has primary physical placement so Son is already enrolled in the school here because he doesn't live in Tiny City. ( So once again, The Ex is violating the court order.  Surprise. ) I call the school; the secretary looks and says she doesn't see him enrolled but tak...

  Son and I had a really good heart-to-heart conversation a few weeks ago...or so I thought.  He initiated it, and we talked for almost 3 hours, just the two of us.  During the conversation, Son asked if he HAD to finish school here.  I said yes and asked why he was asking; he asked about home schooling.  I asked why he wanted to be home schooled and he said then he could do his schoolwork at The Ex's house since she has wi-fi.   I told him that I'd have to see if we could even enroll him yet and what the cost would be. ( I wasn't actually going to do this but if I gave him a flat out no, then he'd just get upset. )  Son then suggested going to school in Tiny City.  I told him that wasn't an option because the high school at Tiny City is absolutely horrible. ( Our state releases a report card every year on school districts - Tiny City is not even meeting state requirements. )  I asked why he suddenly wanted to go to school in Tiny City, and S...